Black Women Who Stay Blonde

by Kweli I. Wright

Black Girls Who Stay Blonde
Not everyone can pull off blonde hair. From honey-tinged to golden butter to platinum, which is the color Nicki Minaj just started rocking (yay or nay, Clutchettes?), there’s a rainbow of hues in the blonde family. Whether you are considering going blonde for a season or a lifetime, there are plenty of way to change up your ‘do. Take a look at our gallery for some inspiration from our favorite blonde celebrities.

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    i’m waiting for somebody to say that blonde hair doesn’t make them look any less african…..in 1, 2, 3

  • BettiePAge

    emile sande makes a beautiful blond

  • Ms. Vee

    The title should be “black girls (and quasi ‘black’ girls) who stay blonde and straight”. Not a single Afro or dreadlock in sight. But hey I’m also waiting for someone to say that they aren’t trying to look white -_-

  • talaktochoba

    if you’re not a natural blonde or from Sweden, you’re simply advertising your own low self-esteem looking foolish as if you narrowed your nose or jelled your boobs so you no longer look like Olive Oil but Aunt Peg;

    why try look like Gwyneth Paltrow…does she have surgery to spread her nostrils or tease her hair into naps just to make some kind of statement?

    and she’s not even the most beautiful white woman in the world!

  • antisocialengineering

    actually, the stark contrast of blonde wig on black face does indeed accentuate the Africaness. Which defeats the whole purpose of it. LMAO!

  • http://gravatar.com/blaque217 blaque217

    I don’t like it, but hey, there are people who don’t like the fact that some of us relax our hair and/or wear hair extensions.
    People can do what they want with their hair, but they need to be mindful that others will always have an opinion about it.

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    I’m not so sure the white folks agree with you there:

    http://www.reuters.com/article/2013/04/24/entertainment-us-gwynethpaltrow-idUSBRE93N11520130424

    I guess beauty is subjective as hell, cause in my hometown, she would be considered very substandard.

  • The Moon in the Sky

    Why are these women being referred to as girls when they are clearly over the age of 18?

  • http://www.clutchmagazine.com Clutch

    Did not mean any harm or disrespect. We have changed now – do not want to make this into a issue.

  • JS

    It might not make them look inherently African but it doesn’t mean they are all “trying to be white.” Not saying all aren’t as I get that it is a cultural problem for us, but damn give us a break. Every other race can plump up lips, butts, and tan their skin till it wrinkles or gets cancer without “trying to be black.” Then please give us Blacks a break. While Blonde hair doesn’t work for everyone, it does look good and work for these ladies pictured. I’m really sick of the whole “you have to look this way, or act that way to be considered Black” and any other way you are “trying to be white.” *rolls eyes*

  • http://gravatar.com/missinformation7 Ms. Information

    We call each other “girl” all the time….lol….people are way too sensitive.

  • Cali

    I’m a Black woman, I dye my hair blonde. My self esteem (in regards to beauty) is fine & I have zero desire to be/look White. I simply wanted to do something different to my hair – I love it, looks good on my locs. Sorry, but that “low self esteem/don’t wanna be Black” theory doesn’t apply to everyone who picks up a box of dye! However, if the shopping cart also contains contacts, bleaching cream & an appointment w/ a plastic surgeon, I agree there’s a host of problems! Loosen up, people – it doesn’t look good on everyone BUT some folks can rock blonde & still be exactly who they are.

  • http://thebrokejetsetter.com Becca

    Emile’s color <3 <3 <3

  • Bree

    Some of them look beautiful and still very much like black women with their hair colored blonde. I am not a supporter of dying your hair blonde, but I say live and let live. Whether we wear our hair coily, straight, blonde or shave it bald, someone will always feel the need to tell us what we should do with our hair. No one can tell me what to do with the hair that grows from MY scalp. That is all.

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    “low self esteem/don’t wanna be Black” theory doesn’t apply to everyone who picks up a box of dye!”

    denial is a river in Egypt….

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    just curious, why the exception for hair but not contacts and skin color? Can’t some people just want to rock blue eyes or light skin & still be exactly who they are?

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    “there are people who don’t like the fact that some of us relax our hair and/or wear hair extensions”

    sad that black women feel the need to look like white women….when we ARE the most attractive.

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    I think it’s “denial isn’t just a river in Egypt”

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    “Can’t some people just want to rock blue eyes or light skin & still be exactly who they are?”

    this statement is logically inconsistent. how can you want to change yourself and yet be exactly as you are?

