Terrence Howard is an exceptional actor but his public image is not nearly as favorable. From his highly-publicized eccentricities to his famous rants (he recently revealed he enjoyed love scenes with Oprah because of her “tig ole bitties”), Howard has alienated many fans who once rooted for the “Dead Man Down” actor.

If you let him tell it, his poor perception, at least among black people, revolves around his interracial relationship.

He recently sat down with Hip Hollywood to discuss black people’s crab mentality and their disdain for his marriage to an Asian woman:

“We have a crab mentality where we still pull each other down because of choices that we make, because I choose to marry an Asian woman instead of a Black woman [...]

I think as Black people we have to start helping each other. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say nothing at all.”

Terrence went through an ugly and public divorce during which he alleged his ex-wife used to scream things at him like, “[I] never wanted to marry a n**ger in the first place” and “[I] definitely didn’t want to be the step mother of some n**ger kids.” Though their marriage ended, he seems to still hold resentment for a lack of support from the black community.

Watch video of his interview here:

What do you think of Terrence’s comments, Clutchettes?


  • Kacey

    This is pure BS! Since when did he care about what black people thinks of his relationship?

    This is just a diversion to distract us from recollecting that he abused and stalked his ex-wife for years! That’s the reason why he’s no longer married – because he’s a psychopath! Not because of black people’s supposed lack of support.

    P.S. I’ve always thought he was a creep.

  • PhillyTeri

    Man, this guy has been suffering from diarrhea of the mouth, ever since his new movie broke…and everytime he gives an interview it’s gets stranger and stranger…please Terrence…PLEASE. STOP. TALKING…!!!

  • ArabellaMichaela

    Pardon my French, but “F” him. Howard (and other Black men) is free to marry whomever he wants. But if he chooses to love and support non Black women, why does he expect Black women to support him?

  • lil ray


    So his ex wife calls him a NI**ER and some how that’s black people fault, Terrence is truly mentally ill.

  • chinaza

    The only people who need to support a marriage are the husband and the wife.

  • lil ray

    And you know his comments where aimed at black women not black people, Terrence and Taye are two pea in a pod blaming black women for their short comings.

  • Kacey

    And another thing…I am sooo tired of these black male celebrities, who first gained their fame and fortune from their black female fan base and later achieved comfortable cross-over success, complaining and condemning the same group of people who got them to where the are in the first place! Ahem..Wesley Snipes…*cough* Taye Diggs!

    To them I say this: Date who you want (because you’re going to anyway) but don’t you dare blame black women for ruining your interracial relationships or, in the case of Taye Diggs, for your waning career. Talk about biting the hands that fed you! SMH

  • LemonNLime

    Wait if this is a “crabs in the bucket” thing, wouldn’t that mean he was the crab striving for something better (I’m guessing his non- black wife) and we were dragging him back to our crappy level in “the bucket”?

    So he basically insulted black people even more but he wants my support? AND you only want to be around us lowly crabs if we are financing your career?

    F*** him.

  • http://twitter.com/SeeingBuffers Dawn (@SeeingBuffers)

    I think we are making the mistake of assuming that just because someone is a good actor that they have to be intelligent or sophisticated. It’s often far from the case.

  • http://melodymoose.deviantart.com/ Catpopstar

    Why would marrying outside his race be considered moving up (or in any direction at all)? Its subtle things like this that contribute to the black=bad vibe our culture has.

  • b.

    Something about him always seemed weird, gross/slimy and ‘off’ to me so I never cared for anything he ever had to say anyway. Eeew.

  • The Comment

    Are these men operating with a full deck? Cause I see some potential counseling sessions in the future.

  • The Comment

    OK!!!! Sick and Wrong….Sick and Wrong.

    These black men know these women hate them. But they loved being used by them.

  • http://elizabethcrowder.wordpress.com Elizabeth

    FTR he definitely explained the crab mentality comment by saying he thinks black people keep pulling each other down. We probably don’t need to extend his analogy to include every other comment he made in the interview. He might be crazy, but the fact that a lot of people (black or otherwise) have a serious problem with interracial/cross-cultural relationships is not a figment of his imagination.

  • GlowBelle

    Ugh. He needs to shut the mess up with that swelled head of his. Nobody is doing damage to Terence Howard but Terence Howard, esp. if he keeps these creepy interviews up. Nobody gives a damn about his marriage/divorce and his short-comings, people care about the movies you make and last I checked he’s hasn’t been making hit films…

    While I find Howard a good actor, he is one creepy and self-absorbed man.

  • The Comment

    Ok…dumb fool just told on himself. Why is it all the self-hating blacks get become actors, rappers?????? And who keeps interviewing these fools?

  • AJW

    I often wonder why whites in the public eye with black mates never go out of their way to force the white community to support interracial relationships like blacks in the public eye do.
    Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for the whole love who you love movement. Just don’t ask/demand that I give a f**k about it and/or support it. That is what your Family and friends are for.

  • Kema

    But can’t they at least ‘act’ intelligent or sophisticated? Lol!

  • Chic Noir

    If his wife said those things to him, how is it our fault? Looks like he choose the wrong woman.

  • TajMarie

    I wish some of these brothers like Terrence and Tyrese would seek counseling before spewing their nonsense. Besides, I didn’t even know that he had an interracial relationship before reports of his involvement in domestic violent incidents came to light. However, by then, his career was already tanking and to be quite honest, Don Cheadle did make a more convincing character in Iron Man 2.

  • Akosua

    You nailed it… To use the meme “crabs in a bucket” in the context of interracial dating speaks for itself. That meme is used when people are supposedly jealous of seeing you doing better than them or improving oneself. So he let the cat out of bag. He equates interracial dating with doing better/upgrading. And he wonders why intelligent black women don’t care for him.

  • Chic Noir

    Word… In the case of Taye Diggs maybe it wasn’t his interracial marriage that turned Blk women off but the fact that he’s so short that he needs a step stool to use the toilet.

