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Last year, Sherlita Patton, wife of Outkast’s Big Boi, filed for divorce after  being married for 11 years and 2 children.

In her court documents, Sherlita stated that the 11-year marriage was “irretrievably broken,” and  requested sole custody of their 12-year-old child, their other child is over 18.  She is also seeking child support, spousal support, a split of the marital assets and attorney’s fees.

But it doesn’t look as though this is going to be an easy divorce.

Although Big Boi is fine with paying child support, in his response to her divorce petition, he said their child would be better off with joint physical and legal custody. But he’s also refusing to pay for alimony, saying that Sherlita is young, healthy and well-educated. Basically, he’s saying get a job and get out of his pockets.

But if you’re used to living a certain lifestyle, never made to work, no matter how young, healthy and well-educated you are, is it fair to leave an ex high and dry?  According to Attorney Shauntese Curry-Trye, a Baltimore based divorce attorney, alimony is dependent about several factors. “You have to look at the duration of the marriage, the break down of the marriage, and if you can point the fault of the breakdown of the marriage to the more financially fit spouse, the law will typically make that spouse pay,” Curry-Trye said.

Just like marriages not lasting forever, there’s a common misconception that alimony lasts forever. Depending on the divorce, alimony can last from a few months to a couple of years. Where as child support typically cuts off when the child reaches 18, alimony isn’t dependent upon the former spouses age.

Speaking of child support, another Atlanta rapper’s child support woes are being put on front street. Chris “Ludacris” Bridges is now feeling the heat of the woman he recently had a baby with.  Ludacris was in court this week with Tamika Fuller. Fuller is demanding the rapper to pay her $15k a month to take care of his 2-month-old daughter, Cai.

Ludacris is saying the can’t afford the amount asked because his money from the “Fast and Furious” is on hold, after the death of Paul Walker. According to him, he can only afford $1,800 a month, saying  he only made around $55K for 2013.

In Ludacris’ case, many people are asking why does she need $15k a month for a baby? And to think a box of condoms cost less than $10.00.

Clutchettes, what do you think about alimony? Should it be automatically granted?

  • http://juno Muku

    Pay the child support and she needs to get a job. Welcome to the real world

  • geenababe

    When I was in college we talked about this very topic. I think the length of the marriage should determine if the spouse should be provided alimony and how long the spouse should receive it.

  • MimiLuvs

    “Clutchettes, what do you think about alimony? Should it be automatically granted?”

    Do you want my honest opinion? Or do you want my “fake, P.C.” opinion?

    To me, I believe the topic of alimony can reveal gender-hypocrisy a lot of times.
    I know a lot of women who will state a laundry-list of reasons why a woman should receive alimony. In some cases, a few of them had confused child support with spousal support. But, if you were to ask them if they believe that a man should receive spousal support, the answer will be a resounding “NO!”

  • Samantha

    I don’t think he should have to pay long-term alimony. I think it would be gracious of him if he decided to support her until she was able to get on her feet, but he shouldn’t have to continue to support a lifestyle that she didn’t aid in achieving in the first place. I think divorce should be a way to cut your losses and move on with your life, not an excuse to extort the other party because of circumstance… unless, of course, there’s a pre-nup in place.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    “But, if you were to ask them if they believe that a man should receive spousal support, the answer will be a resounding “NO!””
    MimiLuv, you hit the nail on the head!

  • Jay

    I think that people should begin a marriage with the end in mind. You want it to last, you want to be with this person forever, but the reality is that people change and people are not always who you think they are. So while living and loving your spouse don’t stop working, have your own money and property and cars. I say that while in your marriage you should always be able to take care of yourself and your children emotionally and financial. That means if you split up with your spouse you will be able to pay for housing, car repairs, child care, etc. Save up, have some money on the side piled up so if you end that relationship you will be in a much better financial position. Also, know your rights, know what you and your spouse is entitled to if you do divorce. Get a pre-nup. Begin with the end in mind. Fight for ever after, but plan for the worst just in case…That’s my never married, perpetually single opinion though. Take it with a grain of salt.

  • geenababe

    Kind of like the whole Halle Berry thing when she had to pay.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    If Big Boi’s wife has the capacity to learn or is educated, then spousal support should be temporary. It’s not his responsibility to take care of her forever as if she’s his child. Once she is divorced, it’s her responsibility to stand on her own two feet and provide for herself, as an adult. Maybe as opposed to long term monthly spousal support, she can ask that he pay for her education, provide a paid for home, transportation, and provide for her expenses (necessities) until she receives her degree.