  • http://gravatar.com/missinformation7 Ms. Information

    Tell that to some of your bretheren who ridicule black women who do not have perms. The ones who prefer “red bones”… wigs and extentions have been worn since Cleopatra…Im about fixing what is in someones heart and mind first.

  • JS

    @ MS. Information.

    Girl preach! Black men be the first to call a natural haired Black woman a “nappy hoe” Although my hair is relaxed + keratin now when I did have natural hair never did any other race have something negative to say about my hair, only Black men and sometimes other Black women.

  • talaktochoba

    no, wrong, only black BOYS do that, not black MEN;

    kindly take time to understand the difference;

    and retake your college history classes, because almost from the dawn of time white men have been in awe of you, too;

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    “Tell that to some of your bretheren who ridicule black women who do not have perms. The ones who prefer “red bones”

    the black man made me do it? really?

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    Agreed! You can’t please everyone because everyone is a critic and has an opinion on the state of black hair and what black women need to do with it so why bother debating. I think those that were picks were great examples of how to rock this dye right because the black women listed rocked the right SHADE of blond that suited their complexion especially Eve.

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    bottom line : the natural black women is the most attractive female on the planet. when she has true self knowledge there is no need for the superficial. rather than dying their hair blonde, they should dye their souls black.

  • JS

    @talaktochoba

    Not prescribing to that whole boys vs. men statement. These men are over 18 and have the law given rights to say and act a fool of their choosing and vote. Whether they live up to the standard of what being a “true” good man is another issue but they are grown ass men saying these things about Black hair.

    It’s true white and other races have been curious of Black hair but what they say isn’t negative in my experience. They want to touch it and they ask questions about it, some of those questions being a bit silly, however it is not inherently negative. Nor is any derogatory statement made. Not saying it never happens, as Don Imus has shown us, but for the majority the most animosity I have personally gotten about my hair (both natural and straight, however more negativity for natural) has been from Blacks, particularly Black men.

  • The Moon in the Sky

    Maybe you do, but I don’t.

    This isn’t about sensitivity. It’s about respect and properly referring to someone by their age.

    You are probably one of those girls who refers to boys as ‘little man’.

  • JS

    As a man (I assume, from your name being James) Black, White, etc. can you please refrain from telling Black women what they should or shouldn’t do with their OWN hair? Thank you. You may be Black but unless you have at least a 12 inch afro, locks, twists, braids, etc. you maintain, you have no clue what a Black woman goes through to maintain natural hair or why she might want to get it relaxed, dyed or weaved.

    I’m glad you think Black women are the most attractive female on the planet (not being sarcastic, I think that is great). However we are humans just as you are. What is REALLY superficial is to recognize a Black woman’s physical attractiveness but not her right as an individual to make choices about her own body and what is attached to it. You may not agree with that choice, you may think she made it for the wrong reasons, however it is HER choice to make. It is not your job to pass judgement and you are not doing Black women any favors or unveiling any revelations or new ideas we have not heard before. All you are doing is perpetuating your own view about how you, one Black man out of many, think Black women should look.

  • Kam

    Or that they’re honoring Solomon Islanders.

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    @James

    It was a rhetorical question. the logical inconsistency you speak of was exactly my point. thought you knew me better than that by now

  • Ms. Vee

    “It might not make them look inherently African but it doesn’t mean they are all “trying to be white.””

    …. Sure. Of course not. They’re just trying to appeal to the white standards. All that’s missing is the blue contacts to match.

    “Every other race can plump up lips, butts, and tan their skin till it wrinkles or gets cancer without “trying to be black.”

    I had no idea black people had a monopoly on tanned skin, full lips etc. But hey feel free to mention other non-black races proudly wearing Afro-textured hair in the spotlight. That argument would be more comparable.

  • Yb

    The irony is that you don’t realize your comment is self-hating…………………-___-

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    perhaps you might READ what i said. i said black women with true self knowledge have no need of the superficial. think about it.

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    what special knowledge would be gained by having 12 inches of hair that would enable someone to make a call on the propriety of dying one’s hair blonde? Is blonde hair more manageable? Do you really go through that much in keeping your hair its natural color? And how does expressing disdain for someone’s choices equate to not recognizing their right to make those choices? No one even remotely suggested that you should not have the right to make a choice to do with your hair. Just as you have the right to dye your hair any color you want, anyone (man or woman) has the right to express their disdain for that choice.

