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It’s the smack seen ’round the world. Last night in Denmark, Beyonce had to reprimand an overzealous male fan who reached up on stage and gave Bey a quick slap on her backside. She responded saying, “Now I will have you escorted out of here, alright?”

Instead of wondering why a fan thought he could actually touch Beyonce’s body or praising her sharp yet firm response, some people are asking: How can Beyonce be upset at a man smacking her butt when she is shaking it in front of his face in a skimpy leotard?

That reaction is laden with a victim-blaming mentality. It implies that it’s Beyonce’s fault for dressing and dancing provocatively, and that her actions relinquish her of ownership of her own body and give a man a pass for failing to keep his hands to himself.

Those responses reeks of the pervasive rape culture mentality in our society. A woman’s attire and her dance moves are not excuses for inappropriate, unsolicited groping on the part of a man. There is no excuse for his behavior, regardless of how Beyonce looked or moved. The same can be said for women who are groped on the street, whether on line for the club or in a crowded subway car.

Beyonce’s encounter with an audacious fan represents one of many instances where women are touched inappropriately by strangers. And the pass given to said strangers just adds insult to injury.

-Racquel Garrison

  • Yb

    Slut-Shaming and the policing of women’s body, particularly black women’s bodies, in 5, 4, 3, 2, …..

  • dippedingodiva

    Prime example of male privilege. Beyonce handled that man graciously, if that was me concert would have been over lol.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kelley.johnson.75436 Kelley Johnson

    If they’re not reaching out to touch our hair, they’re trying to grab out behinds. Keep your hands to yourself. Period. I don’t know why some people have a hard time doing that when it comes to Black women.

  • The Moon in the Sky

    What would even possess a man to think to do such a thing? Just disgusting.

  • k

    But…a come hither mentality doesn’t help at all. It’s like dangling meat infront of a lion. Men are animals at the very core of their being. Not all are tame and tease them enough, one will ounce.

  • k

    *pounce

  • Sanura Rose

    Too many people out there believe that a woman’s body belongs to them and he/she can do with it as he/she pleases without their say (and have the nerve to act surprised when the victim is upset). It’s a disgusting and degrading mentality. You don’t have the right to put your hands on anyone. We learn that stuff in kindergarten but for reason that lesson goes out the window as we grow older and people would rather be ruled by their emotions and sexual urges smh.

  • Chinonye

    This is a ridiculous excuse for the audience member’s actions. There is nothing, absolutely NOTHING that can even partially justify his actions, “come hither mentality” or not. ALL responsibility must be placed on the person who committed the action. Period.

  • No Comment

    Please give men a little more credit. I would hope that they have a lot more self-control than that.

  • http://twitter.com/DKuzLA DK Uzoukwu (@DKuzLA)

    Most of us do. i’ve never understood this ridiculous excuse from some dudes that makes it seem like we men walk around all day just trying ever so hard to keep ourselves from pouncing on the first woman we see. Like…. they just described an animal, not a man.

  • http://twitter.com/DKuzLA DK Uzoukwu (@DKuzLA)

    By that same argument, we should just let Zimmerman go free because Trayvon should’ve known better than to wear a hoodie while being black–cuz we all know that’s the worldwide uniform for ‘up to no good–lookin’ to get shot today.’

  • Jason

    Wth! Women attack male artist all the time! Ripping their shirts and everything.

  • http://gravatar.com/trueletterson trueletterson

    How can Beyonce be upset at a man smacking her butt when she is shaking it in front of his face in a skimpy leotard? Now good point!

  • MLI

    And that’s not okay either

  • MayaPapaya

    So just because she wants to dance how she wants to, her body is now public property? Get the fuck up outta here with your mess.

  • E L

    So if you leave your door unlocked, can I just come in? If your zipper is down, can I reach in and grab you? If you wear a shirt that I like and accentuates your chest, can I rub your chest? NO ONE has a right to touch another person without THEIR permission. PERIOD. That is a violation of that person’s body.

  • Seaki

    I have to admit, i feel the same way

  • http://youtube.com/dj500benz Doc

    Who gives a flying f***? Beyonce gets paid big bucks to do these shows. If getting her @$$ slapped is the worst thing that happens to her that night, she had a better night than half of the entire world.
    Beyonce Butt slapping < Starving kids around the world. Let's talk about some real issues that affect real people.

