Texas pastor bans weaves

Pastor A.J. Aamir, founder of Resurrecting Faith in Waco, Texas, recently told his female staffers and leadership members that they’d need to “come as they are” from now on and leave the weaves behind.

While many Black women frequently experiment with their hair, at times choosing to cut it, braid it, twist it, or color it, Pastor Aamir thinks weaves are an indication of low self-esteem. He told AmericanPreachers.com, “Our black women are getting weaves trying to be something and someone they are not. Be real with yourself.”

Pastor Aamir, who was raised Muslim, admits that he is quite conservative, but while many see hair extensions as just another style, the 39-year-old minister says he’s sick of seeing his parishioners rocking phony ponies, especially if they can’t actually afford the expense.

He explained to  AmericaPreachers.com:

“Long hair don’t care. What kind of mess is that? I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads.

“I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. “Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”

Though Pastor Aamir can’t legally ban weaves in his congregation, he said he will continue to council his young flock–whose median age is just 22–against them.

While I sympathize with his concern about his parishioners’ financial struggles, I wonder if the good pastor is equally outspoken on truly important issues like safe sex, education, HIV testing, and political involvement.

  • Huh?

    “Our black women are getting weaves trying to be something and someone they are not. Be real with yourself.” <=== how is getting weave not being 'real with yourself'? The women I know get weaves for nobody but themselves.

  • lil ray

    And no concern about Child Molesters in church

  • waitWHAT

    there are bigger fish to fry within the black church and how we CHOOSE to style our hair isnt one of them.

  • L

    “I wonder if the good pastor is equally outspoken on truly important issues like safe sex, education, HIV testing, and political involvement.”

    While I agree that these are important issues, we cannot ignore the effects consumerism has had on the black community. Our mentality of “keeping up with Joneses” has hurt SOME people in the black community for decades. Until I quit seeing lines of people waiting to buy Jordans or hair stores with walls of weave, consumerism will always be an issue in our community. I think this pastor is brave for speaking against it rather than the usual prosperity preaching you hear these days.

  • deebsooreal

    “While I sympathize with his concern about his parishioners’ financial struggles, I wonder if the good pastor is equally outspoken on truly important issues like safe sex, education, HIV testing, and political involvement.”

    Ok, time has proven that the black church has failed at dealing with those issues, so why do we keep expecting them to something about those issues? The church just needs to worry about itself and itself only.

    Honestly him banning weaves in his church is reaching. I understand his concern for wanting to ban them but what his congregation does to their bodies is nothing but their business.

  • MommieDearest

    I am not a proponent of weaves, but I think women should wear them if they want to. I wonder if the pastor has chastised the brothers in his congregation who wear toupees or hair plugs?

    As far as the “concern” about sisters who are struggling financially, but have $300 weaves, well, how is that any different from the brother who’s perpetually broke but still manages to own several pair of $100 tennis shoes?

  • Margaret

    I think you hit the nail on the head. I am always baffled by people who insist on bringing other issues into an discussion about something else. No one asked this man what he thinks about HIV or safe sex. But that doesn’t negate the fact that some of our people have real issues when it comes to identity and priority. Pastors are supposed to teach. I commend him for speaking out.

  • http://www.claireshegoes.com Claire

    “While I sympathize with his concern about his parishioners’ financial struggles, I wonder if the good pastor is equally outspoken on truly important issues like safe sex, education, HIV testing, and political involvement.”

    Quite often when an individual indicates a passion for a particular issue, someone else makes a comment along the lines of the one that I quoted from your piece.

    We were not all made to be passionate about everything. I know that there are people who can afford to wear weaves without any problems. Yet the fact remains that poor people take money that would be better used on practical items, and spending it on superficial things such as hair.

    I’m not aware of this pastor’s other interests. However, I can’t fault him for his stance on black folks’ beauty standards.

  • http://www.claireshegoes.com Claire

    My gosh. I overlooked your comment. I feel exactly the same way.

  • Lisss

    Thank you!!!! And this most often happens when it is a religious person denouncing something. All of a sudden, the opposition find a list of topics that need to be discussed. Like you i dont know this pastor very well, but i am sure he has his opinion on sex education, HIV/AIDS etc… but for now, he is talking about weave.

  • http://gravatar.com/geenababe geenababe

    This not going to go over well. He might lose some memebers.

  • ms. information

    Many women wear weaves for convenience…this is their business…if they go broke…that is their lesson…let’s address black unemployment and all the black men in prison…there are bigger fish to fry.

  • JS

    Where’s the concern for men? I give major side eye to this preacher. While some of you are praising him for speaking out on the effects of consumerism on the Black community, this is nothing but a thinly veiled attempt to police a woman’s body/appearance. Where is his criticisms of men buying expensive chains, sneakers, tennis shoes, rims for cars, etc? Yet he chooses to solely focus on a women and their hair?

    How does he know how much a woman paid for her hair? Or if she can afford it? Does he personally balance her checking accounts and manage her credit? This is really ridiculous.

    I knew what was up right when I heard he was raised Muslim. They have stigma about a woman’s hair anyway so this guy isn’t fooling anyone.

  • aziza123

    Women with weaves HAVE a stigma about their hair, honey!

    Plus, this guy hasn’t talked about high petrol prices either, that doesn’t mean he hasn’t have an opinion on that too.

  • Beautiful Mic

    Praise the Lord!

  • HTown

    ““I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. “Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”

    I wonder if he feels the same way about those that struggle financially when it comes to paying tithes and offerings. Get real! He is not concerned about the self esteem of black women. He is concerned about the almighty dollar. If not, then why else bring up the cost of weave? He has a lot of nerve complaining about weaves when the church and hair companies are the biggest pimps of black women.

  • MommieDearest

    “we cannot ignore the effects consumerism has had on the black community. Our mentality of “keeping up with Joneses” has hurt SOME people in the black community for decades. Until I quit seeing lines of people waiting to buy Jordans or hair stores with walls of weave, consumerism will always be an issue in our community. I think this pastor is brave for speaking against it rather than the usual prosperity preaching you hear these days.”

    I agree with this 100%. My issue with the pastor is that he singled out women (with weaves). If he’s going to preach and teach about how consumerism is wreaking havoc on the black community, then he needs to cover ALL the bases and not just talk about black women and their hair choices. That smells of a personal agenda.

  • BeanBean

    Hahaha. He is right about the cost of weave. If you can afford it, go ahead wear one. I’ve actually been asked by a cousin to help pay her rent, even though she went and bought some Brazilian Virgin hair for $500 the day before! I don’t care if black women wear weave, but at least buy that weave from a BLACK OWNED STORE. Stop buying from Koreans, making them rich, everyone knows they can’t stand blacks.

  • JS

    Not everyone with a weave self hates or wants to be something they are not. That is false.

    Also your comment about high petrol prices is irrelevant. The commentary he is making suggests that the reason members of his church are struggling is because the women are wearing expensive weaves. So what men, because they are also members of his church as well, spend is completely relevant as well because we all know all the money the members of the church community have isn’t solely going to a woman’s weave expense. It is also going to men’s shoes, chains, rims, etc. An expensive weave isn’t the only problem contributing to their communities financial woes and anyone who thinks so is more than naive.

    However it isn’t hard to see that what he really cares about isn’t consumerism’s effects on Black people it is Black women’s hair since he has already stated he thinks Black women with weaves have self esteem issues. That right there is him inserting his subjective, peanut gallery opinion, onto something that doesn’t even concern him as a man.