    If I decide to dye my hair blonde, wear blue contacts, or otherwise change the color of some part of my body in a way that just so happens to resemble traits prized by white folks, you have the right to express your opinion on that choice. Your opinion doesn’t affect the exercise of my rights. The first sentence of this article even reflects this right to voice an opinion of the propriety of certain people to wear their hair blonde.

    You are doing black folks any favors by trying silence voices that decry the impact eurocentric standards and norms have had on our worldview.

  • talaktochoba

    jamesfrmphilly, through for you, sir!

    finally, someone who understands the difference between equal and equivalent…and wise enough to value and appreciate it;

  • kelly

    blonde hair looks good on king B.. To me it always made her look like shakira twin

  • JS

    @Ms. Vee

    People like you are ridiculous. You wouldn’t want whites or any other race to make any assumptions about you based on your skin color or what you look like physically. Why the hell are you doing the same to your own people? We don’t get it enough from outside sources that we need to be self-hated on and judged by our own race???

  • talaktochoba

    and since when did age automatically confer or even infer manhood outside of the IRS and Selective Service?

    simply because they can sit upright and have opposite thumbs DOES NOT mean they are men!

    so now, my question to you is, why oh why are you devoting so much of your time, attention and emotion to these 30-40-50+ year old BOYS?

  • talaktochoba

    awaken, Eve;

    minority women by and large are blessed with a natural and long-lasting beauty non-minority women have historically been forced to resort to making themselves up into something they are not just to compete with–thus, the term “makeup”;

    that is why it is so disheartening to see the most naturally beautiful creatures ever to walk the Earth cheapen themselves with the practises and attributes of another culture whose women are decidedly inferior in natural beauty;

    you know well as i not one in ten white women would be caught literally dead in public without her “face” on–which is why you can daily be treated to the hilarious spectacle of them steering with their thighs whilst they paint themselves up in the rear view mirror, all during rush hour traffic, mind you;

    understand there are occasions where makeup is required–usually formal–but the line is firmly drawn when this fantasy is taken as reality, as the standard of beauty all women must be measured by every day;

    that just flat plain isn’t so, despite what the white control led media, entertainment and fashion industries would have our young impressionable girls believe;

    you should’ve listened to your grandmother and grand aunts down home told you when they said, “Black don’t crack”;

    every day i wake up and look at my wife and daughters, i know i’m glad i did;

  • Mademoiselle

    How to avoid BW (for people like Spiritual who obviously haven’t figured it out yet):

    Step 1: stop typing Clutch’s url into your web browser…

  • JS

    @James

    I understood perfectly. You said Black women with “true” self knowledge have no need of the superficial and then went on to infer in your next sentence that dying your hair blonde is superficial. What I need you to do is take a step back, re-read what I said and understand… really think and try to understand… YOU have no place as a non Black woman speaking on what Black women should or shouldn’t do with our hair. Damn, is it really that difficult of a concept?

    @Ravi

    I am speaking on the ENTIRE issue of Black women’s hair in general and was directly speaking to James about his comments since he has had a lot to say about Black women’s hair not just pertaining to color in this discussion.

    See this is what gets people messed up in the US and then people wonder why ignorant shit still happens. Just because free speech gives you the right to express your belittling opinion of others doesn’t mean you should.

    Westboro baptist church pickets funerals for crying out loud but they are protected by free speech, there are still white supremacy neo-nazi groups who are protected by free-speech (as long as they aren’t inciting violence they can say what they want), people voice their hateful opinions everyday… do you really want to be grouped into that? Just because you are free to do it doesn’t make it right or your opinion right.

    Yes, I have said earlier in this discussion (also if you peep my comments in the preference or ignorance article) that the white standard of beauty is a problem. Sure there are plenty Blacks just like there are of all other races trying to run the never ending rat race of “being white.” However it is silly to pigeon hole everyone into the same category of “trying to be white” if they aren’t following some precise formula of how to act/dress/look.

    Why do no other races get that? Do ALL white people have blonde hair? NO! Are ALL white people’s hair straight and not curly? NO! So then Why do white people get all the freedom to look the way they want? Although I do think its important for a person to keep in mind who they are, and not change themselves because they want to look like someone else (no matter what race they are) just because someone does change something about them does not mean they are self hating.

    Damn if a Black woman wanted to dye her hair pink you two would probably have an ignorant comment and some side eye for her, and that isn’t ANYONE’s natural color.

  • JS

    @talaktochoba

    “and since when did age automatically confer or even infer manhood outside of the IRS and Selective Service?”

