5 People Who Actually Give Sound Relationship Advice

by Demetria Irwin

Relationship Experts

So many people these days pass themselves off as “relationship experts” because they can spew out some common sense advice and quote Dr. Phil.  Eh. We can do without that. When we listen to people dole out relationship advice, we want to hear something that actually makes us analyze our lives and romantic decisions.  Here is a list of five people who actually make sense when they talk about this relationship stuff.

  • Orange Lady Tiger HH

    Audrey Chapman should top this list, not so sure about the actual folks listed though.

  • cosmicsistren

    I rather learn from trial and error. For me listening to other people drove me crazy. It made me doubt myself that I can’t rely on my own opinion. I remember Fat Man Scoop and Shanda used to give out relationship advice. Now they’re divorcing. I really don’t like that these so called relationship experts give advice only to women. Some men are screwed up too and could use a good talking to.

  • Nicole

    I was cool with Paul Brunson until he advised single women against cutting their hair because men generally didn’t like short hair or some other patriarchal bs like that. Pass

  • geenababe

    I remember Fat Man Scoop and Shanda used to give out relationship advice. Now they’re divorcing
    Wow, I didn’t know that and I do agree that I hate all the advice is geared towards women. I guess they know that most women will listen and buy their books.

    I’ll admit I did buy the Steve Harvey book but after forgetting most of the book. I decided I don’t need all this relationship advice people are trying to sell to line their pockets. Someone on here mention D. Lucas being in a hood engagement on here made me kind of look at her a little sideways.

  • NLW

    Trenia Parham at http://www.lovetrenia.com is the TRUTH!

  • RJ

    Talk is cheap.

  • 1Love

    Half of these people have never been married and haven’t been in a serious public relationship in forever. I’m good!

  • http://www.myblackfriendsays.com myblackfriendsays

    I don’t know that I would take relationship advice from a single person. I do like Paul Brunson though, I follow him on FB and he has lots of valuable things to say, and not just about relationships.

  • http://www.myblackfriendsays.com myblackfriendsays

    Hmmm…I didn’t know that. Anyone worth being with shouldn’t judge on superficial -ish like hair. What if you get married, get cancer, and then all your hair falls out–then what?

  • cosmicsistren

    @greenababe – I was shocked too about Fatman Scoop and Shanda. Same thing with Dr. Jenn Berman. She gives marital advice on her show Couples Therapy and her radio show on Sirius. She divorced her husband. The only reason why I even continue to even listen to her is because she was TRAINED and has a degree in psychology. These others listed get a side eye from me. Isn’t Jackie Reid single? What can she tell me? Seems like everyone is looking for a new hustle. I guess being a so called relationship expert is it. Hell, even Lala Anthony has a book out on relationships.

  • Andrea

    I am always hesitant to take relationship advice from people that have no formal training on the subject and make money from it. I guess Steve Harvey has me feeling a certain way.

    I also want to add that marriage is not the end goal for everyone. Also I don’t think that they have to make their serious relationship public in order to give sound advice.

    I will check these people out, but I will take their advice with a grain a salt until other wise proven that the advice is beneficial to my life and how I want my healthy relationships to be.

  • Starla

    I used to bump into their videos back in the day, never subscribed to their channel though.

    I wonder though if divorce is really a sign of failure in a relationship. There is something still to be learned from the divorcee just as much as there is to be learned from the person who remained married until death.

    You are absolutely right, I also do not know why the success of a relationship is always placed on the shoulders of women.

  • RJ

    Agreed. Life is about learning from mistakes and growing. It is also about learning to listen to your gut.

    I am not saying that other peoples opinions lack value, I am just saying that we have alot of the tools we need naturally. We should learn to utilize them.

  • http://mademjoselle.wordpress.com bk chick

    Like others have previously mentioned, this advice giving stuff is simply a product of the “women’s insecurity Market.” I put anti-aging cosmetics, cosmetic surgery, magazines, weight loss anything in that category as well. People found out they can make a shit ton of money by exploiting women’s insecurities and they depend on it being prevalent and consistent in order to keep the dollars flowing. Not to say that there isn’t any place for relationship advice or any of the other things I’ve mentioned, but the fact that what seems like 95% of them target women only, it’s def not primarily about “helping” people at the end of the day.

  • Treece

    For everyone who wouldn’t take relationship advice from a single person: What difference does it make??

    I mean, if a person has been in at least two serious relationships (marriage or otherwise) in the past then what makes their advice less credible than someone who is “happily” married (according to them)? There are some married people who would be the last ones I would trust for relationship advice. Not that their marriage isn’t successful, but their relationship style and personality is so different from mine, I wouldn’t take any sort of life advice from them. Some people’s world views are just so different from our own and if they give relationship advice, it is very biased (coming from their own experiences and views about love) towards how THEY navigate dating and relationships. Whether or not I disagree with them has nothing to do with whether or not they are married.

    Trust your own insticts and, if you must, take advice from people who know YOU and care about your well being and happiness.

  • http://www.myblackfriendsays.com myblackfriendsays

    What is a “hood engagement”? I looked it up on Urban Dictionary–nada.

  • K

    Forgive my ignorance but what is a hood engagement?

  • K

    What is a hood engagement??

  • http://GrownZone.com Alfred Edmond Jr.

    As Zara Green’s life and business partner, just wanted state for the record that our work with the Grown Zone serves both men and women. Regardless of gender, to create healthy relationships (not limited to just romantic) requires growth beyond adult and messy choices to making Grown Decisions. Thanks to Clutch Mag Online and Demetria Irwin for recognizing Zara!

  • Angel

    I’m SO surprised, blackgirlsareeasy.com didn’t make it! That’s one of the best blogs I’ve came across yet!

  • http://www.nolovedrama.com Nekisha-Michelle

    Wow you must not know about http://www.nolovedrama.com. She speaks from experience and has a Masters degree. *evil grin*

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