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Everyone seems to have a crazy storyline on “Real Housewives of Atlanta” this season. Kenya Moore is texting a married man, Porsha Stewart is battling back and forth with her soon-to-be ex husband and Kandi Burruss is prepping to walk down the aisle to Todd Tucker, if her mother doesn’t get in the way.

Kandi’s Mom, a familiar face on the Bravo series, is adamantly against Kandi making things official with Todd. In an interview with ABC News Radio, Kandi claims Wendy Williams first put the bug in Mama Joyce’s ear that Todd had negative intentions.

Via The YBF:

Why Mama Joyce Hates Todd:

“I can tell you when it started. Last year when Wendy Williams was commenting on our show every week and she was like, ‘[Todd's] an opportunist. I think he’s an opportunist.’ Next thing I know, my momma comes back and is like, ‘Wendy said that he was an opportunist.’”

How Mama Joyce Has Halted Wedding Planning:
“I haven’t decided yet if I want something that’s small and just us or if we wanted to do something bigger and invite people. What was stopping me from even planning is the fact that my mom is not being supportive. It’s like, okay do I really want to have a wedding and my mom may not show up or if she does show up she’s going to be mean and negative? You know, you don’t want the bad energy either.”

Why Kandi Still Loves Todd Despite Family Rift:
“I just love everything about him…He’s very smart. He’s very intelligent. He’s a leader. He’s not the type that’s going to try and tell me what to do, but he’s great at helping guide me in a way. And I think that I need a man that’s just as strong so he can deal with me because…I can be a little strong.”

Wendy, though? No matter how Mama Joyce developed ill feelings toward Todd, they still present a difficult conundrum for Kandi. If you were in her shoes, would you move forward with someone your parents disapproved of?

  • https://www.facebook.com/Dr.SavvyCeo Savvy Ceo

    The show makes it seem as though her mother disapproves of everyone she dates. I would use my best judgement.

  • https://www.facebook.com/irma.clement Irma Clement

    …because Wendy Williams said he was an opportunist??????

  • https://www.facebook.com/nicole.barnes.547 Nicole Barnes

    My mother usually stays out of my personal life, so if she felt really strongly about it, I’d have to take s step back and really understand why

  • https://www.facebook.com/aquarius.edwards Kim Bella Edwards

    yup

  • https://www.facebook.com/iamnicolenatassha Nicole-Natassha Goulding

    Kandi’s mom needs to take several warm seats.. she is grown ma’am…. let it go and allow her to make her own choices and mistakes… team too much smh

  • https://www.facebook.com/debra.samuelbrown Debra Samuel-Brown

    I could…just to piss them off. But that would get old real quick. My parents have always wanted the very best for me…they would never steer me wrong!

  • Whatever

    Wendy gets paid to run her mouth on anything Mama betta give me legit reasons for not wanting Todd not bcoz Wendy William said so, and if she feels so strongly about it she can go hold Wendy’s hand as she leads her to divorce court and therapy because we all know (via her own big mouth) her marriage and personal life got enough issues to block off the Alter for a couple of years.

  • Tina L

    Not to speak ill of the dead, but if you watched Kandi’s first season, that guy was far from marriage material. Plus, at the time Kandi was acting really stupid and being adamant against getting a prenup. Her mom had sound reasons to be against the marriage.

    I have learned through experience that if people who love you and whom you have trusted all your life have an issue with your partner & they are not otherwise obstinate, overbearing & cantankerous people, it’s worth taking a listen and a moment to think.

  • The Lady in Red

    My mother loves everyone so if she doesn’t like the guy I’m dating, I might not stop dating him but I’d be more cautious.

  • Missie

    Kandi moves fast with men in the first place. Todd seems like a nice man but he moved in with her in no time flat so anyone would questions about his him. The mother can see Kandi is almost desperate when it comes to having a man. She has a teenage daughter and to be moving men in would make any grandmother question him and her own daughter. Mama Joyce was right on it about AJ (now deceased) so she might be right on him. She needs to be quiet and let Kandi find out for herself. Then say..I told you..lol.

  • http://musedmagonline.com Drew-Shane

    She’s going to need a better excuse than that.

  • MimiLuvs

    Fortunately, I have never been in a situation where either parent did not like my significant other. And even if I did found myself in one, I know my mother too well. I know that my mom would tell me and my boyfriend that she doesn’t like him. Then she would explain her reasons. Afterwards, she would tell me that I am stuck with him and it is not her business.
    My dad, on the other hand, I have no idea of what his actions will be. But I do know that he does have a cremation business.

  • http://gravatar.com/geenababe geenababe

    If my mom reasoning was just what Wendy Williams said then yes I would continue with the relationship.

  • Aria Wilson

    Absolutely I would. I am a very grown and educated woman…and while I value my parent’s input and opinions…I am the one that will be living, sleeping, and loving this person, not my parents.

    Unless the reason was VERY good (he is unfaithful, abusive, etc), if I am happy I will respect their opinions, allow them have them…and keep my relationship moving. Both of my parents have racial hang-ups…so if the reason, for instance, was solely because the guy was Hispanic or White or Asian (which happened with my dad once)…NOT due to his behavior or character…then their opinions wouldn’t even be considered, since I don’t have time for that type of foolishness at this point in my life.