  • Miakoda

    Attacking women is a favorite past time for Black men and boys.

  • JS

    Thank you!

  • Marketing Gimmicks

    What in the world does being a disciple and follower of Jesus have to do with the way a woman chooses to wear her hair?

  • MimiLuvs

    First off, maintaining one’s hair tad to be a dent in the wallet anyway, whether or not it is a weave or one’s own hair.
    I am going to play Devil’s Advocate…
    I wonder what one will say if this pastor also banned his female-congregation from wearing their hair in its natural state?

  • RJ

    I hear what you are saying but the reality of life is that there is a stream and many things are connected in life. What you think about yourself and how you carry yourself are connected to the way you walk in the world.

    We can multitask and work on everything but it is all connected. I remember reading a quot from Spike Lee’s wife Tanya. She got a weave and Spike and their son gave her a mountain of grief, but the turning point was that she was beginning a health initiative and soon realized that she could not be out there spouting off about Healthy Living walking around with a hair apparatus on her head.

    It is a spiritual thing. I never bought into our hair being our crown and glory because we all know that it is not a permanent thing. but it is life and the healthier we are the healthier our hair is. Just like the healthier our mind is the healthier our life is.

    Self Acceptance is a spiritual journey and it does start with something as basisc as the hair on your head and how you feel about it. That goes both ways. If one were to lose all of their hair what would one do? Life has a way of taking us down to the studs.

    I marvel at Interior Designer Sheila Bridges who lost her hair to an auto immune disease and she just decided to rock an Ohio Players cover model look and kept it moving. That is confidence and that woman is totally free.

    We as black women need to get back to finding our beauty within ourselves and while I do not generally have a problem with relaxers, The weaves and the blond hair are just too much and whether most of us will admit speak to a lack of self esteem.

  • RJ

    We have to take into consideration that the majority of church congregations are made of women. Sometimes women can comprise up to 90% of the members.

    He is speaking to his flock.

  • http://twitter.com/hairunruled un’ruly (@hairunruled)

    Fun topic! Two points:

    (1) You can buy a $30 wig that looks like a $300 weave. There’s really no need to spend that much money on hair if you don’t want to or can’t afford it.

    (2) I agree with all those saying what a woman wears on her head is her choice, as well as with the fact that wearing a weave does not equal low self esteem. “Accepting my hair” is not an indication of whether or not I’ve accepted myself or am happy with myself. I measure my self-content through what I’m able to create; how much of my potential I can realize and through the strength of my relationships with family and friends. The texture or length of my hair is inconsequential.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    I think his point is the expense that comes along with maintaining a weave…natural hair doesn’t have to be expensive, though for many it is, unnecessarily.

  • http://gravatar.com/chapterbylolly getmelolly

    I see where he’s coming from but he CAN’T demand it.

    Maybe as a congregation they should look at what is going on in the hearts of the women and address that first. If it’s a case that they are wearing extensions due to a lack of self-esteem etc, then should work at remedying that.

    But it might be a case of protective styling or maybe they just like the way it looks.

    Either way he definately has no ground to demand that sort of thing…

    … is he going to start telling men not to get a shape up or trim their beards. I think not!

  • Ash

    Why do men assume wearing weave or makeup is tied to a low self-esteem? I have natural hair and have never worn weave but I know plenty of women who wear weave for reasons not tied to pride or trying to be white.

    My Mom wears a wig b/c it’s easy for her to keep her hair conditioned under the wig and she doesn’t have to style her hair everyday.

    Also, the Pastor shouldn’t make it a habit of pointing out how much things cost. Does he REALLY know if it’s $300? People that concern themselves with other’s finances kill me.

  • Nic

    Thank you…he should school his brethren who have molested children in the church or the ones who treat the church like a club and are sleeping with many of their female parishoners. I just can’t with these ministers who want to shine a light on everyone else but not own their own stuff.
    And at any rate, he is responsible for fulfilling people’s spriritual needs. No one is dying b/c of someone’s fake ponytail.

  • Apple

    Who gone be at church then? All men and like 5 women? I’ve gone to many black churches and very few women don’t have some kind of wig (old women)or weave(young women/teens)

  • Nic

    Oh, you know black men are loath to shine a light on the problems that impact them. Much better to pretend like they are great and all of the problems in the black community are b/c of black women.
    And when black men do call it out, everyone gets upset, but those same people will NOT be upset about this facile approach/theory to “solving” what exactly? Financial instability? Internalized racism?
    How is he going to raise the self-esteem of the black men who have bought into the idea that anything whiter or lighter is the epitome of beauty?

  • Nic

    Right, no talk about any of the ways black men waste money? But yeah, let’s hear people talk about how he can only handle one issue at a time.
    And how about looking in the mirror b/c is he one of those pimptastic preachers who is setting a bad example for her parishioners with his own rampant consumerism? B/c these guys have no problem taking exorbitant salaries from money that ultimately comes out of the pockets of their cash strapped parishioners.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    “I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. “Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”

    I see no issue with him speaking out on this…i hope he’s offering money management classes for his flock!

  • AnnT

    He may have one of those churches that require the congregants to turn in a w-2 form to ensure that they’re tithing the “correct amount.”

  • Treece

    He’s an idiot. Plain and simple. What on earth does having a weave have to do with your salvation and anything in the Bible. As a Christian pastor, part of his job is to lead souls to Christ, help those in need (through volunteerism/charity etc.), and to deliver the word of God. Will he also advise his congregation about other things that may distract from learning the word of God or raising one’s children like drug abuse, unprotected sex, and other issues that affect men as well as women (and are FAR more important)??

    Yes there are women who choose to get $300 dollar weaves rather than take proper care of thier children BUT, there are also men AND women who spend thier money on lots of other things before taking good care of thier kids (jewelry, shoes, electronics, entertainment). How is this fool going to ban all of those things? This is his way of controlling the women in his congregation. This has absolutely nothing to do with God and he should be ashamed.

    This kind of stupidity is part of what gives Christianity a bad name for some folks. The Bible says come as you are but you have men like this constantly policing women about what they should and should not wear. Ridiculous….

  • Nic

    Seriously, these black ministers get paid to live like rap stars and don’t care that the money comes from the pockets of these people when it is about paying for their luxury cars…

  • Tracy

    Taking weave away from black women is like taking a gun from a white man-Not gonna happen their too obsessed.

  • JRM

    Next up he’ll be telling his staff members to “service” him or to drink poison. It’s gods will.I smell Waco on this one ya’ll……. WTH I dont care if he mentions the amount of money that some women put into beauty items but in the end its a personal decision and its up to the individual to come to the realization that they could prioritize financially!!!

  • JRM

    Exactly, he’s trying to mix his Muslim upbringing and Christianity, which are worlds apart in their message. Christians are not under law as Muslims but under grace (and while some take advantage of this, they have to answer to the Almighty as an individual). I call BS on this one

  • Treece

    Thank you! And those tennis shoes can cost upwards of $200 -$300 a pop yet the man who owns them can’t make steady child support payments or get his own place…..this isn’t about hair, or children, or priorities in the Black church. This is about this man’s desire to control the women in his congregation. He, just as well as everyone else, knows that there are far more pressing issues going on in Waco, TX than to be concerned about than the way the women in the church wear their hair.