  • Pyteena

    that was SO disrespectful. it’s simple: keep your hands to yourself. i would have had him removed.

  • Anthony

    I have never understood the “they make a lot of money so why should I have to respect them,” argument. It seems like is only ever applied to black athletes of any gender and black women with rare exceptions. Even with athletes, it is a given that fans keep their hands to themselves ( also fans want to keep their heads on their shoulders!)

    Ass grabbing is something is only agreed upon in prostitution and unregulated lap dancing. Beyonce had every right to have that man removed.

  • antisocialengineering

    If you leave your door open and then go on to do some some performance which amounts to daring or goading someone into entering, then you run the risk that someone might DARE.

    You can indeed blame yourself for your folly

    If you trade on your sexuality and on the notion that you’re “up for it” (as we say in the UK), then someone might be induced to take you up on it.

    It’s getting mighty old, that “weaknesses” in male sexuality; namely its easy arousability, can be exploited for profit by cock teasing slags like Beyonce who then turn into the Virgin Mary when it comes times to deliver.

    I don’t respect cock teasers, who don’t respect my right not to be subject to their unwanted and pathetically oafish attempts to induce my arousal

    Don’t be a prick tease and no one will touch.

    And don’t conflate the undeserved harassment of women innocently going about their business with that of prick teasers whose action are calculated.

  • Tiffy

    Its hard being a black woman you just cant win it feels like…. Regardless what she was wearing he had no right to touch her she’s a performer and performers now a days sell the allusion of sex without the actual sex no different then for example Madonna or Katy Perry but in real life though i dont know Beyonce we see she doesn’t live this sexed up wild life she’s actually very traditional so she does deserve the criticism she gets about her on stage persona

  • JRM

    ladies and gentlemen….come one come all…take a look into the mind of a rapist named K !!!!

  • Tiffy

    *doesn’t deserve

  • Julie

    Beyonce is a better person than I am.. I would’ve probably kicked him in the face.

    Nothing makes me rage more than some gross dude thinking he has the right to put his hands on me.

  • Miakoda

    Sexual assault is a real issue.

  • chnyere

    You don’t have the right to smack the butt of someone you don’t know, period.

  • But Braxton

    In Braxton Family Values Italy episode, Traci was excited a stranger did the same.

    I was surprised noone at Clutch didn’t write an article about this and how men would watch Traci’s reaction and get ideas.

  • The Other Jess

    I’m proud of Beyonce for her reaction. She’s a performer and he had no right to touch her. If she had come and sat on his lap or something, then she’d have no argument. But she performed on stage, and did not invite anyone to touch her. Just because men think she has a beautiful physique does not mean you can disrespect her. The Rock is fine and has to have the best body of any man in America (possibly the world, imho) but that doesn not give women the right to assault him.

  • Anthony

    You better make sure you know that person the right way before you decide to handle that fanny!

  • E.M.S.

    Gotta love the male responses. Typical “Hey I’m a man, you’re a woman & I have the right to smack that whenever I want.” NO SIR.

    Those gentleman are demonstrating the very mindset that needs changing.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    Some men are just..ugh…I wish they get the heavily told memo that they don’t have a right to a woman’s body regardless of what she wears, dances like or behaves. LEARN and actively practice self-control and personal responsibility over your own person. But Beyoncé is good, she should have had a Faith Hill moment when she read a woman about touching her husband’s privates.

  • http://www.kdsoul.blogspot.com kdsays

    Agreed. Beyonce presents an extreme example–a sexual fantasy on steroids that she revels in, exploits, and makes lots of money doing so. Nonetheless, no one has a right to put his hands on her or any woman.

  • ED

    Brian Banks

  • Child, Please

    While I don’t think she should have been touched (though this isn’t the first time; it’s been the first time it’s been publicized in this grandeur manner and I’m shocked others haven’t said anything before about it), I can’t help but think of all the times Clutch has had articles “slut-shaming” others who perform in risque attire/material (and the comment section has been just as horrendous), but not well-known entertainers. I say this because most of the women criticized for being provocative, whether it be on a Beyonce/J. Lo/Other or stripper level (because people do go out their way to point out the difference), aren’t defended from this level of assault – or any level.

