Yes, I can hear it now. You’re just about tired of reading about twerking. Well be happy this post isn’t about Beyonce.

A California mom was so upset about her daughter twerking at a school dance, she decided to publicly punish the 11-year-old.

Frances Hena forced her daughter, Jamie, to stand at a busy Bakersfield intersection with a sign that read, “I was disrespecting my parents by twerking at school dance,” ABC reported.

Hena forced her daughter to hold the sign for two hours.

“I want her to realize that she is just a child and that she can’t do that,” Hena said.

I’m not sure what type of dancing 11-year-olds are doing nowadays but Hena isn’t allowing hers to twerk until she’s 18.

“That’s ridiculous to even think that’s okay at a school dance,” Hena said. “When she’s 18, she can do whatever she wants. As of right now, that’s not something she’s going to be doing.”

And on that note, rest assured you’ll never see another twerking post on Clutch again. But I can’t make any promises about Beyonce.

You’re welcome.

  • MimiLuvs

    If I was in this mother’s shoes, I would like to believe that I would’ve done something different, in regards to punishment. More than likely, I would have a long conversation (or rather a discussion) about my opinions about twerking, as well as, why I believe that a child shouldn’t engage in such activities.
    Slightly off-topic:
    What-the-h_ll happened to dancing, in regards to dancing at a party or in night clubs? It seems as if when a woman is dancing on a dance floor, guys don’t introduce themselves. They just rub their groins against their backsides.

  • http://ladyngo.blogspot.com Lady Ngo

    Why is this “public shaming” thing a thing all of a sudden? Is that really the only way folks can think to discipline their kids? Is it even an effective disciplinary tool? I can’t help but think that all its doing is lowering their child’s self-esteem and increasing the chance that their kid might snap and off them in their sleep one day.

    But whatever. I don’t have any kids so let me shut my mouth.

  • BeanBean

    It’s not a bad punishment. It’s no different than making a child hold up a sign staying they shoplifted. If I was twerking at 11, I would’ve gotten a serious talk, a serious beating, and then another serious talk.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    That’s the reality in this day and age…
    When a man is making unwanted advances or gestures to me on the dance floor…i just dance myself away from him.

  • Tanya

    It is a bad punishment. Public humiliation=low self-esteem. Don’t even get me started on how the Black community romanticizes abusive tactics in parenting, especially beatings. It’s sick and we need an intervention. But, as soon as you bring it up some person will without fail say, “I was beat and I turned out fine”. Yep. Sure. Keep saying that.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    Physical Discipline is not equivalent to Abuse

    There are those who do abuse when they use physical discipline, but let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    My parents would have snatched me up mid twerk, and twerked all over my behind!

  • Tanya

    When people can use a word like “beating” and not see the latent abuse culture in that… yeah… I don’t believe that for one bit. How can you say physical discipline is not equivalent to abuse when I’m speaking about a community that has a warped view on abuse to begin with.

  • MommieDearest

    I agree. With some kids public shaming may be the one thing that really gets their attention. I bet she won’t do that again.

    Besides, shaming is not a new tactic. Back in the day, I’ve been to many a school dance where I’ve seen someone’s mother roll up in a robe, house shoes and curlers to snatch a curfew-breaking youngin’ off the dance floor and take them home. That was a REAL deterrent for me to get my butt in the house ON TIME. LOL!!

  • Anthony

    As I said before, I suspect white folks will be twerking long after black people have forgotten about it!

  • The Comment


    Oh Jesus!!!!!!!! Just like Kenny G. will be incorrectly honored as the Godfather of Jazz in 50 years

  • Wow

    So was the punishment due to her disrespecting her parents or for disrespecting herself? Who were the parents more concerned about, her ruining the family image or the girls lack of respect for herself? IMO, this lesson is a fail b/c who cares that what she did was embarrassing to her family. Her family should be more interested in making sure that she first and foremost respects herself and all other things will fall in to place. But shaming a child b/c they embarrassed you as a parent has never made a child stop doing whatever it is the parent didn’t like, it just makes them get better at hiding it from the parents.

  • The Comment

    Back in the day….disrespecting the family kept you from doing stupid stuff. So it was a win win for everyone. She may not know what respecting herself means. But I bet she knows what disrespecting the family means and the consequences that come with it.

  • victoria

    Shaming / embarrassing me always worked as a form of punishment.

    When serious talks didnt work, when spankings didnt work, mom called several members of my family – grandfather/mother, aunts, uncles, older cousins – and let them know what I did. I use to plead with my mother not to do it. That was embarrassing. And the disappointment my grandparents expressed was murder.

    All kids are different. Sometimes parents have to use unusual tactics to get their point across.

  • MommieDearest

    “All kids are different. Sometimes parents have to use unusual tactics to get their point across.”

    And this, Victoria, is the bottom line.

    Discipline isn’t one size fits all. Outside of abuse or neglect, I am not one to dictate to parents how to discipline their children. You need to do what works for your child.

    I just saw in HLN today about a father who wore booty shorts to teach his daughter a lesson. He embarrassed the heck out of her. It worked though. Parenting is not for the faint at heart. LOL!!!

  • vagowner

    i agree. physical abuse is just a way for the parent to take their rage out on the child. parents should calm down before they discipline their kid. i can remember being stripped down as a girl in a room with multiple men unrelated to me to be beat simply for being in a room where the kids wouldn’t stop making noise. it was very embarrassing, and someone else had to intervene to get my clothes put back on.

    black parents take things way too far sometimes. yes other races do as well but sometimes it seems celebrated and encouraged in the black community, and obviously physical punishment is not working.

  • sparger

    All this accomplished was making the little girl realize she needs to hide things from her parents. Good luck

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