  • http://twillamin.com taeAmin

    Maybe the system should be revised and women get a 3 months severance package out of the deal, just like if you were let go from a job. A good job gets you accustomed to a certain lifestyle but it is no longer the company’s obligation to pay for that lifestyle once you have parted ways. Not equating all marriages to a job but maybe being a stay at home wife and mother is like a career. *shrugs*

  • Ms. Information

    Can’t she get a gig on Atlanta Housewives now?

  • anthony

    Although I do think a woman with skills should support herself. We do not know that she did not help him with his career. She may well have been working, keeping a roof over his head when he was trying to get a recording deal. She may have financed his demos or worked on his road crew back in the day. She may have a claim on some of his money.

  • http://www.trythisinsteadshow.com Cameron

    Yeah, pay up, Big Boi. If you’ve taken eleven years off of working and supported your husband in his creative endeavors for 20 years, you should get a check. She did it right, too! More than ten years, and you get more alimony!

  • Anthony

    I agree that there is generally no sympathy for men who ask for support. That said, I generally support the idea that people of working age should support themselves if they decide they no longer want their spouse. That said, I think that alimony is fair for someone who may not be skilled or who needs some time to establish her or himself.

    As for Ludacris, I don’t have any sympathy. A man who is famous has to know that women who makes themselves available are probably looking for a payday. The smart thing is to be selective about who you sleep with, and even then, wrap up that weiner!

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    Support is a given and goes both ways in a relationship, you can’t put a price on it once the relationship is over.

  • c.j. hudson

    Its unfortunate how selfish these men can be…[in my opinion] I think anytime a woman brings a mans child into this world he should support her for the rest of her life. She bought ur child into this world so why not support her. Call me whatever u want but I think women should be taken care of…..!!

  • MimiLuvs

    “…I think anytime a woman brings a mans child into this world he should support her…”

    Yeah… and this is called “child support”.
    And even child support stops when that child (or children) stops at a certain age.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    @MimiLuvs

    Surely, the commenter meant that in jest!

  • MimiLuvs

    If I remember correctly, she is college educated. In fact, she was in college when she met Big Boi. They met on the set of one of OutKast’s music videos. Big Boi and Andre were already signed to a recording contract by then.

  • http://www.lillian-mae.com Knotty Natural

    @MimiLuvs,

    In that case, spousal support should definitely be temporary! I understand her skill set may have diminished by not using it, but she has the ability to gain a new or updated skill set. If their marriage didn’t last forever, he shouldn’t be required to care for her long term.

  • BeanBean

    15k a month for a two month old? Is the baby formula made from crushed diamonds? He shouldn’t have to pay alimony for an extended period of time. This woman does have the ability to take care of herself. In this case I think alimony should be 2 months max. I’m sure this woman will write a book or have her own show in no time.

  • Mel_P

    I think you have to take into account the dynamic and the length of the marriage. I dont believe alimony should last forever, but if there was a mutual agreement between the two that she would be a housewife and he would be the sole breadwinner, I think it’s a little unreasonable for him to expect for her to have the means to provide for herself all of a sudden. Again I dont believe she should get alimony for the rest of her life but at least allow some time for her to get her life readjusted.

  • Anthony

    @CJ Hudson, if a successful woman decides to leave a faithful husband who fathered and co-parented her kids, does she owe him alimony?

  • Anthony

    Shaking her butt at a strip club is dignified than that show!

  • Incorporated

    15k a month?! She’s CLEARLY trying to embarrass him, herself, and the fact their relationship was the fairy dust Whitney Houston sprinkled on Brandy in Cinderella. Now if she needs help with hospital bills- say that but if NOT, then get your little 1800 for some onesies and chill.

  • Starla

    Big Boi should pay his alimony, being out of the workforce for 11 years is a long time no matter your qualifications. There are people who have work experience coming out of all orifices and they can’t find work, so where will this woman who has been out of the workforce for 11 years immediately find a decent paying wage.

    No baby needs 15k for financial care. However, a child whose parent is wealthy should not be denied the advantages that money bring because the child was created unintentionally. That child should have every access to every advantage that wealth brings, not necessarily as a baby because babies don’t need as much at theta stage, but as the child grows they should have access to every advantage.

