In an interview with Ryan Seacrest, Jason Derulo dished the details on what led to the split between now ex-girlfriend Jordin Sparks. One important factor that weighed on the couple was the pressure to get married.
He said, “What happened… in a nutshell, there was a lot of tension in the relationship for a lot of different reasons… There was a lot of pressures of marriage. There was a lot of arguing and stuff like that that just weighed on our relationship over time….To be fair, it was not just from her either. It was kind of from everybody. That’s not the sole reason, but it definitely played a part. We think it may have weighed on her more than it weighed on me. Yeah, she got frustrated a lot. She was in that frustrated space a lot and I think part of that was part of my problem.”
It led me to wonder, ‘Do we— family and/or friends included— put too much pressure on ourselves to wed?’
I can vividly recall a conversation with a woman four years my senior. She is an editor at a coveted magazine and in a long-term relationship. She said people would often inquire why haven’t the couple said, “I do” yet, but not once does anyone really inquire about her happiness. I thought that was very interesting.
Often, we see others in what appears to be a happy relationship and project our thoughts on when and how the couple should wed. We rarely ever ask, ‘Hey, are you happy?’ We don’t see how our opinions can cause pressure and frustration leading to tension in the couple’s relationship.
One thing is for sure: It’s not anyone’s decision to determine when you should be ready to wed. What takes one couple two years to decide, may take another five years.
What’s your take Clutchettes? Do we put too much pressure on ourselves, family and/or friends to get married?