    Now, are everyday women, who aren’t famous, but don’t hold down a stripper job or engage in what people associate with risque behavior or mannerisms defended from this and other of forms harassment? Of course! There’s been a plethora of articles on this site and others discussing street harassment, but very few defending the actions of twerkers, strippers and other women who use their body as an art form (to use a better term). In a sense, it’s almost as if this blatant bashing of certain performers if you will by some women (not all) and feminist or women-centered publications only deem it OK to protect or defend a certain caliber of woman and reject the notion that these other women need protecting as well.

    It just frustrates me that we can come to the aid of a stage performers (i.e. J. Lo, Beyonce, Madonna, Janet Jackson (who was rang through the mud after her Super Bowl performance and is a good example of how people pick and choose who to defend based on their performance style)) who are more well known than those that we have a predisposition to based on what we see in music videos or have been told by others. In short: I want an even playing field. If we defend the music star, we defend the stripper, too! We can’t make progress when we pick and choose who to defend and who not,too.

    SN: I’m not saying anyone one in this particular comment section has stated my claims, but it’s just an observation reading various comment sections and articles on a multitude of websites. I’m glad people are speaking out about this, but it’s a travesty that it’s took a megastar for more/some people to speak out about it and understand why assault – by anyone and in any setting – wrong.

  • Perspective

    I’m surprised that there aren’t comments on here discussing how much white men want black women because he slapped her butt.

    Rape Culture (eyes roll)

  • justanotheropinion

    He definitely crossed the line by touching her, but when you sell sex for a living, should you be surprised when someone acts out based on what you are putting out there?

    Just asking…

  • http://gravatar.com/greendoondoon greendoondoon

    Last time I checked, she was a singer, not selling sex for a living. Her costumes (because that’s what they are. When she is not in performer mode or on a red carpet, she is dressed like any other woman would dress.) are less risque than Lady Gaga and Madonna’s.

    If she were a prostitute, there would still be no justification for anyone touching her if she didn’t invite them to. Most women don’t sell sex for a living, but lots of women have had unwarranted touching. What’s your advice to them?

    Lastly, do you have such a low opinion of men, that you don’t think they can control themselves around an attractive woman? Because that’s what you are inferring.

  • Nope

    I have not seen articles like that on this site. I think this site has had plenty of articles that are in line with the comments supporting Beyonce. Most of the commenters seem to have the idea that a person should not go around touching people without permission especially sexually. This includes strippers too. If a man had done the same thing to a stripper who was not supposed to be touched or a stripper that was off duty, I’m sure the stripper would get support here and definitely on feminist blogs.

    People may talk about Beyonce or other artist’s performances being too sexual but I think complaining about the sexiness of a Beyonce concert and supporting her when some man thinks he has the right to touch her without permission are not the same thing. Maybe these people complaining about her too sexy concerts are not even feminists and have a conservative outlook. These same people could still support her because touching people like that is just plain wrong even if you think Beyonce is too provocative.

  • Medusa

    I had a similar argument with someone last week about “starving children around the world.” So because there are people starving, we should never talk about anything else ever? What the fuck? Have you ever met any of the people you’re talking about? Even the people who are starving in the developing world don’t just sit around and talk about how they’re starving all the time. I don’t see how that makes physically harassing Beyonce okay.

  • BeBoogie

    2 things.. no one has the right to touch any body. and some of the things on clutch are hypocritical

  • http://gravatar.com/nataya1280 nataya1280

    My problem with most of these comments are that 1. People just love to hate Beyonce. She couldve been in baggy sweats and a frumpy tshirt and ppl would still blame her because they just love to hate her.
    2. If this was Madonna or Tina Turner, or Cher…. anyone except BEYONCE I wonder how much victim blaming there would be… hmmm some ppl are envious of what Bey has that they never will. Not understanding that the reason why they wont ever have it has nothing to do with Bey and everything to do with themselves and their attitudes.

  • cherry.

    yes. to ALL of this.