    He was marketed as a sex symbol for God’s sake.

  • Owlman5678

    Terry I don’t give a hoot about who you married.

  • Chic Noir

    I would divorce a man who chased me around with baby wipes all the time, telling me my coochia ain’t fresh enough too.

    All those those baby wipe detergents and dyes probably had the woman’s “whoha” burning more than a blk girl’s scratched scalp with a super relaxer.

  • Chic Noir

    Speaking of Taye Diggs shortcomings…

  • Chic Noir

    The baby wipes comments did it for me. He’s an overly eccentric thousandaire.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    Because supporting a union where a woman “allegedly” held the notion “that I didn’t want to marry a n*gger or didn’t want to be a stepmother to n*gger kids” should be supported and the reason why it demise was our fault…okay… I remember people gave him the side-eye because he had an interview around the time of his marriage where he started HE was attracted to women “who look like me…” and that’s when some people gave paused and gave him the side eye

  • http://www.canudigitblog.com Marq Diggs

    I never knew people not throwing a parade for you dating interracially is considered a crab mentality. So I suppose since he wanted to date an Asian woman that’s considered a step up from a sista and he’s supposed to get a standing ovation for it. After all, so many other brothas are doing it and getting love right? So why not T? Bruhman needs to go back to plucking on his guitar…he doesn’t have to open his mouth for that.

  • lol


  • Keshia

    Really bro?? I mean really?? Your non black wife calls you a *igga and now it’s black folk fault your marriage didn’t work out. Black men are ass backwards I swear they are. Him and all the other self hating and ego tripping negro men need work it out with Jesus.

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    dear terrence – please hire a PR firm, please….

  • The Artist

    I liked Terrance Howard until he started opening his mouth, he doesn’t seem to be the brightest crayon in the box, as I once imagined. Seriously, some celebrities should just be seen and not heard.

  • apple

    ugh .. why why .. i hate when i love a public figure and then they start talking and mess it up

  • Anon

    He pulled his sub-Saharan African ancestors down by volunteering to further dilute their genetic traits.

    …trying to clap back just because he touched and rubbed against Oprah’s titties. He wouldn’t f@wk, date, marry an “Oprah: and real life, the genetic and physical traits are too prominent for him.

    Crabs – “Pull you down to where?” Your prominent ancestry has already drown within you. How much lower can you be dragged, when you/your predecessors have already volunteered to further bury the aspect of your ancestry that makes you black?

    He’s pullin’ his own self down.

  • Anon

    The plight of prominent sub-Saharan African genetic and physical traits.

    “It’s just like when you’ve got some coffee that’s too black, which means it’s too strong. What do you do? You integrate it with cream, you make it weak. But if you pour too much cream in it, you won’t even know you ever had coffee. It used to be hot, it becomes cool. It used to be strong, it becomes weak. It used to wake you up, now it puts you to sleep.” –Malcolm X

    Who’s pulling who down?

  • b.

    Baby wipes?? Scared to know but too curious not ask: what baby wipe comments??

  • lol

    This coming from the man that called Fantasia a silverback gorilla???

  • Sylvie

    @Chic Noir

    Taye Diggs is a funky looking Kermit. I was more upset that his fabulous wife stooped to marry him. She was the orignial Elphaba in Wicked!

  • Missi

    Terrance ex wife just found a black man with a low self esteem(he has to have low esteem to speak the way he does) and money. When his hustle and flow stopped,she reminded him and EXACTLY what she thought of him and his children and it’s the fault of others. Terrence, take the few thousand you have left and seek intense inpatient counseling because you need it.

    I do not know this man but for some reason, his acting and appearance always gave me a sickening feeling. Now I know why.

  • LemonNLime

    Wait…wasn’t Malcolm X’s mom biracial? He was insulting himself! People need to think before they speak.

  • CCN

    Biracial from imposition – rape. He grew up in an entirely different era and obtain his mixed ancestry via different circumstances. Really, that’s how our mixed ancestry/admixture began with the raping. His family was targeted by racist whites.

    However, later, he changed his views about whites.

  • CCN

    He’s on the list:

    - Hill Harper
    - Michael Ealy
    - D.L. Hughley
    - Kevin Hart
    - Steve Harvey
    - Russel Simmons
    - Young Berg
    - Don Imus
    - Terrence Howard

  • Chic Noir

    *screams and throws self on floor*

    Hill Harper is on the list??? What did he do? I love the thin frail *I look young forever Pharell looking brothers.

    *but not Taye, the brother too arrogant for me.

  • Chic Noir

    @b- it’s from an interview he did with Elle magazine about 4-5 years ago where he went on and on about how it’s a turnoff for a woman to not use baby wipes after she uses the toilet. He keeps baby wipes on top of the toilet and he tells women who don’t use baby wipes”‘ you nasty”.

  • LemonNLime

    @CCN Thanks for the for the clarification, and I mean that in a non-sarcastic way, but it doesn’t change the fact that it is still an insult to both himself and his mother.

  • CCN

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    Bingo! Honestly, now I see how this type of thinking makes some people side eye interracial relationships, not solely because they are against the union of the two people but because of how some people view it and the notions that is perpetuated with it. There are still many people, *insert Terence Howard and the article earlier this week about men going to Brazil* who view dating out as moving up or improving especially when they reach a new social-economic level like a lot of these entertainers/celebrities do. Hence, why discussion concerning this topic is always a controversial and hot button issues because some people don’t want to admit (or sometimes admit to freely…lol) that they view a non-black pairing = good/moving up. And the crazy thing about this thinking is that the person they sometimes pick could be the most un-ideal person for them…*insert Terence Howard’s ex-wife* but as long as they are not black then it is alright and the rest of us are hating/non-supportive/crabs in a barrel.

  • Chic Noir


    What??? Did he really call her a Gorilla?

