Amber Amour was staying in a hostel in Cape Town, South Africa when the unthinkable happened: she was raped.
Instead of suffering in silence, Amour, an activist who was in town for the “Stop Rate, Educate” tour, decided to document the entire experience on Instagram.
“It was only a few minutes ago but sometimes these things happen so fast it’s hard to remember all the details,” Amour wrote on the photo sharing site before detailing the entire ordeal.
I’ve been sick for the past 2 days and today was my first day out. I went back to my old hostel to leave a note for a friend, Nick. There was another guy there, Shakir, who was desperately trying to get with me. I kissed him once but he seemed drunk so I told him it was bad timing, I had already met someone. Before heading out, I went upstairs to say hi to one more friend, Clyde from the states. Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said “stop!” but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that’s when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fucked up feelings that we get after rape…shame, disgust, suffering. I’m here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feeling sicker than ever now. Needless today, I’m going to disappear for a bit. Just need to enjoy the freaking sun and call my friends and family in the states. Love you guys. Thank you for always being there for me. All the more reason to continue @stoprapeeducate but not today. Today, I need rest. #StopRapeEducate
After her initial post about the incident, Amour documented the entire process, from having a rape kit done to sharing updates about her alleged attacker’s arrest nearly a month later.
Though many offered Amour words of encouragement, others took the victim-blaming route, questioning why she’d put herself in such a vulnerable position in the first place.
Amour, however, i undaunted by the criticism and maintains–rightly–that women should not be raped, no matter what.
“No matter what a person does, it is not an invitation for rape,’ she wrote on Instagram. “It doesn’t matter if I kissed him. It doesn’t matter if he was drunk. It doesn’t matter if I said yes to a shower.”
She added: “I never said he could get violent with me. I never said he could make me bleed. I never said he could rape me. But still, that’s how the scene went down.”