    Actually if you want to get really traditional, historically society treated boys as adult men at the ripe age of about 12, especially traditional African societies and tribes (since you care so much about staying true to our African roots). If anything I’m giving them more growth room by saying 18.Like I said its a different issue if you want to get into the philosophical and moral ideals of “what turns boys into men.” But societies has always looked at boys turning into men at a traditionally younger age, whether they acted fools or not.

    “so now, my question to you is, why oh why are you devoting so much of your time, attention and emotion to these 30-40-50+ year old BOYS?”

    One of the great perks of being a woman, that you and the many men who think they have some right to comment on women’s appearances do not realize, is I don’t have to devote any time or attention to these MEN to receive these comments. Black women could be minding their own damn business walking down the street, grocery shopping or you know, on a online magazine that has an article specifically catered for BLACK WOMEN. However leave to some MAN and he will appear to inject his ideals onto us about how we should be looking, acting, etc. Just because I can brush these comments off doesn’t mean they should even be made in the first place.

  • Ms. Vee

    @JS

    “You wouldn’t want whites or any other race to make any assumptions about you based on your skin color or what you look like physically”

    No. Not based on my natural features. But who am i to get upset when others notice that i physically change myself to blatantly mimic the characteristics of other races? Why get all uptight and deny the obvious? Further considering that you mentioned other races tanning and getting lip injections almost seems like you yourself were insinuating/assuming that they did it by “trying to be black”.

    If you saw people of other races proudly walking around like this (especially in the spotlight) what would be the obvious assumption? Be real now.

    http://ferenc.biz/pictures/huge-afro-hair-asian-model.jpg

    “We don’t get it enough from outside sources that we need to be self-hated on and judged by our own race???”

    Since when is being realistic judgmental? And last i checked not being fond of seeing black women wearing straight blond hair is not self-hate. Nonetheless all are free to change their appearance as they choose. Just don’t start wearing blue contacts and get mad when others notice your obvious mimicking of the Caucasian ilk. This is just my perspective. So with the wise words from the Keith and Kevin Hodge “Do whatever the F@$% you wannna do!” :)

  • http://gravatar.com/missinformation7 Ms. Information

    Regardless to what anyone says..black women want to be adored by our men…..my best friend went natural because ive been natural for years and it was very pretty on her…her husband say he hated it…she permed it…………….when black men consistently talk of J-Lo (women who arent black but have all the black girlness) how are black women supposed to feel?…I dont hear most brothers saying that Janelle Monae and India Arie are some bad chicks…lol….most black men just dont think that way….James you come from a different foundation than these dudes do.

  • talaktochoba

    try not be so stereotypic, will you?

    you want men’s attention, but only on your own terms;

    it really doesn’t matter this is a women’s forum, because in any forum you will lead a miserable life because you feel life owes you something because you’re a woman;

    it just doesn’t work that way–you have to give something first to get something;

    if you want the attention of real authentic men, whether they be 12 or 20 or 102, then you will have to present your most authentic self first;

    REAL men, whatever stripe, are not stupid–they know they can get an imitation of a woman anywhere anytime, and that inauthentic imitations, not being real to themselves, cannot possibly be real to others;

    now why should my son play with toys like you when he can wait for the real thing?

    a woman is a STATEMENT a man wants to make to the rest of the world, NOT a trophy he pulls down off his mantel to show off;

    now if it suits you to go around imitating Jennifer Anniston and Gwyneth Paltrow and calling yourself authentic, you have every right to do so–just don’t be surprised if you remain unhappy as you already clearly are, because the only attention girls will ever draw is from boys, NOT men…but then, that is exactly what you’re upset about now, no?

    see what i mean about being stereotypical?

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    James may have had other things to say about hair in other comments, but the comment you replied to was only talking about dying hair blonde. Therefore, your entire rationale as to why he should not have an opinion on what he expressed above does not apply. So maybe you should find the comment he made about relaxing hair and paste the above reply there. It might make a little more sense.

    Moreover, your entire discussion about not recognizing her right to wear her hair as she wants does not apply. No one suggested that a woman does not have the right to do with her hair as she pleases. You see, that’s why ignorant shit happens. People fly off the handle, because they don’t take the time to understand what each other is saying.

    So are you really arguing that James saying that a black woman with self knowledge would not have need for superficial (it probably can’t get any more superficial than the color of one’s hair) is comparable to neo nazi hate speech? That he or I should be reasonably scared of being lumped in with hate groups for expressing opinions on black women’s hair? Or maybe the exercise of an opinion that you don’t share should be looked at as the same as a hate group? I don’t think I’m the one that should worry about saying something ignorant.