  • Kay

    Dear Terrence…please take several seats. You are angry because no one is checking for you, dude. Your acting skills need to be polished and moved forward. I don’t even have to remind everyone about how you got quietly replaced by Don Cheadle for Iron Man. So on that note, have a nice cup of STFU and have a nice day. That is all.

  • aaliyah10

    I’m getting a little sick and tired of black men thinking that every black woman CARES who they date and marry. I didn’t blink an eye when he married that Asian woman nor do I know any other black woman who was hating on him. I don’t give a damn nor do I need to support his marriage. Get the hell out of here baby wipes!

  • lea

    ***ahem***brian white too

  • Keshia

    You better speak the truth, him and Taye diggs are too very insecure black men. Taye hates his dark complexion, what does he does marries a white woman who gives him light skin babies smh sad stuff

  • Mikela123

    He’s just weird.

  • nona

    This special snowflake right here…

  • chnyere

    One thing he is right about, black ppl do have a crab mentality, smh

  • Tara

    As someone who is not invested in black men, on any level, other than my wonderful family members, who I love very much, I could care less.

  • Come On

    Exactly. Obviously T. Howard has problems, but I’m more surprised by the people commenting here who think he’s a good actor. This dude is a horrible actor, and he always has a Southern accent no matter what region his character is from.

  • lexie

    you have said the smartest comment i have read so far. you are right most (black) people (especially women) do have a problem when it comes to a black man marrying a non black woman. those men are regarded as self hating men, though i can attest to a few who are seriously self hating. but not every black man who marries a non black woman is self hating. and as for the crab mentality it is very much alive as rasicm and homophobia.

  • The Comment

    OH No!

  • b.

    @Chic Noir: Thanks for the explanation and good laugh. What a silly boy masquerading as a man.

  • Pseudonym

    Terrence Howard has an interracial marriage?

    I didn’t know. and I don’t care.

  • http://gravatar.com/missinformation7 Ms. Information

    He is an arrogant, ego driven men….they often blame others for their own problems….we don’t own movie companies, we don’t have that power….his assholeness translates through the screen to all people, not just black people.

  • Nic

    He needs to have a seat with Taye Diggs who says the same thing. And someone who cried racism over what his white wife called him wants to attack/blame black people?
    Frankly, I think Terrance Howard has an awful speaking voice (like it never changed properly when he was a teenager) so I’m amazed he’s been as successful as he has without having any connections (so for example, Judd Apatow’s wife has an annoying voice but she works b/c he makes 100′s of movies and makes her a star in all of them).
    He says lots of stupid things that do him no favors. If his career is languishing he might want to cure his case of “foot in mouth” disease.

  • Nic

    I know right…funny how they are a-ok with racist white people, esp. the women.
    But yes, let’s blame your issues on black people.

  • Nic

    I feel as if the slang term “busta” so applies to Hill Harper. And hypocrite. Is your list in order?

  • Nic

    If that is true, then why didn’t he marry someone with a really bad relaxer?
    B/c that man sports a perm on the regular, and was doing it way before he was in Hustle and Flow.

  • Ash

    He’s delusional. The blogs that negatively covered his divorce did so because of all the racial things his ex-wife said.

    He reminds me of those men that mention his wife is Asian/White/Latina for attention. Sites like MediaTakeOut cover that stuff, most other Black blogs don’t care! I didn’t even know his wife was Asian nor do I care.

    Some celebrities want the fame and fortune associated with being a movie star yet expect to be immune from all negative press. I think its sad that we live in an age of celebrity worship and I disagree with the level of detail we pry into celebrities life. However, everyone is entitled to their opinion. So get over it, Terrence!!

  • Whatever

    It’s self hate when the person considers dating interracial, “moving up” According to him, when he was moving up with his non black woman, we were trying to pull him back down into the barrel. There are PLENTY of black people that think this way, men and woman. Of course you can find love with someone of a different race, however, if you consider it and upgrade then you are a SELL OUT. You’re not with that person for love, you’re with them solely because of their race….. so Terence, don’t get mad when she divorces you and calls you a Ni**ER. Please, please also don’t expect black people to give a sh*t.

  • http://gravatar.com/deechagirl mypointiz…

    I remember during the whole Red Tails movie debacle where he mentioned that black women were ‘antiquated’ and non-black women were the stuff of the future.

    Hmmm, wonder what happened after all that…his Asian wife calling him every racial thing under the sun.

    and after ALL OF THAT, he decided to blame black women for his poor choices in non-black women.

    I’m laughing at his silly azz and every other self-hating negro who has the gall to down their own. I will not support his movies, shows, or diamond venture he’s currently involved in. He sucks as an actor and a person.

  • http://gravatar.com/deechagirl mypointiz…

    You ‘re so butt-hurt by her comment that it’s quite amusing.

    More black women are starting to feel indifferent towards black men, however all you can do is betch and moan.

    Get yo’ life and keep it movin’.

  • http://ladyngo.blogspot.com Lady Ngo

    I didn’t even know he was married, let alone it was an interracial marriage until the whole she called me the n-word stuff came out. His lack of support, i’d say, is generally because he comes off as a d-bag, not because his wife isn’t one of “us”

  • Come On

    Halle Berry won an Oscar, and she’s pretty mediocre to me. She was horrible in that James Bond movie.

    I have not seen Hustle and Flow, but I’ve seen other stuff with him in it, and his acting was bad. Why does someone have to be angry to think this dude is a bad actor lol?

  • JaeBee

    “his Asian wife calling him every racial thing under the sun.”

    Him AND his children.

  • Marisa

    Terrence Howard slow your roll gym shoes, half the time nobody ever knows when your married and I believe the last time you got married it lasted oh say 8 minutes. During those 8 minutes this lady and you accused each other of domestic abuse, stalking all that, and she also wanted alimony lol. So his marriage was no model for anybody to follow or to hate on. Same type of crap Taye Diggs spouted publicly blaming black women for his show before Private Practice being canceled because he is married to his white Rent co-star Idina Menzel.

