Steve Harvey hit Chicago last weekend to tape a two-hour TV special for his daytime talk show about “What Men Really Think.”


Apparently, what men really think is kinda terrible.

According to a ChiTown comedian named Tim Dunn, who attended the gathering, things got a little dicey when a couple hundred women joined the group of about 2,000 men.

Dunn detailed what transpired on his Facebook page:

– Over a hundred women were seated onstage, and when they got up to speak they were catcalled. This resulted in the warm-up comic asking the men to stop catcalling, as the vibe in the room had become “too rapey.”

– When women skyped in to ask Steve for advice, their image was displayed on large screens, which men would either catcall or groan at based on the women’s looks. And like, if you looked at the guys groaning, spending a night with any of these women would be the absolute best night of their lives.

– During a segment about how often men want sex, a young man got up and mentioned that he is sometimes too tired from work to have sex with his girlfriend. He was immediately booed and had homophobic epithets yelled at him.

– During the same segment, a woman got up and described a time when she didn’t want to have sex because she had just finished a tiring road trip. In that time, she was first catcalled, then booed, ending with a man yelling “you haven’t done your duty!” in response to her story.

– To end that segment, Steve said it should be the woman’s decision whether or not to have sex. Only the women onstage, the comedians in our row, and a few other men throughout the theater applauded that statement.

Well damn.

Dunn’s account seems to also jive with the story told by two other comedians on Sammy Tamimi’s podcast.

Jordan Sargent of Gawker reports:

All of these stories were echoed on a podcast composed of other local comedians in Chicago, hosted by one named Sammy Tamimi, who tipped me off to this story. On Tamimi’s podcast, Bryan Duff and Tyler Samples describe men in the audience essentially claiming some of the women on-stage—“I call the one in yellow!”—screaming things like “you bitch,” describing a woman who appeared via Skype as a “pump it and dump it,” and yelling “pussy” and homophobic slurs at the aforementioned man who said he was sometimes too tired to have sex.

To be clear, Duff and Samples aren’t exactly heroes here. During the podcast, Duff talks about going to the taping as a character called “Rape Culture” and—as he tells it, unintentionally—inciting the crowd by acting out misogyny while “in character.” In imitating the men in the crowd, they also slip into voices in which they are obviously referring to black men. (That said, photos from the taping make the crowd look relatively diverse.) They also argue that a male member of the on-stage panel was actually in the closet, and went on to parody his effeminate voice.

Nonetheless, both the Facebook and podcast accounts seem to argue that Steve Harvey, in his quest to show “what men really think,” got a little more truth than he might have wanted. Duff and Samples also noted that warm-up comic Rubin Ervin told the crowd it was getting too “rapey,” and say that they saw one woman on-stage try and tug the bottom of her skirt down in response to the catcalls.

Harvey became a “dating expert” after his book Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man hit the New York Times best sellers list.

The two-hour dating special is set to air September 8 and 9 on Harvey’s show, and we really hope it’s not as offensive as these reports let on. Guess we’ll just have to wait and see.

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  • Mary Burrell

    This sounds like some of that Tommy Sotomayor Sargent Willie Pete black woman haterstuffv onn YouTube. When they started acting ignorant why didn’t Steve Harvey shut that mess down? I don’t like him. Glad I didn’t see this crapfest

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      Sotomayor and Sargent Willie Pete are lower than low.

  • Nikki C

    who is surprised by this? Steve Harvey is a fraud and doesn’t deserve an emmy…he is a man who came up by offering unwanted advice to women from a man’s perspective, didn’t he trash his ex wife after he became big??? watch who you salute ladies, this is what happens.

  • G

    As I said last week, no one an I mean no should be shocked . . . . this is what these fine gentlemen (#SarcasmIncarnate) think of us.

    Instead of ride and die, pack and leave!

    Shame on you Steve Harvey, but I feel even more sadness fro the women who will indulge this nonsense!


  • binks

    That is disgusting but not surprising. The best advice the women should have taken when they participated in this mess was to not worry about what men think and just do and be them regardless if they are in a relationship or not. I don’t know how Steve Harvey got his “dating/relationship guru” but it needs to be revoke. As for these men behavior, it is not shocking there are a lot of boys pretending to be men but want to the perks of being a man and being with a woman but don’t know the forest from the trees.

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  • Lucky502

    Please keep in mind that not every Black man is a Brother. Those are the types you have to step over and ignore. There are still Brothers out there who aren’t suffering from Stockholm syndrome, if you know what I mean.