Bitch, bossy, these are just some of the words women have taken ownership of in the past few years and flipped into powerful descriptors of a woman about her business. But when it comes to our romantic lives, maybe it’s time to reclaim another term that often conjures up a negative connotation: jaded.
Jaded is an adjective meaning “tired, bored, or lacking enthusiasm, typically after having had too much of something.” It’s a perfect term to describe how most women feel after kissing one too many frogs and fearing they’ll never find the prince. But instead of looking at jaded as a synonym for bitter, which is how most women who experience one too many f-ck boys and live to tell about it get labeled, what if we embraced jaded in its truest, definitive form?
Tired. Is it not accurate that women are tired of having their time wasted by men with disingenuous intentions? See the #Wastehistime2016 hashtag if you doubt the truth of that.
Wait until ur wedding day & then send him a snap from the airport saying "I catch flights not feelings" #WasteHisTime2016
— ProblemChild (@AlikaArtist) January 7, 2016
text him asking him to bring a condom, then when he brings it.. tell him "it was for my sister, wyd though" #WasteHisTime2016
— maiyoncé (@aaaskmai) January 6, 2016
— lauren (@cryingbctoby) January 7, 2016
let him take u out on constant dates & when he tries to determine the relationship tell him u thought u were just friends #WasteHisTime2016
— mama africa (@thatgirlsalina) January 6, 2016
When he leans in to kiss you, dab. #wastehistime2016 ???
— hadjaaaa (@CamsAlert) January 7, 2016
— no. (@tbhdontknow) January 7, 2016
— RN (@DopeEthiopian) January 6, 2016
Bored. We all make jokes about Netflix & Chill, but when one too many men offer that activity up as a viable date option, women genuinely become bored with the dating scene and prefer to watch Netflix and chill by their damn selves.
Lacking enthusiasm. See description of bored. It’s hard to get excited about a man coming over and pretending he really wants to watch Narcos with you for all of 15 minutes before he tries to have sex.
Come across these types of experience one too many times and there is a high probability of becoming jaded. But instead of jaded being this negative place women should never get to on their quest for love, why can’t women just say, “heck yeah, I’m jaded” and the embarrassment around that fall on the shoulders of men who drove them to that place rather than blaming women for not remaining hopeless romantics after being repeatedly treated like replaceable crap?
Perhaps if more women were honest about being jaded, rather than ashamed, and conveyed that lack of enthusiasm, men would actually step up their efforts and reignite excitement in the opposite sex about being in their presence and establishing enjoyable relationships.
Just a thought.