    Which is funny because he’s been on Private Practice for years and his on screen love interest is a white woman, and he’s still married to Idina so this alleged power black women have to ruin one show he had but, not the other. Also this power has yet to get US starring in mass on the big networks besides Kerry Washington. Taye also left out how the FEDS arrested a white supremist for sending threatening letters to him, Idina and other interracial couples were the guy is black. Must be a Best Man thing I guess lol, considering what Terrence claims the racist things his wife said how is public opinion more the issue than her, priorities all messed I tell ya.

  • Overseas_Honeybee

    @aaliyah10 … Baby wipes!!! ROFL.
    Yes and amen. Boy bye.

  • Come On

    Terrance Howard was not even in that many scenes of Iron Man. He was hardly part of the movie bringing in all the money it did. Howard was a supporting actor that was in probably fewer scenes than Gwyneth Paltrow. Articles have reported that the director was not happy with his performance. Favreau probably saw the same thing I saw. Then, Cheadle is in Iron Man 2 with a bigger role.

    Terrance doesn’t get paid like Will or Denzel because he doesn’t bring in the money like those two. You can’t compare the money they bring in for movies like I-Robot and Book of Eli where they were the leads to the money brought in from Iron Man when he was only a supporting actor.

    Howard doesn’t make big blockbusters that earn lots of money. Studios that want to make money don’t care about Oscar buzz as much as box office earning potential. If Lindsay Lohan could pack the theaters, they would choose her over Oscar winning Jennifer Lawrence any day and pay her accordingly.

  • http://elizabethcrowder.wordpress.com Elizabeth

    Thanks! I didn’t think my contribution was negative or alienating although clearly people didn’t love what I had to say. Just trying to add a little perspective. :)

  • Tonia

    Please dish….what did Hill Harper do?

  • Gell0h0h

    Whoa. Terrence Howard is still relevant? Oh right… I’ll pass.

  • CCN

    A lot of people have a problem with white hegemony, sub-Saharan African blood quantum dilution, genocide, and social/cultural engineering.

  • dianna

    Give me a break! He needs to remember how his last wife threw him under a bus and called him all sorts of names. If anyone is dragging anybody done it is him!!

  • Tonia

    I had to look up if Terrance Howard said this because I think no one in his right mind could say such foolishness. I was wrong…he’s a jackass plain and simple.

  • Anon

    There is no ‘helping each other’ when the agenda is to breed out the traits – which can be done (ex. Queen Elizabeth). That doesn’t help US out not one bit.

    I do not want to collaborate with you if you only promote a certain narrow range of people, be it professionally or in your personal choices. Your personal biases do matter in the over all picture.

  • Please Excuse Me

    Terrence Howard isn’t relevant and needs to have several seats. No one is hating or is jealous of your relationships. I only remember him when a movie starring him is out. He isn’t Denzel, even Chris Brown is more famous than him. please shut up and move on with life.

  • Chic Noir


    If you don’t mind my asking, why would you call a dark-skinned Blk woman a silver back gorilla?

  • Debratante

    What’s his deal? One minute he’s saying what he considers complimentary remarks about a black woman and the next thing out of his mouth is that black folks have a crab mentality. The irony of this is that he ultimately married a woman who berated and debased him and his kids, based on race. I bet if he’d married a black woman with a supposed “crab” mentality, he wouldn’t have been blasted by an ex-wife spewing racist sentiments toward him. Frankly, I don’t care who he marries and anybody who makes generalized and negative statements about black folks is delusional in my book. Men like him who try to connect their opinions about black folks to their own interracial marriages are weak! Black women love strong black men, not weak ones like this. He’s a non-mf-ing factor.

  • Anon

    WE have already been ‘collaborating’ with people having those same underlying agendas, presently and historically, and look at where it’s gotten us.

  • Joy

    I have no idea why (some) people are trippin’ on who Terrence, or
    Taye marries. Bottomline is the chances of them marrying someone on this thread is slim, and none. So what difference does it matter who they marry? Love is hard to come by…..by any measure..Besides…..who on this thread wants us, to decide who they marry? No one. We (all) date, and marry who we like

  • Joan

    Terrance needs to stop worrying about what other black people think and focus on figuring out why he makes such poor relationship choices. His love life is like something out of a Tyler Perry film. He has some serious interpersonal issues that need to be resolved with professional help.

  • http://gravatar.com/tellmesumtingood TajMarie

    Exactly!! — especially these celebrities. Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy a good movie and have my favorites in terms of musical artists. However, I do not live vicariously through any celebrity and could care less about what they do through their day-to-day lives unless it affects me. So, marry or have a relationship with whomever you choose.However, when your ship start sinking in terms of your career, don’t project your own self-hate onto me. Besides, he can learn a thing or two from Denzel. Denzel brings in the big bucks but still considers himself a working actor — not a celebrity. Therefore, if Terrence would put more energy in perfecting his craft and keeping his mouth shut, he could have more roles and less instances of putting his foot in his mouth.

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  • http://gravatar.com/ceecollegegal CeeCee

    Howard has always been a mediocre actor in my opinion; he acts the same way in every movie. His facial expression is the same for when he is happy, sad, angry, and anxious. Whenever I see Terrence Howard in a trailer I know that I won’t be going to see the movie. He claims that he was booted out of Iron Man 2 because of money, but I believe it was because people were tired of that pitiful look he would project into the camera.

    It is clear that he has mental issues…I mean, many of his problems have been due to his crazy ex-wife, but instead he blames black people. Black people have nothing to do with his ex-wife calling his children n*gg***.

    His ex-wife was smart, she new that he was a dumb negro with a low self-esteem; she stayed with him for a few years, pretended to like him and took him to the cleaners. Typical nigbauchery.

  • Sandy

    What list?

