Yesterday a guy friend that I haven’t spoken to in about a year popped up on my Google Hangouts. We caught up on each other’s goings-on and if anything new had transpired since we last spoke. Typically during our conversations I make sure to ask about his daughter and how she’s doing with school. This time I asked about his “kids”.
That question resulted in about five question marks being sent as the reply. He asked me what did I mean “kids”. As if he only had one. I then commenced to reminding him that the last time we chatted he told me about his new bundle of “joy”. No he didn’t he said. Then he accused me of snooping around on him. I then reminded him that a) we don’t have friends in common for me to ask around about him b) Unlike himself, I hold down several jobs and I don’t have time to snoop around on people c) Put down the weed, because it’s obviously affecting his memory.
Even after all of that, he didn’t remember that he told me about his new baby. If I cared enough I would have pulled up our chat history, but I did tell him to take both of his hands, cup them together and look inside, that was exactly how many fucks I gave about his personal life. *Closed chat window*.
I’m not sure if men are just forgetful or have a selective memory, but a recent Norwegian study has found that men have more problems in remembering names and dates than women. And apparently if they’ve told a friend about their new baby.
“It was surprising to see that men forget more than women. This has not been documented before. It was also surprising to see that men are just as forgetful whether they are 30 or 60 years old. The results were unambiguous,” said Professor Jostein Holmen, from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology (NTNU) in Trondheim.
Holmen and his co-workers asked nine questions about how well people think they remember as a part of a large longitudinal population health study conducted in mid-Norway called HUNT3.
For the study, the researchers surveyed around 48, 000 participants. The participants were asked whether they found it difficult to remember things, names and dates. They were also asked if they could retain details from conversations and whether they could recollect what they did one year ago.
“We have speculated a lot about why men report more frequent problems with remembering than women do, but have not been able to find an explanation. This is still an unsolved mystery,” said Holmen.
The study also showed that people who are highly knowledgeable have good memory and those with poor education fail to remember the most. People who have anxiety and depression related problems are also more absentminded. The study also determined that the memory problems for both men and women increase after they turn 60.
So the next time a guy tells you he forgot something, maybe it is his poor memory. But on the other hand, maybe they’re just forgetting on purpose.