Yesterday afternoon I received a text message from a friend inquiring about advice for a friend. Apparently, her friend’s boyfriend of seven years lied about paying the rent for the last five, almost six, months. Though she inquired about bills and other mail, he assured her everything was taken care of. In actuality, everything wasn’t — and he had been hiding everything from her.
Following an eviction notice, she (the girlfriend) went inside the closet to move some of his clothes and that’s where she found the gas bill, Comcast bill, etc.
Instead of paying the rent, he was using the money she gave him to purchase the money order as his monthly personal allowance.
The first question I asked was, “Why?”
My friend responded, “she would always give him her half of the rent because she got paid first.” She continued, “she trusted that he was purchasing the money order like any normal boyfriend would do.”
Personally, there are a few things that without a doubt are grounds for a break up and this is at the top of my list. Though I feel sympathy for the young woman (and I really do), I also think she is slightly responsible for not keeping track of bills (and rent) herself.
More importantly, in my opinion, this shows:
- This man cannot be trusted
- He is financially irresponsible
- Doesn’t care about her safety or well-being or he would have paid the bills to avoid being evicted
In addition, it was also confirmed at some point there was another woman in her house. Who knows what else has transpired without her knowledge.
What’s your take Clutchettes? What should she do?