Yesterday, Kanye West decided to go ham on fellow rapper Wiz Khalifa and threw a few immature jabs at his former muse, Amber Rose even though she wasn’t involved in the pair’s beef.
Rose shut the whole thing down, dropping a few details about West’s alleged sexual proclivities, but apparently the mom and business woman has more to say.
In an op-ed for Time, Rose talked about the shaming she’s experienced since high school because men found her attractive.
“Ever since high school, I’ve been called a slut. All the boys were attracted to me—that wasn’t my fault!” she explained. “Then, when I started getting famous, the shaming got even worse. All these messed up stories came out about me, and I was like, ‘That’s not true! I’m not that kind of girl!’ But even things I had done—things a man would never be judged for—got me lots of hate.”
Since splitting from West, and later, her ex-husband Wiz Khalifa, Rose said the hate she’s encountered has gotten worse.
After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a divorce, I’d go out for a date at a restaurant like any normal single human and people would say, “Man, she’s such a ho. She’s out at restaurants with guys.” Then they would see my ex-husband with a bunch of women. They would say, “He’s the man! That’s so cool.” So when I went on a date, I’m a whore, and when he’s piling girls in a car, he’s the man? There’s something wrong here.
It wasn’t just men saying these types of things. There were a lot of women saying hateful things to me. I was getting torn down constantly. But in the past year, I’ve just started not caring.
People would actually say things like, “Who would ever love you? You were a stripper. Why are you in relationships?” And I used to feel like I had to explain that maybe it was because I’m a good person.
While Rose said she used to internalize people’s criticism, the model said she really started living when she stopped listening to the hate.
What I’ve realized is that, when you care too much, you’re not living at your full potential. When you really stop caring about what people say, that’s when you really start living. It’s such an amazing feeling. It’s about loving who you are, owning who you are and knowing that it’s O.K. to live your life how you want to live it. We’re all human, which means we’re not all perfect. It’s so cool to think that I might help women think about who they want to be and then encourage them to be that person with no remorse. I want to help women just be happy in their own skin.
So please: Before you judge someone—especially another woman—put yourself in her shoes and also look at your past. That’s what a lot of women fail to do. They’re so quick to call another girl names, but it’s like: You know what? There may have been a time where you looked back and said, “I probably shouldn’t have done that.” Does that make you a ho? No, it makes you a human.
We totally agree.