  • http://twitter.com/Datboykenan Kenan (@Datboykenan)

    I don’t think this incident has to do anything with rape culture but says more about America’s Celebrity culture. I remember going to a Fabolous concert and all the women were trying to simply grab his you know what. Fans feel entitled to treat celebrities however they feel they should which is kind of disturbing. There’s also a video where a white girl is taking a picture with the rapper Game and she tried to put her hands in his pants. It’s really troubling

  • RJ

    @greendoondoon-Sorry Beyonce is a singer….who sells sex. there were more than a few articles written about her embracing overt sexuality when she began her career because many were shocked at her choices, considering she does have some talent. But we must be honest and tell the truth..Beyonce does sell sex.

    Nonetheless, no one has the right to lay their hands on anyone and she should have thrown him out. If she were really a confident woman she would have done just that. There is not much power in threatening to do something..the power is in the follow through and to me her response is just as much a part of the story.

  • http://lookwerelearning.com/ Selena@lookwerelearning

    This happened in Denmark, but agreed about celebrity culture in general. It’s pretty much “I buy your albums and concert tickets, so you belong to me” and that’s extra creepy.

  • RJ

    I think it would have been more powerful if showed him the door with that trademark smile in place. That is true power. Otherwise it is just words.

  • GlowBelle

    Not a fan of Beyonce, but she didn’t deserve some stranger dude slapping her ass like she’s a piece of meat. No woman deserves that, and I applaud her for not kicking the dude’s face in, she handled it graciously. And who cares if she was in a skimpy “suggestive” outfit and was shaking her rump? Even if she walked out on stage buck naked she STILL has every right to do so and STILL has the right to not allow someone to touch her. I don’t get these men who think they are so entitled that everything they see should automatically be there’s and then get pressed when they are denied access. Why don’t you ask first? Why don’t you treat a woman with some respect? Maybe you’d get a different response if you did.

    When a woman says “no!” and tells you not to touch her…she freaking means it. Get it through your head, keep your hands to yourself and learn to be a got damn gentleman.

  • AdorkABLE

    She was nicer than me. I would have thrown him out. No one has the right to touch you inappropriately without your permission.. There are laws against it for a reason. Why do most people justify when a man is being inappropriate to a female or vice versa? It angers me when people say.. “He’s a man. He can’t control his urges” or “She shouldn’t have been dressed that way, she was asking for it”. Men can control their urges, people just make excuses for them to hide behind. I was wearing a blouse and jeans when a guy thought it would be okay to slap my behind so I slapped him back right in his face before my friends got between us and took him away from me. I didn’t know him and he didn’t know me. I don’t answer kindly to that kind of treatment and no women or man should have to either.

  • A black guy

    how is this proof of An Out of Control Rape Culture smh. So if a women is dress like a ….. its hard to help her in that case. Women have to be knowledgeable about what sexual freedom means. It has its drawbacks. and that is all.

  • RJ

    @Tiffy it is true that her set is not different than Madonna or Katy Perry, but what she and everyone need to realize is that she is not seen through the same prism as those women. It does not matter how much she tries to whiten her image, She is still a black woman and there is still a different perception.

    I have long wished that she and other black female performers just got back to the business of making real music and stop trying so hard to be adored and desired by the masses (and by the masses, I do mean the white masses). They are just trying to hard, in my humble opinion.

  • BriA

    What you just said is part of our rape culture mentality smh

  • reason

    Had it been a black man who did this, the tone of many of these comments would be very different. The entire conversation would be about how little respect black men have for black women. You would have one commenter after another stating “this is why I have nothing to do with black men.” It reminds me of when Adrien Brody grabbed Halle Berry at the Academy Awards and tried to insert his tongue into her mouth. The conversation focused not on his race but on men and sexism in general. When brothers engage in the same offensive behavior men of all races are guilty of, then it becomes racialized.

  • http://twitter.com/cherubicnerd L.Hoskins (@cherubicnerd)

    so,if a gay guy thought that it was perfectly fine to touch your body because he liked how your butt looked in those jeans,you had it coming,right?

  • D

    And where’s the Clutch article saying it’s not OK for women to rip men’s shirts off or to grab dick/butt/whatever when a performer is on stage?

