This afternoon I received a text message from a coworker-turned-friend. It read, “I HAD to ask you, what are your thoughts on prenups?” I sat there and gathered my thoughts for a second.
As a teenager in high school, I recalled having this conversation with my dad. I remember saying, “It’s like you’re preparing for divorce before you get married.” Now that I am seven years removed from high school, I have a different viewpoint.
I am a daughter of an entrepreneur. My father is the vice president and founder of a company that specializes in aircraft interior repairs and provides aviation technical manpower (if you ever need your private jet fixed you know who to call lol). I’ve spent countless summers learning the business and seeing first-hand how far his blood, sweat and tears have gotten him. I am his only child, which means at some point I’ll have to run the company or at least advise over the person in charge. It was then I realized I am not against prenuptial agreements.
Often we believe we found the love of our lives. Although, this perhaps is true things do happen. People fall out of love, lines are crossed and things get messy. I would hate for my family to lose a business as a result of a messy divorce.
I replied, “I actually don’t have an issue since my dad has a business that he worked so hard for. I think women get too emotional rather than bringing their demands to the table. A prenup is a contract you BOTH have to agree on so if it comes up make sure the contract is of both interests. For example: if you feel like every five years you should receive an incentive then ask for it.”
Her follow up question was, “Hmmm ok and as for the emotional aspect of it? To put simply do you think that puts bad juju on a relationship? Discussing a future divorce with your future husband?”
I responded, “I use to, but as a business person I understand. If a man is wealthy he has to protect his family assets. I don’t think that means he loves you any less or any more.”
Clutchettes, what’s your take on prenups?