    Women who are financially struggling, yet wearing weaves that cost several hundred dollars may be a SYMPTOM of the overall larger issue of child/family neglect and bad parenting. But if those are the real issues, then address them at the root. If he is actually truly seeing signs of poor self esteem (of which wearing weaves has nothing to with with the real signs of low self worth) then he should organize church groups and workshops that address the real issues. No book I’ve ever read in my 3 years of graduate study in counseling says anything about wearing hair adornments as a sign of a woman’s low self esteem or lack of self worth…..

    It’s all about control and this man knows what he’s doing. It’s controlling, and he’s testing the waters to see how much of a puppetmaster he can be. I’m not falling for it and neither should they

  • O’Phylia

    Tell him to whine about something that’s actually you know, important. Whatever’s on a black woman’s head is her business and no one else’s.

  • noirluv45

    Well, they shouldn’t have a high stigma about THEIR hair. Why would they? Why don’t people learn to mind their own business?

    Just like JS said, what this pastor is doing is telling women what they can wear not wear, what they can do and not do with their bodies. Isn’t that a “no-no.” That’s what I hear on this site all the time.

    I’m sick of the hypocrisy. We pick and choose what we protest.

    Who cares what his opinion is. Everyone has one. He needs to be preaching about more pressing things. Many of us are always complaining about “the Black community.” What a woman wears on her head is not a priority.

  • noirluv45

    I agree with you JS. Now, women are always squawking about people telling us what we can do/not do with out bodies, but yet, people sing this pastor’s praises.

    When are many of us going to start prioritizing what we get angry about? While wearing weaves is the topic of this particular conversation, what you said ties in perfectly.

  • noirluv45

    Why don’t people just take care of their own houses, lives, and bodies and quit worrying about what others are doing. SMH.

    Many on here are praising the pastor, so let’s put our money where our mouth is. We keep talking, yapping, and hollering about the same damn thing, yet what gets done? Does this pastor have a plan in mind other than telling women what they can wear on their damn heads? is he holding finance classes or such to educate them or is he just a dictator? Do you guys want anyone dictating what you wear on your head or how you spend your money? I think not, so let’s cut the crap.

    Maybe someone else is buying these women weaves. i don’t know, but I’m sick of this dictatorial attitude as it relates to Black people. Today it’s weaves; tomorrow it’s something else.

  • JS

    Women may consume more items as we buy more variety of products than men do but consumerism is just a big of problem for men. Men are more likely to spend money on more intangible things like strip clubs, gambling, expensive bottles of alcohol, etc. They have less to show for it so it just seems like they consume less but they consume plenty and in some cases consume way more. (generalizing of course not all men, but then again not all women are into shoes or weaves either so it goes both ways).

    Also does your assessment of hair mean men should not wear or spend money on hair plugs, toupees, or hair loss treatments? Or are you only trying to control what a woman does to her hair?

  • PVO

    i would first worry about my own spelling skills before judging others financial decisions. they’re*

  • Bobbie

    He’s more concerned that the $300.00 that the women spend on weaves is not going into his pocket. Otherwise why should he care? To wear a weave or not to wear one is not up to his discretion, it is a personal style that is the right of anyone who wishes to wear it. Find another way to put money in your pocket Rev. Moneysnatcher!

  • ladydee72

    So I wear a weave it means I have low self esteem. Is this pastor for real? He knows his members are struggling financially, so does he give back tithing and offering to his members to help? How dare he infringe on peoples personal choices such decisions are personal and left to a persons personal conviction. I bet he will change his tune when him membership drops and the offering plate is empty.

  • http://twitter.com/RealDIVASrLARGE RealDivasRLARGE! (@RealDIVASrLARGE)

    I’m sorry I agree with the pastor

  • Eunice

    I also think that coming from a man who likely has never had to deal with doing hair on a daily basis is hilarious. He doesn’t know the struggle that can come with having a head full of hair and possibly several young daughters hair to do on a regular basis. Maintenance and upkeep can be very time consuming. I get what he is trying to say but his delivery was all the way wrong. Talk to me about my hair when you have your own to deal with. He needs to have several seats.

  • http://www.HairBiz2020.com HairBiz2020

    Bobbie, the pastor has a point. Based on his beliefs on weave hair, he is correct to advise against it. I believed the same thing before I learned better. Just like guns don’t kill people, nails, make-up and hair do not make people fake.

    Certainly, we need to be cautious of excessive spending and consumption, whether it is on tennis shoes, cars, furniture, etc., but the good pastor may want to consider that Real Women Wear Weave Too.

    Our business is actually an opportunity to redirect the millions of dollars spent on Weave Hair BY our community back TO our community. We ask the question, why continue to be taken for granted by your existing suppliers? Buy and sell hair from someone that cares about you as a person.

    HairBiz2020dotcom is here to make a difference!

  • Miakoda

    No one, because there are way more Black women who attend church than Black men.

  • http://tedmiked.wordpress.com tedmikedmike

    See that is your problem. you are always competing with black men ! You are just like the racist white people who can’t stop talking about black people.

    No-one is saying weaves are bad and jordans are good, i am sure if you ask the pastor about it we would have a problem with it because he is also concerned about the reckless spending of our people.Not to mention NAACP even had a campaign against companies who specifically target black youth to buy their stupid shoes.

    But none of this matter to you because, it is not about what is good or bad to black people with BW like you, but your unhealthy competition with black men. If you want to be a man so bad, there is surgery you can get.

  • http://twitter.com/rakillers the miller (@rakillers)

    Here is Tommy Sotomayor take on this….every black women need to listen to this.

    Google this….

    /watch?v=a_GHus1juMM

  • ruggie

    If this had come from the women of the church, it might have been empowering, a challenge to the status quo around hair and priorities. But the male-dominated, top down dynamic makes the whole thing shaky. That dynamic actually keeps more men away from the church.

  • http://twitter.com/rakillers the miller (@rakillers)

    No, they get it to look like a white women or (more like a cheap imitation of a white women).

    Be yourself, be proud.

  • Kev

    He is just another pirate. Here to brainwash and rob y’all!

  • Cocochanel31

    Off topic but we all know Keyshia from the block can sew your hair in for less than $100 ..I thinkhe needs to leave this to the women’s ministry….

  • MommieDearest

    tedmikedmike,

    Get therapy.

  • https://www.facebook.com/JaniceMarieSingleton Janice Marie Singleton

    This is the second time in two weeks that I have read about Pastors in Texas. One went to a Rap concert, and was fired. Now, this Pastor is well-meaningly, strongly suggesting that his female flock not wear their hair as they would like. Hmm… Texas Christians, just sincerely hope that the words of your mouths and the meditations of your hearts are prepared to be acceptable in GOD’S sight.

  • http://tedmiked.wordpress.com tedmikedmike

    lol….the last refuge of someone who got nothing to say.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    This!!! I was just about to say that I hope this pastor and the church isn’t the same type of church that pass the collection plate around 5 or 6 times or the one where the pastor lives large off of their parishioners since he is worry about their pockets. I get what he was trying to say but his message fail flat.

  • Sharon J.

    I disagree. I think a lot of black women wear weaves to look appealing to black men. I think the pastor is showing that there are black men who appreciate the God-given texture of our hair. Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with wearing weaves. They are not as expensive as some believe and it takes great artistry and skill in applying them.

    Women often wear them just to change their looks. Some wear them because they have thinning hair. Unfortunately, there also is that element that have self-hatred issues and are ashamed of the texture and/or length of their hair. I think the pastor was referring more to those women.

  • Sharon J

    Good point!