    And who said anything about trying to be white? Please read more carefully. That was not the argument. Being affected by eurocentric beauty standards has little to do with a conscious attempt to be white. It has to do with how our tastes and preferences are constructed. There are very few traits that are common to all the people of a given race. What’s your point? Inclusion in a white standard of beauty doesn’t mean that every white person shares that trait. Long straight blonde hair is a white beauty standard regardless of the relatively few white women that possess it naturally. The fact that so many of them dye their hair blonde is a testament to the fact that it is prized.

    It’s no different than blue eyes. If I wear blue contacts, because it is my preference, then you would be remiss in not questioning the degree to which I have been impacted by eurocentric norms and standards. This does not mean that every white person has blue eyes. Quite to the contrary, relatively few white people have blue eyes. But it is far more rare for a black person to have blue eyes. For me to have a preference for something that so rarely occurs naturally in my own people yet is something I associate with another people shows that I likely have been impacted by their beauty standards — even if I’m not conscious of it. It doesn’t mean I’m trying to be white. Same thing with people that lighten their skin. They can just prefer lighter skin. That doesn’t mean they are trying to be white. The question is — why do they prefer lighter skin over their natural skin color?

    And what freedom do white people have to change their appearance that you don’t enjoy? If a white person were to wear an afro wig (even though all black people don’t have afros) then she would likely get clowned. It wouldn’t matter if she just had a preference for afros or wasn’t trying to be black, she would still get clowned. You have complete freedom to dye your hair whatever color you want. It seems black women exercise the freedom to do whatever they want with their hair more than most other women. It’s confusing why you keep on harping on that. I agree, it is your right to do what you want with your hair. I agree that you should have the freedom to do what you want with your appearance. No one is questioning that. I AGREE WITH YOU. What you don’t have is the freedom to be free of criticism or the right for everyone to like your choice in appearance. If you didn’t notice, the article even addressed blonde hair not being right for everyone. What is that but criticism for a way a woman chooses to wear her hair? Oh, you just have a problem when a man does it.

    Given no race grows pink hair with any sort of regularity, then why would there be any comments concerning being impacted by other standards of beauty. Just like you, I might have comments about how it isn’t very attractive, but that doesn’t make for an ignorant comment. I’m afraid you own the monopoly on that for this conversation.

  • talaktochoba

    what you fail to grasp is that white women NEED making up just to compete with non-white women, and that their beauty compared to non-white women has a comparatively short shelf life (look at Bridgette Bardot, Kim Basinger, etc.)

    that is why it is so disconcerting to see the most naturally beautiful creatures ever to walk the Earth reduce themselves to interpreting their beauty through the image of decidedly inferior competition;

    only non-white women are generally gorgeous just waking up, whereas their competition won’t show their faces to the light of day until they’ve worshipped the makeup mirror;

    call me all the names you want, but i’ve got ALL of history on my side backing me up…and all of her story, too;

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    “YOU have no place as a non Black woman speaking on what Black women should or shouldn’t do with our hair”

    as a black MAN and an ELDER in the black community i not only have a place but an OBLIGATION to speak.

    if you had true self knowledge as a black women this would not even be an issue. brainwashed sisters may have some initial difficulty when dealing with an actual black MAN. it’s all good, we got to start somewhere.

    i ain’t mad atcha, i love you black woman.

  • politicallyincorrect

    Other than Eve and Emeli Sande the rest of the women need to go back to dark hair

  • JS

    @James

    You keep on making these wild accusations with nothing to support them. Wisdom does not come with years or the fact that you have something that hangs low between your legs.

    Black men be the first to comment on a Black woman but will raise a damn storm if we have anything to say back in return about them.

    @talaktochoba

    You are gravely misinformed. The first uses of make-up and wigs for that matter in history were the Egyptians. Although in the US we may consider them “white” (North Africans and Middle Easterners by census standards are considered white) they had dark skin just like us. Look it up!

    @Ravi

    I really don’t know where you get off telling me where to post my comment. James said it in this discussion and still stands by it so I’m not twisting anyone’s words and he replied to it himself so its still relevant. You are just trying to be facetious and it isn’t working here.

    I really think you all need to step back and realize what impact the things you put out of your mouth and into the world have. If you say Black women are superficial for “this or that” then by that you are enforcing YOUR standards upon us. The sheer action of that enforcement does nothing BUT negatively infringe on that right. Black women do not need the peanut gallery of Black men commenting on everything she does. We all should be building each other up rather than tearing each other down. It is superficial from jump for a Black man to even comment negatively on the appearance of a Black woman. Why can’t you understand that?

