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Without A Trace

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“I’ve had girls before where I just, you know, disappeared. I know, it’s bogus. But I just stopped calling, stopped returning her calls. Just ended all contact without a word.” I wish I could have been more disgusted when one of my homeboys shared this...

I’ve Never Seen…

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Pop culture references are so often the great connector between people who don’t otherwise know each other. We may be from different parts of the country, but we’ve all seen the “Single Ladies” dance and can recall the Gordon Gartrell episode of The Cosby Show.  But...

In My Mind

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I’ve built emotional monuments to men in their absence. And while I’d like to be ashamed over that, I know I’m not alone. I’ve seen my girlfriends and their girlfriends do it. I’ve seen it done in movies. We’ve allowed men who aren’t really that...

Pull Up Your Pants and Let’s Dance

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There has been much ado about young Black men and their taste for sagging jeans; from the criticism of our elders to the various jurisdictions across the country that have gone so far as to put laws in place that ticket people for ‘indecent exposure’,...

After The Lust Is Gone

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The average sexually active adult can name at least two previous partners that came before their current one. That means that each and every day, we are out functioning in the world alongside someone who knows what we look like in the throes of passion...

That Old Thing Back

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You and your former flame have been peacefully split for quite a while. You’re still single and casually meeting others. Or, perhaps you’ve found someone new to keep you warm at night. Either way, you’re feeling just fine…until you get that phone call. “I miss...