  • Sandy

    People can marry whoever they want to marry. And I can spend money on actors and athletes I want to see. There’s no law anywhere that says I have to go see a Terrance Howard just because he’s black so I can keep my black money in my black pocket. He has disdain for black women? OK. I’m not mad at him. I’ll simply spend my resources elsewhere. Same thing with expensive designer clothes and music. These men don’t have to like us and we don’t have to patronize them.

  • EbonyLolita

    If Black women weren’t in your mindframe when you married OTHER why are we in your mindframe now Terrence?! Chile please that interview in itself is a form of crab inna barrel!!! Do not use US as a reason to why your ASIAN, WHITE wives left YOU! We were never part of your relationships so continue to keep us out of it. See this is why I don’t have any respect for him & BM that think like him. Once again use the BW as a reason why you can’t get it right. *Kissteeth*

  • Treece

    I definitely think that when it comes to interracial marriages and dating, to each his/her own. If you feel like you can be open to it, or that you find people of other races attractive, go for it. I just think that it’s sad when you make that choice because of racial self-hatred for those of your OWN race. Like men who say “I don’t date Black women because they are all overweight and too aggressive” or women who say “I don’t like Black men because they are all cheaters and don’t know how to treat women”. That type of thinking makes me angry because it’s based on stupid stereotypes….I don’t know if that’s how Terrance Howard thinks, but if he does, he deserves the type of woman that would say those nasty things to him.

    Having said all that, Terrance Howard is kinda right about the whole crabs in a barrel comment. We DO tend to be harder on each other about certain issues (IR dating, what we choose to do with our hair, clothing choices, career and education choices, etc.). We are very judgmental towards each other. That doesn’t mean that I have to AGREE with everything you do. But, like the old saying goes, if you can’t say anything nice (productive/constructive, helpful, encouraging….) don’t say anything at all. Just keep your mouth shut, mind your business, and keep your thoughts to yourself unless someone asks you for your opinion.

  • Misty_Moonsilver

    ROFL is this the same one that he got a restraining order against? Haha!

  • simplyme

    all of this <3

  • http://gravatar.com/pinklipstick227 pinklipstick227

    @SMH Why would you make a dehumanizing remark about Fantasia. You cannot fight ignorance with ignorance.

  • noir45

    Treece, I’m a black woman and I’m all for supporting my people, but I WILL NOT support every black person simply because we are the same ethnicity. I don’t support IR relationships; I support strong black families and black men and women who stick together.

    Does that mean that I am against those who truly love a person of another race? No. Whatever floats their boat, but I would never align myself with anyone who doesn’t support me as a black woman, regardless of what race you are even if you look like me.

    Boys like TH are dead to me. I hate sell-outs with a passion. For those who cheer IR relationships and choose to go into them, more power to you, but if my lack of support, especially for the Terrence Howard’s of the world mean that I’m a “crab in a barrel,” then snap goes my claw.

    Why should we support men like him who publicly demean us. No other race of man, except the TH’s of the world do that. Doesn’t that make you question their psyche.

    Every IR relationship isn’t about love, but hatred for the one they see in the mirror. For that, I will be a crab in a barrel.

  • Luci

    Well, I didn’t even know he’d been married to a non-black woman. I don’t like Senor Babywipes because he comes across as extremely creepy and self-centered.

  • KGA25

    Who the f#ck cares about Terrence Howard? He also blamed the director of Iron Man for “ruining” his career.

  • chnyere

    yea, the truth hurts (s.n. I am not supporting anything else he says)

  • Anon

    I don’t support the idea of claiming black identity and black unity while breeding out prominent black genetic traits. Don’t the line, if that’s promoted as it with interracial mating and procreating, we won’t even be recognizable as having the traits are ancestors had that had white people distinguishing them as black in the first place.

    I am sick of this stealth white hegemony through the acceptance of non indigenous sub-Saharan phenotypes as black, and embracing further or sustained dilution of those traits within the black race.

    I am not supporting that anymore, because when you speak of collaborating with ‘all included’ for economic empowerment, the white social influence is still there to trivialize things, especially when multiracial identified people are involved – whether or not they are open or stealth about their loyalties.

    Also, didn’t he state that black women were antiquated in another interview? So, no matter what black women state, we’re all ‘down there’ to him.

    These two comments:

    “Wait if this is a “crabs in the bucket” thing, wouldn’t that mean he was the crab striving for something better (I’m guessing his non- black wife) and we were dragging him back to our crappy level in “the bucket”?

    So he basically insulted black people even more but he wants my support? AND you only want to be around us lowly crabs if we are financing your career?”

    “You nailed it… To use the meme “crabs in a bucket” in the context of interracial dating speaks for itself. That meme is used when people are supposedly jealous of seeing you doing better than them or improving oneself. So he let the cat out of bag. He equates interracial dating with doing better/upgrading. And he wonders why intelligent black women don’t care for him.”

  • The Other Jess

    Terrence “baby wipes” Hoe-ward is an idiot. Over-n-out.

  • Treece

    @ noir45

    Like I said, nobody said you had to cheer people on who do things or live lifestyles you don’t AGREE with……however, I find that people tend to be very outspoken (especially when it comes to celebs) about things that are none of their business. I am not claiming to be the biggest fan of TH, but who dates and marries is his business and for people to go on twitter, other social media, radio, (whatever) and rip him a new one because he dates/marries women who are not Black is unecessary and more importantly is not going to change HIS views of dating outside his race. He knows full well how upset it makes Black women and frankly doesn’t care.

    My point is this, why waste your breath (and your nerves) getting all heated whenever a Black man dates/marries outside the race?? All the negativity and verbal venom he probably gets is just adding fuel to the fire of hatred he probably has for Black women anyway and to hell with him.