  • LaDonna

    I think alimony should be looked at on a case-by-case basis. If a spouse has sacrificed her/his time and resources to help the other spouse become successful or to stay home and raise the family that they created together, then by all means, that spouse deserves some support after a break-up. But sometimes it seems like these spouses (usually wives) of celebrities are spoiled and want to be provided for forever.

    I don’t care if my so-called feminist card gets revoked for saying this, but I think the way alimony is decided in the courts can be very antiquated and unfair to men. For decades now, women have been going to school, acquiring skills, getting degrees, etc… Why should a grown, educated, able-bodied woman need to be supported by her ex? And why should she need to be supported to that degree? It does not cost thousands of dollars a month to raise a child.

    This kind of reminds me of when Kelis and Nas broke up and Kelis was asking for some insane amount of money per month in alimony plus child support. Nevermind that this woman is a successful, platinum-selling artist in her own right, she expected her rapper husband (who hasn’t had a hit since the 90s) to support her like he got Warren Buffet money. That’s just bitter and greedy.

  • binks

    To play devil’s advocate here, I never understood the line “to the lifestyle you are accustomed to…” because if you get a divorce your lifestyle IS GOING TO CHANGE so there is no need to hold onto a lifestyle you are accustomed too if that life is no longer a reality for you. I DO think alimony should be awarded (but as others said it should be a limitation on it) based on the time, length, breakdown/particular role in the marriage and circumstances (I.E. infidelity issues, outside children, abuse, etc.). For example, if someone was a stay at home parent with limited skill and greatly contributed to the family unit well-being of course they are going to need alimony and support to adjust until they can get into a better position and circumstances so that is fair. Yet on the other hand, if someone was just recently married and split like a year or two later, no child is involved, etc. then I don’t think they should be entitled to major spousal support or half of the assets. Personally, I think divorce laws, clauses and policies need to be updated because marriage, divorce and the family unit is not like how it was yesteryear. Besides, too often especially in cases where one party has DEEP pockets the other party treat divorce as a lottery praying for the big cash out. This is why it is so important to have your own and NOT lose yourself in your marriage soley or use marriage as an excuse not to grow

  • Nic

    I think that if Ludacris wanted to pretend he was too poor to pay child support, he shouldn’t have been Instagramming the giant diamond bracelet he got his other girlfriend. Ppl who make $55k don’t buy jewelry like that. So either he has a nest egg that he can pay some child support with, or he needs to return that bracelet to the store.
    And if he is going to step out, take condoms.

  • Nic

    Anthony, don’t get it twisted that alimony and child support are only paid by men. Joan Lunden had to pay her first husband a bundle when they divorced. So did Tonya Pinkins (and he in fact got both of their homes AND child support, using a speech in which she thanked him for his support as proof that he was the primary caregiver for their kids). She wound up broke. Even in the “olden days” Barbara Hutton wound up paying huge settlements to most of her many husbands (except for Cary Grant, who didn’t need her money).

    So I don’t think anyone should be paying until they are broke and homeless, but anyone who marries someone who has a lot less than them should think about a prenup, b/c it can mitigate some of this squabbling over money.

    Heck, I’ve known women who had to pay men what amounted to a pretty nice settlement b/c the women were working while the men were in school for example.

    But I hate to hear people whine as if only men sometimes get financially shafted in divorce. It can happen to anyone who has a lot more money than their mate.

  • Nic

    Yeah, too many women bank on getting a rich spouse to have a certain kind of lifestyle, and forget that at some point he might get tired of you.
    I don’t think he owes it to her to keep her in the lifestyle they shared together. I think perhaps a one time settlement (11 years would qualify as a long term marriage in a commmunity property state, although I don’t think Georgia is one), a house, and child support.
    If she can’t make that work, that’s one her.
    But you can’t expect to get to live a star’s lifestyles if you aren’t the star and the star divorces you.
    That is what is ridiculous. Many women and men who are married to celebrities want to stay in those circles and feel entitled to the money to do it.
    I think the answer is in the middle. But I personally would put the kids’ money in a trust so it doesn’t get blown.

  • GeekMommaRants

    I find it just crazy that while the marriage was happening no one bothered to save for a rainy day. It should be easy to ask ones spouse for an investment for the spouses companies or for a retirement fund. This to me would be the wisest approach. For example, LL Cool J’s wife started a clothing company FUBU they are still together but Ms. LL is wealthy in her own right. Same goes for Tracy Edmonds. Smart people make smart decisions.

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