    Yes, really you should be lumped in with those groups. Its still hate speech you are making against your own women and its not ignorant to point that out.

    I never said we weren’t influenced by the white standards of beauty. I mean the people making the choices of whats fashionable, in style, etc. for both men and women are white. However I don’t think being influenced by it automatically means we are trying to be them and not ourselves. So why is it more superficial for a Black woman to dye her hair Blonde than a dark haired White woman?

    No one is criticizing you for having an opinion. However its a different ball game when you say, “I don’t think that Blonde hair looks good on that Black woman” and “All Black women who have Blonde hair are superficial.” Those statements are saying two different things. The Clutch article isn’t condemning all Black women for having Blonde hair as you all are doing. Actually, I’m beginning to think YOU don’t even know what you are saying because the definition for superficial is caring about only the obvious or apparent, i.e. looks. What woman or man, doesn’t care about the way they present themselves? So then in fact we all are superficial if we take time to address our appearance before we walk out the door every morning. If that is the case then calling Black women superficial is erroneous and what you REALLY mean is that we are trying to act/be white. I really do not know why you just wont admit that is what you are trying to say. It is clear as day and you aren’t fooling anyone on here.

  • The Moon in the Sky

    How an you say you love Black women when a several articles back you were blaming us for the harassment we receive from Black men?

  • Sorry to say that the majority of you do practice self-hate on the regular

    I for one, a BW, love and respect james’ comments. You know if he was praising how great we looked with blonde hair that would have hit some sort of spot amongst many of you. And please spare with the whole natural hair is hard to maintain, that’s complete bull…it’s hair that grows out of your scalp! You only perceive it to be difficult to maintain as a result of having some sort of perceived idea that you can only wear your hair one way in order for it to be deemed attractive and beautiful enough and that one way is usually not in its natural state…that’s superficial and ignorant..the opposite of being enlightened and having true self knowledge. You celebrate coloring your hair blonde, wearing weaves more than you do wearing your own hair in its natural state and complain/blame it on it being ‘difficult’ and go under attack mode for those who embrace, love, respect and admire natural hair but to those who criticize it..oh well. What does that say about you?

  • JS

    @talaktochoba

    It’s not being stereotypical in the sense you mean it as social categorization if its the way it happened. Tribal communities in Africa consider their boys to be men at an early age.

    I really liked to know where I said I only want attention on my terms and said that I think I am owed something. I merely pointed out regardless of my individual wants the attention I am given.

    Listen, if you are what you consider “a real authentic man” then I do not want your attention or the attention of any other men who prescribe to your beliefs. Keep it steppin.

    However I will say referring to any woman as a “toy” takes away her person-hood and makes her an object that could easily be discarded, raped or abused. That is dangerous territory and you may think I am taking your words out of context. However you must understand that words hold connective meaning in our society and no one would treat a “toy” like they would a human being. That is the whole case women fight against being objectified so cut out that type of language right now.

    “a woman is a STATEMENT a man wants to make to the rest of the world, NOT a trophy he pulls down off his mantel to show off;”

    Tomato, tomatoe. What you call statement I call BS on because its still a trophy. I’ll tell you what a woman is. A woman is a HUMAN BEING, not a toy and not a damn statement. She is an individual with thoughts of her own who should be respected. Her worth is not defined by the man she stands beside. She relies on her partner, as her partner does her, for love, support and spiritual uplifting.

    “because the only attention girls will ever draw is from boys, NOT men”

    I seem to be drawing a lot of your attention right now… you must be a boy then.

  • Anon

    Were you this pressed about this issue before “Good Hair” came out?

    I’m natural, have been for years. I’ve been loose, loc’ed, twisted, braided… and BLONDE. Ya’ll need to quit projecting your personal issues on any black woman that chooses to pick a hairstyle or color you don’t agree with.

    Even if they WERE “trying to look white”, what’s it to you?

  • Ms. Vee

    @Anon

    “Were you this pressed about this issue before “Good Hair” came out”

    If you must know…no.

    “I’m natural, have been for years. I’ve been loose, loc’ed, twisted, braided… and BLONDE”

    I take it you don’t read/observe very well. I could of swore i was adressing my comment to the obvious STRAIGHT/YAKI haired, blondes (as you can see throughout the photos). Those like Kim Fields did not make the list.

    “Even if they WERE “trying to look white”, what’s it to you?”

    …..Im going to hope you’re smart enough to figure out why thats a problem.

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