Rap’s latest sensation, J.Cole, recently released his sophomore effort, “Born Sinner.” The 21-track album is a gem, full of authentic highlights of the impact of fame and fortune on the North Carolina-born MC. The last song on the record showcases the toll success had on his relationship with his long-time girlfriend.
J.Cole has been dating the same woman since his freshman year at St. John’s University in New York. He speaks publicly about their relationship and has said she’s adjusting well to the spotlight, but that hasn’t stopped the born sinner from succumbing to the groupie life that accompanies long nights on the road in strange cities.
“Sparks Will Fly” is an ode to the difficulties of balancing a healthy relationship with the temptations of success. He rhymes:
I know my style ain’t perfect/I know my smile ain’t perfect/Nigga ain’t perfect, it’s true/Funny though I am perfect for you/All the drama seem worth it for you/She put up with the shit like she work at the zoo, true/Now what you crying for?/She says you ain’t gon’ settle down, what you lyin’ for?/She want that old thing back/Things ain’t the same, think we both seen that/Love is war, end up on the floor/But baby you only lose when you don’t swing back/I say those word hoping that,/You fight for a nigga like I fight for you/Like I fight temptations every night for you/And know I slip, only girl in my life is you
It’s clear J.Cole is struggling against the temptation of cheating, if his lyrics are reflective of his life choices. Unfortunately, the reality is fame changes relationships. Kanye West and his college girlfriend split after he’d achieved his lifelong dreams. Big Sean slept on his girlfriend’s couch before he landed a record deal. He’s dating an actress now. Many other entertainers, politicians and public figures creep on their spouses.
The question to J.Cole’s girlfriend is whether it’s worth waiting on a cheater.