    Or to accost them by throwing their worn underwear on stage at them?

    Or to whip open their tops and flash their breasts?

    Or to chase them down the street and pawing at them?

    Or to sneak backstage and strip in the performers dressing room?

    What in the hell makes women think this type of behavior is OK? No Clutch article chastising them for that.

    Beyonce gets an ass tap (probably by a flaming gay guy…hell, he is at a Beyonce show in the front row) and all hell breaks loose?

    No double standard here. Must be the reverse rape culture.

  • lol

    there was an article written admonishing a woman that gave oral s*x to some rapper while he was on stage ,it is on this website. can’t remember the name. the female commenters actually said she should be arrested for s*xual assault but if I remember correctly it was the male commenters who said “he probably enjoyed it.”

  • lol

    black men do this to black women too. all the time…

  • Liz
  • AdorkABLE

    Exactly. Some consider it a greeting or a way to get a woman’s attention. If it had been a black guy, it more than likely wouldn’t have made news.

  • Anthony

    You know the brother don’t wanna hear that!

  • Anthony

    No that it matters, the outfit was not skimpy and it doesn’t look tight either.

    I just can’t see guys justifying the butt slap. Touching random booties was something I left behind in my teens, and I am ashamed it took that long.

  • Arm Candy

    Women, here’s a safety tip: Stay in the womb. It’s the last time you’ll have full personhood anyway.

  • http://twitter.com/cherubicnerd L.Hoskins (@cherubicnerd)

    lol,Anthony.

  • Mahoganyface

    Did he forget he was at a concert and not the strip club?? He was so out of line for that. She took it in jest, but security should have booted him to the streets. Unreal how bold and invasive some people can be.

  • Carib718

    Given Beyonce’s fan base, I think the fan is a gay man. If so, do you think there be so much outcry? I have seen many gay men inappropriately touch women and many times it is seen as playful.

  • http://gravatar.com/rena215 rena215

    Clutch had a similar article not too long ago about a woman who pulled down a rapper’s pants during a concert. I do not remember the commentors coming to his defense as quickly as many are defending Beyonce. Some even commented that he must have enjoyed it because he’s a male. :-/

  • r

    You’re right. And when they do it’s because they are black men. When white men do it, it’s because they are men. Do you see the difference?

  • reason

    The point is that when black men do it it’s because of some genetic-based lack of decency and respect. A moral failing based on color and gender. White men are not judged that way. On college campuses across the country, young white men are raping women at an alarming rate. But whenever there is a discussion of this epidemic, race is never mentioned. Why? Because we live in a country founded on the myth of White Male Supremacy. Sadly, there are many black people who also believe this myth.

  • http://www.youtube.com/user/RyanStormer32 RYStormAN

    What was he wearing then? If he wore something that made him look sexy then the bro was just asking for it. If anyone does or wears something that’s raunchy at a show (or anywhere), expect stuff like that to happen. You’ve nothing to complain about because you were asking for it.

    Anyways, that dude was lucky! He’s a god among men now. Who wouldn’t want to slap Beyonce’s ass? Maybe if you gay, yeah.
    Big booty bitches all around!

  • D

    Where does it say that all the behavior I mentioned in my post is indicative of women pushing for a rape (or sexual assault) culture against men?

    Beyonce gets a light ass pat (again probably by a gay with no sexual overtones whatsoever) and it’s international rape culture run amok. That rapper actually gets mouth raped and it’s a long-drawn out plea for everyone to consider that men can be victims of sexual assault, instead of a stinging sharp indictment of the culture of women’s increasingly sexist and matriarchal views and poor treatment and distrespect towards men?

  • antisocialengineering

    Yeah

    when you’re in the womb only one person can legally hurt you . . . . by drinking smoking or having you aborted.

  • Kareena

    Being at a Beyonce concert is like being at a strip club.

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  • http://gravatar.com/jhenisis jhenisis

    If there is a difference, it is in that sexual harassment is defined as “unwanted and unwelcome”. If a male artist is being accosted by female (or any) fans, I would hope that artist would clarify to the fans that that behavior was not appropriate and left him feeling disrespected. On the PR side, might even win him some points for sensitivity. Not that it’s about that.

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