    My point about the “crabs in a barrel” statement was somewhat separate from the IR dating/marriage issue, and I still stand by it. Nobody says you have to be cheerleader for all things Black or all Black people. If I don’t agree with what you do, I’ll just keep my deconstructive, negative comments to myself and only speak on it if I have something CONSTRUCTIVE or HELPFUL to say.

  • Perspective

    Once again I see black women don’t know why they are not valued at the collective level by black men.

    “Black women are not valued because black men are not trying to build or maintain a community that they lead and control” That would require a patriarchal structure that black women DO NOT collectively want.

    Also, I find that black women pretend not to care about IR but attack every brother not with a black woman.

    Many young women chose to follow these men because u thought they were good looking and had crushes on them.

    They married out and many sistas got mad and turned nasty before anything was sad by any of these guys.

    It just adds to the insecurity that the white media tries to promote to create more division in the black community and bitterness in black women.

    All the black celebs with black women – and this is what you focus on – taking your cues from white media. Smh

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Lillian Mae

    I think someone failed to read the attached article…

  • Perspective


    “I don’t date Black women because they are all overweight and too aggressive” or women who say “I don’t like Black men because they are all cheaters and don’t know how to treat women”

    these statements are true when you have a broken community.

    Men who aren’t trying to build or maintain anything in their own communities have no REASON to stick to one woman. They are sperm donors, basically.

    Black women will become fat and aggressive – when they are NOT taking care of and provided for with a traditional patriarchal structure THAT THEY DON’T WANT – because they see it ass oppressive to women.

    Stupidly, they still want all the perks and benefits provided for women when men are in a superior position to women, socially, and economically – WHICH KEEPS THE BUILDING AND MAINTAING GOING – but with black men in a more SUBORDINATE POSITION.

    Sorry ladies, that is simply not going to happen.

  • http://gravatar.com/dginki Kim

    well, what Black people did he pull up? You can’t expect to receive what you don’t give. Also, it is not my job to support an entertainer simply because I’m Black and they are Black. With that logic I should be able to say that he should marry a Black woman because he is Black. He has no reason to expect anything from me. If you give your time, love, money and protection to nonblack women, why would you not expect support from them as opposse to me? This is really starting to get silly with some of us.

  • LemonNLime

    Fetishism? Please save it with the liberal arts education lingo.

  • http://gravatar.com/dginki Kim

    Seek counseling, please. I can tell you are a little boy who has created a fantasy world for himself. Hate to break it to you, but many of you Black men not only devalue Black women on a collective level, but truly devalue other Black men collectively. Some of you will take another Black man’s life in a nanosecond and think nothing of it. Once again, please seek therapy.

  • BOSS

    What we have here is a situation where a man chose to marry a woman, who is not the same race as he, and for the most part no one said a thing about it. Now that the relationship hasn’t worked and he finds out how she really feels about “his’ people he thinks we should have a march on washington. He didn’t want to hear from us when he married this woman but now because he’s hurting he wants us to “Say it Loud”. This has nothing to do with blackwoman hating his relationship, as a matter of fact his comments weren’t about black woman but about black PEOPLE. Guess what Mr. Howard life is hard and things happen to people everyday, I’m sure this woman did not all of a suddent become some1 else after you married her. The signs where there from the beginning you just chose not to pay them any attention. Black people don’t have a a problem with having your back when we feel you need it but this is just a case of you making a poor choice in mates. NOT because of her race but because of YOUR issues. JMO

  • JJ

    Most of us didn’t even know Terrence was married to an Asian. I know I certainly didn’t and honestly don’t really care, so how was he attacked when no one even knew. He’s always been annoying and has a perm. I trust no man who wears a relaxer. Black women have never gone crazy over him. It’s so funny how these black men who supposedly don’t like black women are always talking about us. No one was paying this man any mind and here he goes making controversial comments for attention. I feel bad for non black women who date these black men many of them come with a slew issues. You are right about one thing the media does have black women looking like we aren’t desirable to anyone when in reality we are desirable to black men and men of other races.

  • NOitAll

    Black people didn’t get his behind kicked off of Iron Man 2. His oversized ego and big mouth did that.

  • Come On

    Don’t waste your keystrokes. This guy would find a way to make a black woman doing a cartwheel about us refusing to bow down to the awesomeness of patriarchy.

  • http://fitblackchic.blogspot.com Lynaya

    1. I had no idea he was married to an Asian….and I never cared.
    2. Of all the issues in the world and within the Black community, THIS is what he chose to focus on?
    3. What black people were going off about his wife? I missed that in my Stuff-We-Mad-About Black Women’s newsletter.
    4. Terrence needs to have several seats faster than you can say “it’s hard out here for a pimp”

  • eshowoman

    Malcolm X’s mother never considered herself biracial, the term did not exist. She was mixed through generation after generation of forced concubinage, just like my grandmother was on the same island. She, like tens of thousands of black women had no fathers.At the most they were called half caste, and no matter how light the were still legally, economically and psychologically black.

  • Come On

    No. I didn’t miss that part. I simply think he didn’t deserve what he got in the first place, and why should Terrance Howard be rewarded for his subpar acting and tiny part in this movie? Just because the movie made lots of money and they can afford to do so? If they didn’t want to pay a black man big bucks, I don’t think they would have offered him that much money in the first place.

    So, it had to do with them wanting to lower his salary. Understandable. He was in few scenes, and they were not so hot. He refused because he thought he was worthy of 6 million dollars even though he was probably only in thirty minutes of video. He was arrogant, cocky, and is now complaining about every little thing in his life like saying Iron Man ruined his career. Bwah. That’s funny.

    Everything I’ve said is relevant. You seem to think that because this man was nominated for an Oscar in one movie and had thirty minutes in a blockbuster, he has earned 6 million dollars. He got arrogant and cocky after that Oscar nom., and he does nothing but complain to the media about everything. Iron Man ruined his career he says. How? The man got offered more money than any other actor in that movie because of his Oscar nomination. HE underperformed. They found better talent and replaced him. Happens all the time in show business.