  • Anne

    I have to agree with you. Waco, Texas has a history of cult religion. David Koresh comes to mind. Blafk folks need to start thinking for themselves and not allow pastors and others to tell them what to do.

  • http://yahoo.com rosepottinger

    I totally agree with this pastor. Seriously? If I see another black woman with a weave, or wig, I am going to scream. If you want to know if our women are developing self loathing, just listen to what they say when the weaves or wigs come off their heads. Their comments are not complementary. I am saddned that we have come so far, and yet have not reached anywhere. In my church at least 90 percent of the congregation wears weaves or wigs, and it makes them look foolish. Often the hair ages them, the colour is not right for the skin type, and it is way too long. Even their little 3 and 4 year olds have extensions. Enough is enough. Half or our women in search of the beauty that has been defined for them, are going bald, from the wigs and weaves, yet they continue to pursue a false beauty. It is time to stop the madness, and go back to the real beauty that God has blessed us with. If we are not bleaching we are weaving, or wiging, and frankly this ditracts from our real beauty. When God created us, He said “this is good” now we are saying to ourselves and each other, not good enough! that is a lie from the pit, and too many of our people are falling into it. Just come as you are indeed, much better that come as everyone is
    pretending to be,

  • http://gravatar.com/hnlaw hnlaw

    this is a so called minster who thought he saw a P in the sky to go preach ,but it mean go ply

  • Treece

    LOL! @ tedmikedmike

    no one is trying to compete with men! You have so missed the point! It’s about there being more important issues that include both men and women going on in the Black church. We spend a lot of time pointing fingers at one another for problems that face our community, but fail to see the bigger picture, like this pastor is doing. He is so busy blaming and trying to police what womenwear on their heads that he is missing opportunities to hit on the REAL issues. As much as men like him complain about women and weaves being responsible for poor finances or bad parenting or reflections of low self esteem, they could spend thier time more wisely taking care of the real issues. I mentioned the sneakers as an illustration of how men’s spending frivolously gets overlooked in these situations (which I believe is a valid point).

    I have no desire to be a man. I am happy and rejoice in my womanhood everyday. I just feel the need to point out sexism when I see it just as I point out racism. But just like White people sometimes fail to see it, men like you fail to notice sexism and get your under-roos all in a bunch when women speak their minds. Save it for someone who cares Sir. Good day….

  • Shouting!

    Amen to the Pastor. Tell it Pastor! Preach now! Let the church say Amen. lol

  • SayWhat

    Amen

  • Karen

    This is exactly why I don’t like some pastors. What does weave have to do with a relationship with God. Absolutely nothing! The real issue is he’s probably worried about how much his members are spending on the hair and not putting in his hands. It has nothing to do with teaching the word of God. I love the Lord, I truly do, but I will not get side tracked by someone’s irrelevant opinion. And to think, you have so many followers ready to jump on the bandwagon. They are too busy looking up to the pastor instead of looking up to God, just like the children of Isreal who desperately wanted a King. And I don’t even wear weave! I’m as natural as they come. But its judgmental people like this who keep people out the church!

  • http://www.clutchmagonline.com Karen

    Tell me people, what does weave have to do with my salvation?? Absolutely nothing! This is exactly why I don’t like some pastors. You are judgmental. How I wear my hair has nothing to do with anything. I am sure there are much deeper issues in your church and home. And, Im sure you are more concerned with the money that’s spent on hair, and not place into your hands. I love the Lord, I truly do! I feel sorry for the people who are ready to jump on your bandwagon!

  • RJ

    You are right Nic, but here is how I see these things. We black women clean up the little bit of cleaning up in our house and then we will collectively be able to point out and call them to the carpet.

    I am not saying this in regard to black men chasing after white women because Lord knows that is something that will require deprogramming.

    But as Prince says: “Style is loving YOURSELF to everyone else does too/” We black women had this in the bag for decades. Since the beginning of the millenium we have faltered by thinking that our freedom comes from doing whatever it is Becky is doing and chasing after Becky’s aesthetic.

    This is silly when Becky is not always hitting on much but she tells her self that she is the cream of the crop and everyone else believes it.

    We have the power to turn this around. Take a look at any Pininterest page devoted to black Beauty and you will see some incredible looking black women who wear thier hair natural or relaxed some may dye their hair red or jet black,. but the most beautiful ones leave the weaves and wigs alone. Authenticity wins everytime.

  • Jo-Ann

    He’s an authority abuser.

  • http://charter claudia cian

    I disagree with telling women how to wear their hair…however, if you are not paying your bills, accepting food stamps, and rely on the government for support, and pay for weaves, then your priorities are not balanced..the extensions should be last of the list of priorities.. If we followed ALL teachings in our Bible we would not have problems …we seem to “pick” what works for our situation/convenience…

  • http://gravatar.com/latinlover Pseudonym

    The whole weave epidemic is driving me mad! but I also didn’t like the Gladiator sandal trend and think that leggings should not be worn as pants (i.e. please cover your butt in those things!). But that’s for me to think and maybe say if asked and that’s about it. Point is, I have a right to my opinion (as does this preacher) about what I perceive to be fashionable or unfashionable. What I DON’T have is a a right to dictate what other grown women wear b/c of my personal opinion of what makes for good lookbooks.

    …but I do feel him on the cost. Nothing makes you want to slap somebody more than to have a woman come into your clinic on public aid with a head full of weave and brand new acrylic nails. Even if homegirl in the projects did the sew-in for $100 (which does not include the cost of the hair), if you can’t afford to buy your own groceries without public assistance, you can’t afford weaves, acrylic nails, fake Gucci bags, etc.

  • Sunny

    I wonder what his wife looks like. I remember a brother in college dogging out sisters with relaxers. When I asked about his girlfriend, he said, she just happens to have naturally straight hair. Coincidence – nah.

  • Moiiiii

    And….women should be able to wear their hair however they choose…

  • Tina

    Plenty of women do their own sew ins & if you have a decent batch of hair it can be used for multiple installations.

  • RaiseTheBar

    @tedmikedmike

    You have valid points, they’re just directed at the wrong poster.

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    “See that is your problem. you are always competing with black…! You are just like the racist white people who can’t stop talking about black people.”

    “…NAACP even had a campaign against companies who specifically target black youth to buy their stupid shoes.”

    “…none of this matter to you because, it is not about what is good or bad to black people … but your unhealthy competition with black …”

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    To that individual: Why post your comment as if it is coming from a black woman?, just speak “your personal TRUTH.” But first, you need to figure out what is “your” personal TRUTH.

    A neighbor married to a black man thought that made her a card carrying black woman. I quickly grew to dislike her and dismissed my opinion of her believing it was just because she was too much into my personal space. But, she pissed off everyone she knew with her, “hey gurl”, “what’s up gurl”, you “darkies” are not qualified to speak and think for yourselves and need me, Ms. Anne to save you from yourselves. She never spoke to any of US or treated any of US as INDIVIDUALS. To this day, I believe she takes no responsibility for why she is so disliked, ‘cauze in her white she must be right???

  • https://www.facebook.com/mariah.crenshaw Mariah Crenshaw

    He is right about one thing: women are self conscious about their hair. The Bible says it is her crown and glory. Many women suffer from hair loss and thinning hair which does adversely affect a woman’s self esteem. Instead of beating them up about it and their finances teach them stewardship and create a program to help increase self esteem. His response is not biblical…

  • Paula Harris

    No one has a right to tell anyone how to style their hair. My major concern would be the soul, character, and integrity. At times we can get things twisted!!

