Reddit user brokedowngirl has been in a long-distance relationship for two years with a man who has made her feel like “the most beautiful woman on the face of the earth.” Despite his insistence on loving her as is, brokedowngirl writes how difficult it was to bare her naked body to her significant other.
I’ve always made sure to keep myself covered, specifically my belly and upper thighs, even it was just with a satin nighty that just barely covered things. I was absolutely dead terrified of him seeing that part of me, it is scarred from abuse, there are stretchmarks from pregnancy and I hate the sag that has come since I have started losing weight (40lbs down 65 to go). He has always made me feel like the most beautiful woman on the face of the earth, but I always felt that if he saw that part of me that he would look at me with disgust and that would be the end of it.
Today on camera, he saw me from head to toe naked, I was literally shaking like a leaf in a hurricane. He didn’t get a look of disgust, he didn’t recoil, he told me I was beautiful, ‘a true sight to behold,’ he showered me with such love and patience and I freaking lost it. I sat down and sobbed, I shook, I cried harder than I have ever cried in my life, but not because I was sad. It was a weird combination of several emotions, fear, shame, relief, love, acceptance and some I cannot put words to, and he listened to me, reassured me, and just continued to remind me that he loves me and finds me beautiful.
Despite her partner’s acceptance of her body, past insecurities keep brokedowngirl from believing she’s as beautiful as her man tells her she is.
At the end of the piece she writes, “Part of me is terrified that he was just being nice and really finds me to be ugly, but I know that is my insecurity talking and projecting.”
Sharing such an intimate expose on the Internet takes courage, especially when so many others suffer in silence about their body insecurities.
I was inflicted with this. Shutting off the lights before undressing, sexing in t-shirts and showering alone hindered me from truly sharing my beauty with the men I was intimate with. This shifted for me when a partner refused to adhere to my requests to dim the lights down low and insisted I remove my tee and let him see me fully.
My stretch marks didn’t deter his love.
Baring it all in front of someone else causes a sense of vulnerability because we are exposing ourselves to potential criticism, but overcoming body insecurities is liberating. It won’t be an easy battle, but freedom is worth seeking.
brokedowngirl agrees. The final graf of her statement sums it up best:
To all the ladies (and men) out there, that are afraid and feel ugly, please know that you are beautiful, to someone you are beautiful. To all those who are confident in your body, regardless of size, scars, stretchmarks, whatever, especially those that don’t fit into the conventional ideals of what is beautiful…I commend you and am more than a little jealous, but please don’t stop, because you’re courage and confidence helps others find their own beauty.