  • http://www.facebook.com/leeza.lockett Leeza Paris Lockett

    “Stuff-We-Mad-About Black Women’s Newsletter”

  • http://bit.ly/YeXiV6 Ann

    He’s an ass! He chose a white chick and was surprised she called him a “N”, THEN, want to blame US for not backing him? NO. BRO! That was your decision and you reaped the pleasure and arrogance of your choice, but when it doesn’t work out all of a sudden WE should back him?

    These brothers are something else. They don’t like us, show us contempt, then blame us for not having their backs when things go south. That’s nerve and narcissitic believing,


  • http://bit.ly/YeXiV6 Ann

    REally! I don’t give him a thought…how about you? He is trying to make something out of ether. A crab mentality? Trying to make news. Whose trying to pull him down? He’s delusional.

    I resent him for trying to use us to create news, because he chose to turn his back on the black community except when it serves a purpose to his career. He doesn’t have anything to do with us. His choice. Live with it and leave us alone.

  • Perspective

    Does not even dignify a response.

    I notice that black women never respond to what you actually say. They just DIVE in with their ranting, thinking they actually said something.

  • nettrice

    I went to college with Terrence Howard and he was dating white women back then. He flaunted it and it was a joke between us. He used to introduce me as the person who introduced him “black pride”. Then he would laugh and give me a hug. I never judged him for who he dated because I accepted his choice to do whatever he wanted to do. Considering what he went through growing up and who he is now I think we need to understand him, not vilify him (except for the domestic violence part which is a no-no).

  • http://bit.ly/YeXiV6 Ann

    Poor thing just realized that he’s not Idris Elba; fine and all kinds of dark chocolate and ever so manly.

    Terrence is a fool, because we love Seal and Heidi, Robin and Paula. Terrence doesn’t get that possibly people just don’t like him.

  • http://www.dawnthescreenwriter.com ScriptTease

    I won’t be watching because I’m tired of watching violent sh!t starring black people. Terrance is an idiot, and other race of women can have is pudgy a$$. I wasn’t a fan of him in Sparks, and I’m not a fan of him now. If people want to date outside their races…. I don’t care… but what pisses me off is when you hear people (mainly black men) say they date outside their race because they don’t find their own attractive… Or they date outside their race other than love…. ignorance like that pisses me off to the highest point of pistivity, and I have no tolerance for N’words like him.

  • http://gravatar.com/dginki Kim

    If you went to college with him then I am a little older than you both. Who you or anyone dates is your right as a human being, but we live in a context. For anyone who has chosen a nonblack partner to assume that Black people should automatically support them because they are Black are foolish. The same way Black was not important to him in choosing a mate, Black should not be important to him in who supports his work. You can not have it both ways. Anyone with character and integrety would realize that. He needs to just move on and live his life. He has a beautiful daughter and grandchild. He needs to love them and concentrate on them and leave everyone else alone.

  • Blue

    Crabs in the barrel mentality? Nah playa…It’s statements like that that make the rest of us not want to support you. I have no problem with interracial dating. I do have a problem when you secretly down play your race so therefore you don’t want to have anything to do with them.

  • KC


  • Kiki

    A lot of black women don’t like Terrence not because of his dating choices. It is because he sees like a crybaby and a jerk.

  • Quelqu'un

    Lol, get off yo’self, Mr. Howard. People don’t care about you and whoever you decided to marry that much.

  • Misty

    Who knows.

  • mr.fierce

    as opposed to bw boycotting red tails, because of what reason again.

  • Sojourner’s Truth

    Women do not like him because he hits women in a violent way.

  • Sojourner’s Truth

    Sure you right. LMAO

  • http://gravatar.com/dginki Kim

    Black women are not required to see any movie. I don’t get the mentality that bm can do as they please, but bw have an obligation to support bm.

  • The Other Jess

    Terrence Howard is an ass-wipe. The only person “pulling him down” is himself, with his no-talent azz. As usual, another Black man just can’t be secure in his interracial relationship on his own without tearing down Black women. Funny that i don’t see Black women in interracial relationships b*tchin and moaning about Black men. janet jackson is doing her thing and didn’t have anything to say about Black men. Terrence and black men like him need to get over themselves. And Clutch needs to stop wasting cyberspace with articles on them.

  • http://google Margie

    For some reason, black people like Terrence Howard still has that ‘plantation-slave’ mentality. I don’t think black women are hating on him because of is Asian wife.

  • http://google Margie

    It seems that it’s always easier to blame the ills of the world on black people. It seems that black people are responsible for every ‘bad’ thing that happens in society. i.e. President Obama’s reelection (all the black folks voted for him), the decay of big cities (for example, Detroit), the national decificit (welfare/food stamps) and on and on. And then, black women have to get blamed for Terrence Howard’s problems of self-hate (because he is black). I guess black women will gets the blame for his ex-wife divorcing him too. I just don’t know how black people, and, especially black women can carry such a heavy load on their black.

  • http://gravatar.com/theequeenbee1 theequeenbee1

    I agree with Terrance. I also agree with ANYONE that goes through this and has the courage to speak on it. My grandmother and several of my cousins married white and I don’t see anything wrong with it if the parties are happy! I support Terrance and his wife and hope they have long wedded BLISS!

  • hierogryph

    he should just marry a white man. all problems solved.

  • Z

    “You nailed it… To use the meme “crabs in a bucket” in the context of interracial dating speaks for itself. That meme is used when people are supposedly jealous of seeing you doing better than them or improving oneself. So he let the cat out of bag. He equates interracial dating with doing better/upgrading. And he wonders why intelligent black women don’t care for him.” <<< THIS!!! That was my immediate thought when I read his comment.

  • Z

    And completely missed the point altogether.

  • http://gravatar.com/dginki Kim

    And yet you just had to come to this site filled with “crabs in a barrel” per you and TH. Both of you are dead weight to an already beleaguered community. You two are the actual crabs. People like you have nothing good for Black folk, never will and don’t care that you don’t. SMDH.