  • https://www.facebook.com/ebonynicolewilson Ebony GoingtoschooltobeanOptometrist Wilson

    Sounds like he needs a lil more money! Women are laying a way weave now!

  • tammy

    what does “black community” even mean these days? blacks dont always all live next door to eachother. There is no “black community”.Lower middle class, middle-class, and upper middle class regardless of race will usually never have the same zip code or spending habits so its incorrect to use the terminology “community” just because of a shared race. do we all have the same personality too? this crab-thinking “we are all the same” is getting exhausting!

  • Pepper

    I wonder if tithes, and offerings have slowed down, and that’s why he wants women to stop spending so much money on their hair? I know in seeing The Butler over the weekend I thought to myself that we as Black women really need to go back to the Afro. Fros SAVE a lot of time, and MONEY!!

  • Pepper

    Which is exactly why I don’t go to church. I don’t fall for the Okey doke, and refuse to be pimped! Most churches aren’t addressing what they really need to be addressing

  • MommieDearest

    Totally off topic-

    Ebony, if that’s your picture in your avi, you are beautiful.

  • Pepper

    “turn in a W-2″ WOW! You are kidding right? I thought Christianity is based on honesty, and integrity….so why would someone have to show their W-2. No way in H would I expose my personal business to a church.

  • Pepper

    Women can only be pimped if they allow themselves to be pimped. And millions of women are allowing themselves to be pimped by the church, and the Chinese, Asian, and Indian hair store owners.

  • Pepper

    Bean so true about the Korean store owners. But black women keep flocking to their stores, and spending BIG Bucks $$$$ !!

  • Terrance

    Though I don’t agree with a ban, I DO AGREE with his point. I am secretly embarrassed, and sometimes angered by this hair weave phenomena. Moreover, I am utterly saddened by all the usual anecdotes and defensive answers being spewed by those who support weaves. Most often the Asian people who sell them to our African American Women do not respect them, but yet they still buy from them as they laugh all the way to the Bank. Low Self Esteem? You Bet!

  • leelah

    or just to fit into the beauty standard. for many reasons, we know we could never look like white women

  • shawty

    But, some black women say black men make them live up to the white standard of beauty.

    It can’t be both.

    Seems like black men are the main group tell bw to be natural.

  • Terrance

    How is getting weave not being ‘real with yourself’? The women I know get weaves for nobody but themselves.

    This is only what they SAY,….. but should only be viewed as what it truly is,…another “knee jerk” defensive answer used to cover up the obvious. As a human being we ALL feel better about ourselves if we think we look good to others. Somehow, you cant feel good about your natural hair if you choose to cover it up or hide it with someone else’s. Moreover, 90% of the time its of a different grade and from a different ethnicity. It says to me, (and Im sure a lot of others) is ” I wish this grew out of my head as opposed to what’s underneath”.

  • https://www.facebook.com/meena.westmitchell Meena West Mitchell

    once I read the story, it did seem as if he needs that money in the collection plate and not on the heads of the women… What is this guy, a pastor or a financial adviser??

  • Pepper

    Miller: Thanks for the link. Sotomayor brought it home. Black women need to listen to the brother.

  • Terrance

    Stay on topic lil ray, nobody likes child molesters. How about adding some relevant commentary.

  • Pepper

    Rose you made some good points! And don’t forget about the bad ‘GLUE’ jobs! I just SMH when I see them.

  • Terrance

    Esteem and how we see ourselves as African American people ties in DIRECTLY to the myriad of problems we face inside AND outside of the church. Ultimately this issue goes beyond style, the style is the way the curl falls, if it is straight, if it is parted, where its parted, the color etc. THATS STYLE. The problem is why you feel inclined to wear it, and we all know that its not just for the style! Just because Oprah wears one doesn’t change the question for her or anyone else who wears one.

  • Pepper

    Terrance I agree 100 %. But I’m not secretly embarrassed. I’m open about my disdain, and have actually questioned (close) friends before as to why they are wearing weaves. One of my friends actually has a beautiful head of hair; but she said she guess she’s just lazy because braids are easier, and less expensive for her to maintain on a daily basis. And your comment about the Asians who sell hair is spot on. They are laughing all the way to the bank

  • Pepper

    Preach Psuedo! Preach!!

  • Terrance

    He is just a man expressing his opinion. I say,..Pastor or not he is just a man and is entitled to one. However, what he ISNT entitled to is imposing a ban on what someone chooses to wear. I personally don’t like weaves myself.

  • Terrance

    To Pepper, Thanks for the positive response first of all.
    Now think about this.
    If they’re wearing the weaves for convenience, then why stop there? Hypothetically, would you stop brushing your teeth because you could fit a pair of “pearly whites” right over your them? NO Right? Im sorry, but to me its no different. If your too lazy to comb or style your own hair then what else are you neglecting to do, hygienically, or otherwise?

  • Keepingitreal

    Isn’t it sexist to speak to a grown woman as if she was a child?

  • Nic

    @RJ, I don’t need any cheerleading regarding my hair or how I wear it. I will say a lot of people are kind of brand new in terms of natural hair and incorrectly assume the rest of us are as well. And I am loath to discuss my opinions on hair other than to say that I do what I do and others are free to do the same.

    But I do not think any man, no matter what platform/pulpit/uniform/costume he is wearing has a right to police the choices a woman makes, and this is especially true in the black community where internalized racism and anti-black woman misogyny unfortunately influences the choices that some women make.

    And as black women, I feel we should address the anti-black woman campaign that some black men fell hell bent in engaging in rather than giving any credence to the notion that their opinions matter. They don’t.

    Here is the difference. I want to actually uplift my sisters, not destroy them. Regardless of what you ultimately wear on your head, the hope is that you love what is growing out of your scalp and also what you see in the mirror. I hope that you change it up to really change it up and not b/c you think what you have is inferior. Black men who mock women for wearing weaves are still frequently hypocrites when it comes to what they say and what they do.

  • kgo

    That would be a whole different issue. One cannot focus on 50 different issues at once. If he spoke about child molesters, u would ask what about drug dealers?

  • Kelse

    As a woman who loves rocking her natural fro yet also switches it up by playing with different colors, weaves, wigs, and braids I’m very offended by the notion that just because a woman chooses to alter HER opinion its a tell tale sign of self loathing/rejection. Sometimes a woman likes variety. For many women hair is an accessory and they reserve the right to do what they want to it and any man dictating how they should wear it comes off very condescending and sexist.

