Here’s what the world doesn’t need, another relationship book. I blame Steve Harvey for all of this mess. Now every man thinks he’s capable of dishing out this so-called advice.

Next up to bat at the “relationship expert” plate is twice divorced, Terius “The Dream” Nash.

In a recent interview with Sister2Sister, The Dream stated he was in the process of writing a relationship book about “getting the milk without the cow”.  I’m not sure why this needs to be stated in a book, it’s been going on for centuries.

Here’s an excerpt from the interview with Jamie Foster Brown:

Jamie: Would you get married again?

The-Dream: Of course! I like the idea of it. I have this book I’m writing about how, as blessed as I am, how I could have a girlfriend; I could have kids with her, chill out and that’s my girl. We woo-woo-woo, whatever it is, and get all of the same things that you get when you’re married to someone. It probably didn’t work years go, but why get married? What do they say? “Get the milk without the cow.”

Jamie: Right
The-Dream: But that word “marriage” changes who you are. Immediately you’re not that forgiving and it’s just like, “We fought all the time when we were boyfriend and girlfriend and we never broke up.” You have a good fight when you’re married and it’s like, “I’m out of here. Peace!” It’s like it gets more fragile when it’s supposed to be stronger.

I guess not buying the cow saves on alimony and music royalties, because we all remember how that went with Christina Milian.

  • Nope

    It’s called being a good father. What is fatherhood to you all? Simply being there? Most men that are good fathers are involved in their children’s lives from the time they are born. And most halfway decent men will get up with the baby to help out the wife every now and then. Or a good father would simply want to comfort his child every now and then. And changing a diaper is too much work for a man now? Good grief! I guess all these involved fathers are just pansies. And you must really be delusional if you think that question was about a man coming home from work and then having to do the housework too. It was about asking if the man would be an involved father. I doubt you’re stupid enough to think that the interviewer was asking him if he would work and do the housework and raise the kids while his wife did nothing.

    It’s funny because you are always on this site talking about how black families are screwed up because there’s no man around, but fathers who are simply ATMs and present many times produce children that are no better than children from single parent households.

  • Starla

    @L..I have never believed in shacking up just because it has never appealed to me. But it would be great to hear a little bit more your experience. I am not being nosey, just curious.

  • MimiLuvs

    After the “70% of out-of-wedlock births/ Black women” stat was presented to the media, I did wonder if the statisticians also took cases of “co-habitation” was taken into consideration.
    If it was, why people (and when I say “people” I mean blog writers and their commentators) do not talk about those instances?
    I’ve noticed that people love to talk about “Around-the-way Tina with her brood of children and their daddies” but I haven’t heard much about “John and Carol and their children”.
    What I am trying to say is I haven’t read many articles (unless their religion-based) telling the women in those type of relationships to “keep their legs closed” and/or “get married to your babies’ father and stop shacking up”.

  • Pseudonym


    Spoken like a person who should truly never get married. That statement is SO @$$ backwards!

    (And why is it the male infamous cheaters who are writing these books?)

  • binks


More in the dream, we don't need another relationship expert