  • http://gravatar.com/theequeenbee1 theequeenbee1

    FORTUNATELY, I have very HIGH SELF ESTEEM and won’t react or respond to immaturity. HOWEVER, I will say that comment is EXACTLY what I’m talking about :) thanks for proving my point !

  • Penelope

    Terrence Howard, this black woman right here doesn’t care anything about you or your relationship choices. I mean, my God, how arrogant can people get? Why the f— does he think we care so much about who he’s with? He’s the one with the crabs. Get a clue, Terrence Howard. Him and all the other black men complaining about black women who don’t support them because of their “other” wives/girlfriends should collectively hold hands and jump off a cliff. I don’t care about his choices, but when he brings us-black women-into it, as if his choice is somehow better, it pisses me off.

  • Penelope

    Lexie and Elizabeth should both come into the 21st century. Most of my black friends I have are dating white and other men. Why would they care at all about who black men are dating or marrying? This is becoming more and more of a ridiculous stereotype every day. Have you looked at our love interests on tv lately? For the longest time black women remained loyal to black men to a fault. We, black women, are and have been exploring our options openly and unashamedly for a while now. I do find it funny though that some other women will side eye me when they are with their black man out of paranoia. I don’t care. Do you! I’m doing me, do you! The worst encounter I experienced was from some black men shouting at me when I was walking down the street with a male white friend. I’d never in my life known such behavior and he and I were only friends. Black men care way more than any black woman that I know when we are not with one of them (especially if you are an attractive black woman). I have a black male friend right now who if he hears I’m out with someone has to say “I hope he’s black.” Now wtf is that?

  • Lily

    Ummm, is this wife of his the same wife he claims called him the N-word?

    I think Terrence Howard is a strange, dazed, and confused man.

  • MommieDearest

    Terrance needs to stop giving interviews. Immediately. That is all.

  • leelah

    jasmin sullivan’s character was cut from the film during the editing process. Also its implied that black women weren’t present despite the fact that there was several black women who served as support staff, secretaries and nurses.—but the most offensive aspect of the whole red tails debate is the idea that black films can’t and won’t get made without a big time white director and a few strategically placed white characters. Note that white man that they plopped right in the middle of that film while you’re complaining about black women not supporting this movie because of a white woman starting in this film.

  • texaschainsawlovin’

    I’m in an interracial relationship. Been together for 8 years might get married. Might not. We don’t really think about that. No black people (especially women) don’t really give a shit Terrence if you are dating a white women. What we don’t like is you blaming us with your own projecting problems. Another issues is that you still think you are a celebrity with credibility of your “craft”. Guess what you are a crap actor that got lucky. Plus you are a crap person with a crap personality.

    I have met you before while you were on a date with someone at a PR company I worked at. You dismissed me with no Good Afternoon or even a Hello and yet when the woman who you were going on a date arrived (white by the way). You brightened like the freaking sun was in the room. You face a lot of self-hatred, I get it. You’re conflicted. Which a lot of celebrities go through. I let you in on a little secret. We as black woman don’t give a flying hoot about you or who you date. Because we don’t really think about you.

  • everythingl

    Sorry, but you are conflating “issues with interracial relationships” with “throwing sistas under the bus when you’re with your white woman.” I’ve actually dated outside my race. My stepmother is white. That’s not the issue here. The issue is when a black man can’t be with a non-black woman without tearing down black women. Sorry you got so confused by this.

  • everythingl

    It’s almost as if they’ll do anything to avoid placing blame on themselves or their non-black partners for the failures of their careers and relationships. Even though black women are often their primary paying audience (How Stella Got Her Groove Back, anybody?) As always, we are a convenient scapegoat for their personal failures.

  • everythingl

    Do you think that you aren’t displaying anger? You think that your faux “rationality” hides your deep-seated contempt for black women?

    I also notice how whenever someone presents an argument you can’t refute, you accuse them of not making sense. It’s cheap and lazy. And it is so transparent. You seem like an angry man who attempts to disguise your free-floating rage with smug retorts. You think sarcasm masks rage. It doesn’t. Trust me, you HAVE to be angry to come to a space geared to black women and try to prove to us how “messed up” we are. Plus, all trolls are self-loathing. That’s a fact.

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  • noir45


    First of all, who said black women were blasting him for marrying outside his race? Just because he said it, you believe it? Did you see posts from black women blasting him?

    The majority of black women don’t care about TH and who he’s with, so your statement about why he probably is angry at black women is an EXCUSE. I don’t care about TH, what he does, or who he f*cks, so lose me with all that nonsense you are spewing.

    I’m sick of people thinking that all black woman are “angry” at who black men date. We are not. Just because I may not support miscegenation doesn’t mean I let black men have it for contributing to it. Quit making assumptions.

    I am against boys like TH who use black women as excuses, and black women who cosign with his nonsense. How you can’t be is quit typical of many black women who are used to being criticized. The boy, TH, came out a black woman’s vagina. This is why many black women are seen as weak because many of us are always supporting men who don’t support us. I do get heated when a supposed BLACK MAN is blasting black women in the ground, but sadly, it appears you don’t see a problem with it. It’s really pitiful, to say the least, but that’s on you.

    You are entitled to hail TH as your hero, but I won’t.

  • Teresa

    Terrence, they can have your abusive self, we have enough….

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  • Mettamom

    Terrence Howard needs to get help for his self hate that allowed him to marry a woman of any race that called him the “n” word. He also needs to stop projecting his self hate onto black women. Most black women neither think about him nor are concerned about who he dates and marries. He also needs to deal with his anger problem that caused him to beat his ex wife. For the record, I’m black and am in a relationship with a white man. I appreciate men of all colors. I don’t need to tear down black men just because right now I’m dating a white one. Love doesn’t have a color.

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