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Madonna got into hot water this weekend when she posted a picture of her son Rocko sparring in a boxing ring with the caption ““No one messes with Dirty Soap! Mama said knock you out! #disnigga.”

Where does Madonna live? Where is the nearest empty stadium? She needs to have all of the seats. All. Of. Them.

After getting some critical comments, Madonna deleted her initial caption and reposted the pic with the caption “Ok let me start this again. #get off my dick haters!” Yeah, ok, no.

There is a very simple rule for non-black people who want to use the word nigga, nigger or anything like that. Do. Not. Do. It. Period.

The use of the word “nigga” amongst black people is something to be sorted out amongst black people. Non-blacks need not concern themselves with that. Just, don’t do it. Very simple. And the desire to say it, is troubling to say the least.

Madonna has two adopted black children, so this “nigga” moment is especially side eye-worthy for some folks.

Does Madonna get a “pass” for using the word nigga? Do you take issue with any non-black person using that word?

UPDATE: Madonna has now issued an apology. “I am sorry if I offended anyone with my use of the N-word on Instagram,” the singer said in a statement on Saturday, Jan. 18. “It was not meant as a racial slur…I am not a racist. There’s no way to defend the use of the word. It was all about intention…It was used as a term of endearment toward my son who is white.  I appreciate that it’s a provocative word and I apologize if it gave people the wrong impression. Forgive me.”

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  • http://gravatar.com/solfresh solfresh

    A while ago, I came to the conclusion that I can’t be mad at people who use the n-word solely because I use it. I remember being on campus and overhearing a group of Indian or middle eastern boys using it. In my head, I thought hey, ya’ll are not allowed to use that word. But hearing them use it I noticed that’s how my friends and I use it; as a term of endearment, “my nigga!” or a term of exclamation(?), “this nigga!/dis nigga!” Also, who am I or who is anyone to make rules on words? You can’t control the evolution or devolution of a word, nor of a social behavior. In a way, it’s the black community’s fault Madonna and others are using the word.Those who defend the use of n*gga claim its endearing and something that shows we transcended the original use of the word. Ok. Well we can’t be surprised when we sanitize the word that now everyone feels they can use it. If nigger or nigga was sacred to us, we should’ve decided to keep the original meaning of the word and not use it. Once again you can’t control the meaning of words and how they evolve; not even amongst one group of people! Seeing the context of how she used the word is how I’ve used the word. The word n*gga is so far removed from nigger, that black people (incl. myself) use it as a noun in reference to any and everything. I try not to use the word, and I’ve gotten pretty good at not using it publicly especially on social media but I really can’t promise that I’ll ever stop using it, but you never know. Until then I can’t be outraged at someone who uses a word that holds dreadful historical implications when I do the same thing. It all goes back to treat others how you want to be treated or you have to show others how you want to be respected. We see how well, “do as I say not as I do” works (it doesn’t, were behavioral creatures.) So until I and other folks can stop using the word and the black community can hold a town meeting taking back our word (is it possible to revert the meaning of a word?) this is going to happen. However, if a white person were to refer to someone as a nigger, like hey, nigger get out my way or nigger pick this up, then we have a controversy. But Madonna was indeed not smart for IG’ing that since she’s a prominent figure.

  • Dream Job

    The Queen of lip-syncing Madonna has fallen all the way off with this incident. She, as reflected in the excessive cosmetic surgery (she always wears gloves to conceal her ultra aged w people wrinkled hands because cos surg docs can’t touch them) she has gotten, is so darn desperate to be young and hip that she is a bona fide lost cause. She is always dumbing down just to look/sound cool.

    Ultimately, the bottom line is that she has an adopted black son and daughter…and in spite of that, she’s still toying w that stupid word to force/forge relevancy. It is really a shame. Out of respect for her children she should NOT do it…but…(sigh) its really a pain complaining about the N-word because our own people flat out refuse to let it go. You can’t advocate that people not use the word when your people use it.

    We already know that everybody copies everythAng we do…we need to stop this schizophrenic behavior.

  • https://www.facebook.com/trevor.samborski Trevor James Samborski

    As a wise one said. Practice What You Preach. How You Treat Others, is How You Should Be Treated.