While black women ultimately have to take responsibility for loving and accepting themselves as they are, there’s no denying the longstanding influence lyrics praising slim waists and plump behinds has had on our self-esteem and our decision to go under the knife.
The meme above attests to the phenomena, serving as an apology to Black women for the way in which men’s obsession with an extreme hour-glass figure has literally sent some of us to an early grave after undergoing back alley butt-enhancing procedures.
Wale came across the post on Instagram which he clearly took to heart, deciding to issue his own personal apology, perhaps feeling a little guilty for the way in which he excitedly yelled “Shorty got a big ol’ butt” on his track “Clappers.” He wrote:
I can speak for most of us… I’m sorry if I ever made yall feel like you need to ruin what God gave you..
Some girls say they don’t care what nobody thinks .. I find it difficult to believe that one would alter they body this significantly for them selves ..it must feel like sittin in a stack of phone books when they use the potty . ladies I promise we like yall for bein sexy . But we LOVE yall for being everything else. 💙🌙
It’s a small gesture, but a step in the right direction (minus the phone book crack). Rap music is a dominant pop culture influence and it’s clear the image of the video vixen — once reserved for music videos and rapper’s forearms — has seeped into the mainstream, encouraging everyone from the local librarian to the top bottle girl at the club to try to carve out an unnatural waistline and ridiculously rotund backside to match, even if it means their lives.
Here’s hoping the support, love, and protection goes beyond a meme and hashtag and black men really start to appreciate us as they are.