    Also “I don’t want my members so focused on what’s on their heads and not IN their heads.” I call BS, just because I’m interested in how my hair looks I can’t also have sense. Wonder how the pastor feels about perms, texturizers and braids. Are those women not keeping it real either? The idea of womens hair getting policed when there are 50leven other things the church can be worried about being vigilant about irks me

  • angel

    I am upset by this, more upset than I can articulate (I am not sure why this is eating at me so)
    while the heart behind this may be genuine (i am hoping so), the way he went about this was sexist and abusive in my opinion. and yes i am a christian, i attend my church regularly and love my pastor and his wife. i do believe that pastor’s are charged with leading their flocks but this just doesn’t sit right with me. it feels like some of the constrictive teachings in other churches i have witnessed: women can’t cut their hair. women can’t wear make-up. women have to wear skirts to their ankles, women can’t wear certain colors, women can’t have exposed shoulders, no spaghetti straps, etc etc etc.
    i understand and respect decorum and not being inappropriately dressed in the church (for those who know better, some younger (in not just age but heart) may need time) but there is a difference between that and bondage. where the spirit of the Lord is their is liberty, not this. in my opinion

  • James Anthony

    I have never read clutch magazine previously, however as an Afrikan male , I am so pleased to be able to read an article and especially from a preacher who told his female congregation to stop weaving weaves is on eo fthe greatest statements any sane Afrikan could ever give. The pastor is 100% correct in his assessment low self esteem, lack of confidence in GOD yet these same females would want to strangle you if you advised them that a) they are chemically damaging themselves and loved ones, all fake false hair regardless of the type ha to be treated with chemicals, which is injested by babies b) these harmful chemicals seep into the females bodies via their pours, and in turn can have impact of their eggs, which in turn creates major issues such as dry skin, exzema etc. c) wearing other nations DNA is very sick d) paying so much for it e) 99.9% of these products are sold by non Afrikans f) Afrikans keep these people in business, send their children to college ,etc
    the Pastor is mor ethat correct, he shoul dbe awarded the congretial medal of honor fo rhis comments, and by the way his congregation’s health will improve as well as their bank balance..

    Stay Blessed

    James Anthony

  • James Anthony

    Th epastor should be congratulated for not only is stance but for his comments, which is 100% true

  • Phillygurl

    Just another tactic by someone to try to control black women, their choices and their bodies. Good luck with that black women don’t comply with demands especially when you don’t lead by example. I don’t wear weave but I’m glad many black women are calling bs on this.

  • JS

    There was no need for this to be so long. After saying “however as an Afrikan male” you should have ended this with, ” I have no place or right to speak on what a woman does with her hair” PERIOD. End of story.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    I agree! Points A-F!

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    RE: Also, the Pastor shouldn’t make it a habit of pointing out how much things cost. Does he REALLY know if it’s $300? People that concern themselves with other’s finances kill me.

    If that 26 year old mother with a $300+ weave is struggling financially, and comes to the church for financial assistance, then yes, I’d say it does concern the pastor!

    Anytime you have are financially struggling, priorities need to come into play…hair isn’t one of them.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    YES! We don’t even realize our buying power…but others (the church, and the Chinese, Asian, and Indian hair store owners) certainly do! You want to make money off a woman? Challenge her vanity!

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    Exactly! If that isn’t an indication of the lack of self acceptance and love, IDK what is! You spend money where people hate you!

  • https://www.facebook.com/rippygirl Jackie Rippy

    While you cannot tell people what and what not to wear on their heads, I totally agree with him. I wore wigs in the 60′s and 70′s when it was really in style. I have even worn the ponytails when I worked. But it has gotten out of control. You can’t go anyplace most of the time and find at least 1 black female without wigs and weaves. Most times they look so fake. The majority of the Asians who sell the hair are Not at all friendly with black customers. As someone already stated, we are funding their educations and their security away from black people. Most of the Asian stores that I frequent, have 1 or 2 black men guarding the door but no workers other than that. One of my granddaughters loves long, long weave but I explain to her that she should expose her own hair now and then. She is an honor-student. But some folks do care more about what goes on their heads and not in their heads.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    RE: “I lead a church where our members are struggling financially. I mean really struggling. “Yet, a 26 year old mother in my church has a $300 weave on her head. NO. I will not be quiet about this.”

    I think the pastor is addressing a very real concern; lack of financial priorities (poverty)! Why should he or any church member have to pick up the slack (financial assistance) when a family doesn’t have and the reason they don’t is because of $200 jordans, $300 weave, Nails did etc…

    I hope this Pastor has financial education workshops available to his flock.

  • Cher

    I’m sorry but what does how a person style their hair have to do with saving their souls? If he is going to use that verse to condemn weave then it should apply to wearing earrings, waxing and shaving.

  • SJ Law

    How about focusing on something that’s not so superficial? Wigs and weaves go back to ancient times and almost every culture has some form of artificial hair. It is not a mark of low self-esteem. If the pastor is so concerned about how much money women spend on their hair he should counsel them on finances, give a sermon on what Jesus said about money or establish programs in the church that educates women on how to make ends meet. Then, if a woman decides that hair is an expense that is not necessary she can make that choice–on her own.

  • https://www.facebook.com/rippygirl Jackie Rippy

    Black women have no desire to look like white women. Period.

  • https://www.facebook.com/rippygirl Jackie Rippy

    It’s more like art. The head is a canvas. No one wants to look like white women…not even white women.

  • https://www.facebook.com/ethel.cox1 Ethel Cox

    I feel the Pastor on this on sooooo many levels.!. You should not be rocking weave if you cant pay your bills. You should not be wearing weave if you can’t afford to feed you and your kids! You Shouldn’t be buying weave if your on any type of public assistance. I hate seeing an expensive weave and it don’t match the roots.

    Most of the women on here mad are more then likely they hoodies he is referring too!

  • AJW

    Black men whine & complain about racism from white & non-black males all while having Ming Lee, Conchita & Becky in their beds & on their arms.

    Black women whine & complain about white beauty standards being unfair all while running to the beauty supply store to buy hair that looks like Ming Lee, Conchita & Becky’s

    INTERESTING……

  • simplyme

    I get it. I really do…but I wish people would focus on more important things. If whats inside the head is so much more important (as he says) then he should focus there. Hair is just a symptom (if that at all).

    As someone whose been natural for years… I can admit that there are women who wear weaves with a solid head on their shoulders, who have their priorities in check, and have high self esteem. There are some natural women who have low self esteem and who are still willing to shell out that $300 a month that they don’t have on new hair products because they use their hair to fill a void. As much as we like to make weave the scapegoat for everything, the root(no pun intended) of what he’s talking about doesn’t have much to do with hair at all.

  • lola289

    @ leelah &Jackie cosign 1000%

  • lola289

    Ummm that’s Oprah’s hair…but everything else I can agree with.

  • Lunatic Frank

    black women who claim to love and appreciate god how much do you appreciate god when you constantly trying to cover up or alter the hair god gave you? i guess the love of european/asian/indian hair outweighs your love for the lord

  • lola289

    And perms are ok?
    My guy is ok with weaves, but he hates perms so there definitely are many different issues that should be addressed.
    We try to keep up w/ the “white” Joneses because they are the majority. Unfortunately, its just the truth. Women want to look and feel their best and for some thats looking like Kim K or Esperanza S or Olivia P…

    Thats All…nothing more or less

  • Keepingitreal

    I’m a Christian as well. In the NT, the Pharisees had all sorts of rules and regulations that weren’t Biblical. The Pharisees hated the fact that Jesus would not follow THEIR rules. Legalists want to control other people.

  • cynthia Pringle

    Im so glad we live in a country where a woman can be who SHE wants to be. Im thankful that there are choices that we can experiment with and if it cost $700 its her tab. The only woman he needs to harp on is His woman. Let every man have his Own wife. What someone deem as beautiful is unique to them. Find another way to make money for your church. I do however, agree that weave, perm, contacts and anything else a woman chooses to rock, should not be out of low esteem but enhancement. Loving who you are is First.

