trust

My grandmother always told me that I had great intuition. Apparently I got it from her. If you believe such things. My intuition has worked out in my favor several times when it came to my career and relationships.  Typically the only time when it doesn’t work out is when I purposefully choose to ignore it. But like my grandmother said, when you ignore it, you’re basically setting yourself up for disaster.

Trust is a huge issue with a lot of people, especially when you’re in a relationship.  Trust issues aren’t just a “common” folk problem, but even celebrities have their fair share of issues.

A Rihanna fan recently shared some advice the star offered him when he asked her opinion about his trust issues:

Hey Rih, I hope it’s not a bad time to message. Just been down lately and wondering if you had any words of encouragement. Trust issues with men.”

Rihanna’s response was not only a shock to him, but he took the advice to heart:

Anytime I have trust issues, I often assume that it has a lot to do with myself. Most of the time it’s difficult to differentiate. Intuition and insecurities! But no one ever wants to wait to figure it out. Whatever we do, we don’t want to feel stupid! So we tend to jump the gun with no evidence to back it up. That’s the biggest mistake anyone could ever make.

She continued:

My advice, which is exactly what I’ve done, is if sh-t isn’t making sense to me, I’m out. I mean cold turkey! I always need to step out of it to see it for what it is cuz I refuse to let a man play me. If he has no respect, he just doesn’t! But you don’t have to allow it or be bound by it.

I’m definitely not one to seek out some rando celebrity for advice, but what I found interesting is that she took the time to reply to her fan.  But is it actually good advice?

Does trust have anything to do with your own personal insecurities?  When your spidey senses are tingling, and your intuition is on 100, maybe it’s not necessarily your insecurity? There have been times when I knew that something wasn’t right in a relationship, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.  But I didn’t jump the gun, even though in hindsight, sometimes I wish I did.

 

Clutchettes, do you think trust issues are based on insecurity or intuition?

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  • RaiseTheBar

    I like this question, it’s thought provoking.

    Trust Issues are based on SURVIVAL instincts.

    A former friend use to say, “If it don’t feel right to you, it ain’t right for you”

    Donald Trump (NOT a fan of his) says, “Trust No One”

    and Dr. Phil says, “Don’t Invest any more in a relationship than you can afford to lose”

    My take away from all of these is: humans with our many flaws will disappoint you whether it’s intentional or not so NEVER give away your PERSONAL POWER to anyone; so that if he or she lets you down, you are not financially, physically, mentally or emotionally devastated.