    I just refuse to allow others, and their own issues, hang-ups and attitudes, to impede on my happiness….parents or not.

    If you have a problem with my relationship…that is a YOU problem, and until it becomes a ME problem, they can kick rocks.

  • Marketing Gimmicks

    It really depends on the parents. Not all parents are created equal. Some parents are lonely and miserable so they aren’t necessarily the best at making value judgments from a healthy perspective. Some mothers are envious and some are selfish and all about me.

    My mom isn’t the happiest woman but if she raised a red flag towards someone I’m seriously dating I wouldn’t throw caution to the wind. I know she loves me. She may not know what’s best for me (only I know that) but if her eyebrows were raised I would pump the brakes.

  • SE

    I think Kandi should go on and marry Todd. Her mom needs to find her some business and stay out of Kandi’s love life. I understand that Ms. Joyce wants the best for her daughter but Kandi is GROWN, damn near 40 years old. She wants to get married and have a family so I say marry Todd and keep your mom out of your business.

  • Apple

    Kandi always seem.. Desperate to have a man.. It’s like she’s always rushing to move them in and marry them. And it never feels like she’s more into them than they into her.

  • Apple

    *always

  • kiki80

    Wealthy or not, Kandi moves in very conventional black dating circles. In those circles, her look will never be at the top of the food chain. She will always tend to be more into her love object than he will be into her.

  • http://gravatar.com/geenababe geenababe

    You might be on to something when it comes to Kandi. I have heard that she has played the role of “sugar mama” for many of her exes. I’ve never cared for her when she said she had sex with JD just to see how his sex game was.

  • ArabellaMichaela

    Kandi seems really happy with him, and her daughter seems to like him. My only caveat about this particular marriage is she definitely should have a pre-nup.

  • victoria

    I would NOT date someone my mother disapproved of. Dating is not set in stone. I know that my mother cares about me and wants the best for me. My mother is not the controlling type nor does see poke her nose in matters unless it is necessary. So if my mother told me that she disapproved of a man I was dating, I would end it. Now if she said that about my husband, I will be hurt, but I will not divorce him. I dont know anything about Todd, but I do believe she sshould have a prenup.

  • BeanBean

    It depends on why she disapproves of the guy. If it’s because she just doesn’t like him, or he’s not my mother’s type, then I would date him. But if there is something really going on with the guy that I can’t see, then yes I would listen and investigate further. My great-grandmother is 102 and she can spot a cheating man a mile away. She’s warned my aunts and cousins about their boyfriends/husbands and they didn’t listen, and grandma was right!

  • mEE

    y’know the older I get, the more I realize my parents generally know what they’re talking about, especially when it comes to relationships. my parents are very nice and warm with my friends, and respectfully reserved when it comes to the guys I date. there have only been a few instances when they were just straight standoffish with the people in my life. and every single time the person ended up being shady as hell.

    now would I stop dating someone just because my parents didn’t like them? probably not because I do believe you have to learn from your own mistakes. but I will say that now after seeing them be right so often, I’d probably treat the person with a little more distance and healthy skepticism

  • https://www.facebook.com/roxanne.oraguzie Roxanne Oraguzie

    I have and probably will again. My dad probably wants me to become a nun and my mom, well, I think she just wants me to be happy.

  • binks

    I agree with those who said it depends. My parents are usually neutral about my love life because they trust my judgment and standards but if they have something to say about a guy I am dating or who I liked then I will hear their warning because if they are expressing some concern then it is for a reason. Now if it is something superficial as they just don’t like how the guy look or their personalities just don’t gel well together then no I don’t listen to them. I learned long ago that what your parents think who is ideal for you and who you think is ideal for you are two different lanes sometimes both ideals meet in an intersection but for the most part most parents think that so and so isn’t right for their little prince or princess.

    As for Mama Joyce and Kandi, I think Mama Joyce needs to realize that Kandi likes and is drawn to certain guys. And despite her grievance and concerns Kandi needs to make her own choices and mistakes. There is a fine line is wanting to protect your children and wanting the best for them and just wanting to control them because from the looks of the show it always seem liked mama Joyce don’t want Kandi with anybody but want to keep it just her, Kandi and her granddaughter.

  • Ads

    It depends on the person. Kandi is an incredibly smart,’savvy, honest, grooooooown woman. She pays her own bills and mamas, she has survived and achieved longevity in a famously fickled industry,’and shes no teeny-bopper with dreams of a magical romeo.
    She knows whats up, will insist on a prenup, and is grown enough to decide that i love this man and he makes me happy enough that even should it not work out this happiness is worth it. More power to her. I have deep sympathy for Porsha, but she was an innocent, not-self made girl who was indeed believing in magival romeos. She was willing ro sacrifice herself, and so needed someone in her corner advocating her interests. That is not kandi

  • Maxine Bankston

    Moma Joyce needs a life and that is the problem – Kandi needs to check her mother on some issues and be a woman and make her own decision – Be a role moel for her daughter – because Kandi duaghter is going to be confused with all the mess going on and listening to her grandmother talk negative talk about Todd

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