  • E. Graves

    What has the WEAVE got to do with a persons salvation??? This is one of the craziest statements I have ever hear coming from a Pastor. I happen to be the wife of a Pastor, 35 years, and I have never heard of such. If this is the case, then I guess having false teeth may even be wrong or what about a person who needs eye surgery? I feel that this Pastor is so off base that He needs much prayer. If enhancing the outside makes you feel better on the inside, go ahead and do it. As long as it is not causing anyone to stumble in their Christian Walk, I don’t see a thing wrong with it. Go ahead girls and “eat the cookie and buy the shoes”. Quote from Joyce Meyers.

  • Marie

    A better focus would be to help congregants (men and women), those who need it, understand the value of money and how to budget and prioritize expenses. What a wasted opportunity to teach real financial growth.

  • Clovis Robinson

    A.J. Aamir is totally right. Because the scriptures says thou shalt not bear false witness. If it is fake its not God. For all the women who says I ain’t got to listen to what that preacher says. I don’t care who you think you are you will stand before God for everything that pastor has told you and you didn’t listen, God called that pastor not you. That is the reason the world is in the shape its in because there is no fear of God in anybodies eyes. That preacher stands for God and if you don’t fear him and what he says you will go to hell. Women have that Eve spirit about then and you better be getting rid of it.

  • Human

    I’m shocked at all the comments ripping apart what the pastor said. Basically, if you’re struggling to make end meet the last thing on your mind should be to get an expensive hair do.
    I have no problems with weaves; people are free to do whatever they want with their hair. However, when your default hairstyle looks nothing like your natural texture and you would rather starve than be seen with your natural tresses then there’s a problem.

    To all the ladies using the example of men wearing toupees, how many of you actually know anyone that wears a toupee who isn’t bald underneath it? how many women you know wear weave? How many non-black women you know wear weave? We need to stop with the They Do It Too attitude and take a deep, long, hard look at ourselves.

  • Ty

    Last time I checked, God doesn’t care about what’s on your head, but what’s in your heart.

  • Blvdjewel

    This man has definitely overstepped his boundaries. It is not his job to tell women or anyone else how to wear their hair.

  • Georgia

    Thank you–I can’t believe how many people on this and other sites overlook this part of the quote, which could not be more of a real issue facing not just our communities but America. The man isn’t attacking weaves; he’s using a very real example he watches parade in and out of his church week in and week out to remind people about misplaced value and priorities. Just like a commenter said on the post about the woman with the 25-year old dreadlocks, your hair is not worth jeopardizing your health for, and it damn sure isn’t worth sacrificing the roof over your head/the food in your family’s mouths.

    And this is one story; who’s to say this pastor hasn’t addressed all of those other issues plaguing his congregation?

  • Keepingitreal

    He was the one who made the sexist rule. He is accountable to God’s Word.

  • http://www.facebook.com/DuffiMcDuff Ahjahta McDuffie

    Oh wow! I actually understand where he is coming from. I like to wear extensions/ falls/weaves because I like to experiment. I like my natural hair, but it gets boring after a while. Lol! He does have a point though. Ladies, love yourself just the way you are!!!

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    I agree…most people are ignoring the fact that the pastor was addressing the financially unstable flock, who ball on a budget, yet come to church w/ a hand out.

  • Humanista

    What? It can be both–because “black men” aren’t an entity, but a group of individuals. And different individuals put out different messages.

  • Bruce Champion

    I recant my previous comments , after reading the article there is validity to his statement and the understanding. Of who you are &, theword of God: in your life is where he is trying to go!

  • t

    I hope he is as focused on the large numbers of closeted queens in the church as he is hair weaves…smh

  • http://gravatar.com/chanela17 chanela17

    “especially when they can’t afford the expense” BS! he just wants more money in the collection plate! SMH

  • Siyanda

    This pastor is spiritually dead. If he truly knew God he would know the verse that says the world looks on the outside but God looks ont he inside. He is a pastor to save souls, he is a pastor to preach the good news not CHASE people. The church is not for perfect people but to perfect people. I am worried what he will do to prostitutes if they came to his church. The gospel of God has been compromised by the so called pastors who have chosen themselves. Church has become a den of thieves instead of making sure people will enter Heaven he chases them away fromt he ONLY place they will find God. And you question yourself if he truly an a pastor of God of of Satan.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    RE: it did seem as if he needs that money in the collection plate and not on the heads of the women

    WHERE in the story? I’ve seen so many people who said it was a ploy to get more money, but he specifically pointed to “leading a church where our members are struggling financially”…clearly if they are struggling they don’t have money to put in the collection plate! This man is saying to prioritize your finances! Many of us know people who don’t!

  • angry.white.rose

    Amem bro. Sooo sick of fake ass weaves, corny wraps, colors. It IS low self-esteem, he’s right. It looks so stupid!

  • Ray

    Instead of getting rid of the Weaves, i would get rid of the Pastor. Problem solved.

  • https://www.facebook.com/manuel.guajardo.796 Manny Sr G

    Then he should be tired of himself,because he is suppose to save souls not hair!!! Ask him how much Jesus was paid when he saved souls and Died for Us !! He just wants more money for himself !!!

  • Chelle

    “Long hair don’t care. What kind of mess is that?” This made me laugh.

  • D. A. Isley

    He must be one of those dumb fk pastors. I have never heard of such a thing. You can’t tell women what they can and cannot wear on their head.

  • James Ballow

    This is a very important financial issue, the amount of all the money the average black woman spends on her hair in her lifetime would pay for alot of education for her children. Easily over 100,000 dollars. It’s a huge parasitic drain on family and individual rescources.

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    “community” has multiple meanings including:

    f : a body of persons or nations having a common history or common social, economic, and political interests

    members of the Black community have a common history, so usage of the word isn’t incorrect.

  • Tessa Williams

    And the same can be said for men buying Air Jordans and spending hundreds of dollars at the strip club. 100,000? Are you serious? The average weave sewn is anywhere between $120-200 where I’m from and it lasts 3 months or more. Most women wear these sew ins on average of 2 to 3 times a year and then go natural, braided, or get their natural hair wrapped if long enough so do your research before throwing numbers around. Instead of this “preacher” focusing on lining the pockets of himself and his church how about he preaches loving one another and financial stability? I did read that the average age for his congregation is 22!!!!!!! That in itself screams a lot. Who is financially stable at 22???????????? So, if these young ladies get money from their parents, boyfriends, or whomever….it’s not his place to mention or question it!!!!!!!! Who is he to ban anyone of anything from a church….The House of the LORD? How about GOD bans him from heaven because he is doesn’t like the way his hair is cut? Or how much he spent on all of his haircuts over the years? Makes no sense right?

  • Tessa Williams

    You make absolutely no sense. It’s ok for you because you like to experiment but other ladies should love themselves as they are???? BIG contradiction. BTW the average age for the congregation is 22…..I say as long as they aren’t doing anything against the law, who cares what people wear or do? The focus should be on praising GOD not weaves!!!! Dismissed

  • Tessa Williams

    Ever heard of false prophets?????? Bearing false witness is not referring to weaves!!!! Biblically bearing false witness means to lie! What church do you attend…I want to make sure to not ever visit is this is how you are led to interpret scripture. Thanks!!!

  • Tessa Williams

    I know plenty of NON black women who wear weave!!!! The difference is people like you ASSUME that other races have naturally long hair and that is Incorrect. Case in point do you actually believe the J Lo celebrities of the world always wear their natural hair. Being from NY, I know plenty of white chicks who get lip injections and booty shots/implants because they think black women are sexy and want to be us. And I’m not talking about the run of the mill white girls…..I’m speaking of educated high dollar paying white girls…..Nurse practitioners, paralegals, and yes even a lawyer or 2. How do I know……because I’m a nurse practitioner and I co own a salon. Furthermore are you saying black women dot have a nice texture of hair because they wear weaves? I see plenty of other races with bad hair, The next time you are out clothes/shoe shopping……put the Air Jordans down and pick up a pair of $15 no name buddies

  • Tessa Williams

    OMG are you serious? Tell me you are joking. I beg to differ…..women of color wear weaves because it is sometimes easier to manage and less time consuming. Do you really believe that the Kim K’s of the world and the J Lo’s do not wear extensions or wigs/weaves? Are you serious right now? It is they not US who rush to get lip injections and butt implants. It is they not us!!!!! If your guy likes weaves but not natural hair then you just said a whole lot and don’t even realize it. In other words….you as you are…….are not attractive enough for him unless your head is weighed down by fake hair? I wonder what this “preacher” looks like? It’s usually the ones who bring drama and chaos who have low self esteem? What’s next if you drive a 2012 or newer car you can’t come to his church? Get real!!!!

  • Tessa Williams

    You make no sense what so ever! Please run a list of black women who complain of white beauty standards? lol so silly it’s laughable. You honestly believe other races don’t wear weave? It’s a horrible myth that ignoramuses think NON Black women have natural beautiful long flowing hair. Don’t let the commercials fool you honey.

  • Tessa Williams

    My Gosh!!!!! You are a bumbleing idiot.

  • Tessa Williams

    Silly me….I was just grateful to read that the average age of the congregation is 22 and they are IN CHURCH! Who is financially stable at 22. They chose church instead of hanging on corners being up to no good. They could have chose suicide instead of life. They instead chose the HOUSE OF THE LORD and get slapped in the face with ridicule and judgment instead of empowerment and direction.

  • Lorraine

    I see a lot of second guessing of the pastor’s facts, but the point is that whether they spend $100 or $300 he is seeing women spending more than they have on hair, not to save time, but to feel good enough. Perhaps he’s a jerk, but maybe he’s done a little bit of coaching and counseling and has more insight than those who have never met these ladies.

  • Jogger

    Thank you for your response and I agree….it also amazes me why we as African Americans continue to attack one another when those of us try to better ourselves. Is this the house niggar and yard niggar syndrome? The shackles have been taken of our bodies but, the shackles still enslave our minds…What difference does it make what a black women wears on her head. Does it really matter? Should not the mind be cultivated, and why aren’t we training our children to respect one another instead of killing each other…..Don’t you see the trick of the enemy…He is to taking our focus off what really matters…We’re losing our community to violence and this conversation is about ” should Black Women wear weaves to church or not”….My White Pastor use to say if a barn needs painting then paint it…This too was about a woman adorning herself with make-up..Should she or shouldn’t she. We are losing our community to the devil and we’re arguing about nothing….Will the Church say AMEN!

  • Jogger

    Thank you for your response and I agree….it amazes me why we as African Americans continue to attack one another when those of us try to better ourselves. Is this the house slave and yard slave syndrome? The shackles have been taken of our bodies but, the shackles still enslave our minds…What difference does it make what a black women wears on her head. Does it really matter? Should not the mind be cultivated, and why aren’t we training our children to respect one another instead of killing each other…..Don’t you see the trick of the enemy…He is to taking our focus off what really matters…We’re losing our community to violence and this conversation is about ” should Black Women wear weaves to church or not”….My White Pastor use to say if a barn needs painting then paint it…This too was about a woman adorning herself with make-up..Should she or shouldn’t she. We are losing our community to the devil and we’re arguing about nothing….Will the Church say AMEN!

  • http://www.harrietproject.blogspot.com LawFolk

    How we choose to style our hair certainly is a big problem. Most of the comments I’ve read thus far including this are deviating from the main thread. The pastor complained about poverty being an issue in his church. I know of individuals on welfare who can hardly afford to fuel their cars but always have well done tresses. They might be behind on every credit card payment and unable to pay for day care but yet have money to pay for weaves.

    Further, it doesn’t matter if the weaves are paid for by significant others or stolen from the hair store, the issue the pastor is perturbed by is the immense suffering in his church and the money wasted on weaves that are non-essentials (because black women don’t need weaves, wearing one is a choice).

    The pastor might have addressed other social issues but maybe this made headlines because it made enough weave wearing black women uncomfortable.

  • The RealKay

    You know, this is one of those “what poor people should have,” moments. It’s like when we see a person who may be financially strapped rocking a designer purse, shoes or having nice clothes, we assume that they are wasting valuable assets on something they shouldn’t have. Yeah. Because poor people shouldn’t have nice things. *rolls eyes* Now I can see his point about loving who you are, and not spending money frivolously. If that’s the case, then start a program to mentor people regarding spending and saving. At one point during undergrad I was struggling but my hair and things always looked nice. I got a lot of snide comments about it, but what people didn’t know was that I bought things on sale, frequented garage sales, ebay, and the like. I was doing some modeling on the side and made friends with hairdressers all over the city and frequented sites where apprentices gave away free haircuts, weaves and the like.

    The thing is, we don’t know anyone’s situation personally. So he should stop picking some meaningless factor like hair and if he’s so worried focus on the solutions instead. That’s the problem with our community. We pick apart people, talk about how “tragic,” something is but won’t do anything positive about it.

  • Shirley

    Amen sister, you said it!!!!!

  • nadine

    Why won’t the Catholic church make women like big ang to stop getting facial surgery?

    I agree with the pastor… the wig weave epidemic is getting ridiculous .. its too the point where women cannot get out of the house until a wig weave is on her head…I have no problem with weave ..if I want a break from manipulation of my hair…which 1 Timeevery other year…but women that do it 247 needs to stop ..and are not seen with their hair needs to stop ..buying hair for a lifetime hiding something is kind of sick..unless you have hair problems

    The cons about story is black people need to stop attacking each other..and society women of other races who get face ,breast implants which can be more hazardous then weave. Whites don’t talk about themselves .. you got women like big ang and cat women and none of their males complain …

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    RE: Why won’t the Catholic church make women like big ang to stop getting facial surgery?

    Big Ang doesn’t seem to be lacking financially so why would/should they?

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    YES! I completely agree…I think folks are missing the point entirely!

  • Jerseryvixen

    I wonder why NO ONE IS mentionning no matter the quality of your weave care installation or continuous care, if you wear weaves all the time eventually your own hair will thin out, you will get traction alopecia, bald spots, lose your sides and straight up now become DEPENDENT ont he weaves. A lot of thining hair did not start out that way, the weave eventually take away the lil bit of strong hair you have. Now we have a practice of people needing “privacy” when they get their weave taken out and put back in because their own head is just frightening to look at. I heard some places even CHARGE extra for a private room. When u weare wigs, weaves fake lashes what it does is now give u and people around u this false sense of how u look that when you take it off you would be embarassed to be seen. It’s toxic and if there are no other reasons to stop the weave craze, this one is it.

  • https://www.facebook.com/cynthia.valladares.96 Cynthia Valladares

    Come as you are, that means all females wear afro’s right? I have to say this about wigs, I think about it every time I see one. We’ll have on 1 wig hat -cover,ect, plus a wig, plus a hat that is over kill and one hot mama.

  • AJW

    Your weaves don’t make.sense.

  • Goodbye Pastor

    Mr Please! I just wouldn’t go to his church! Plain and simple…it is not that deep!

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