Tami Winfrey's Recent Articles

Sisters, I See You Sparkling

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I woke up this morning and needed to say this. Black women are amazing—not because of our race or gender, but because of our humanity. And it is our humanity that is routinely ignored. Society would rather debate why more of us are not married...

Being Selfish: Having Control and Being Selfish With Our Bodies

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There is nothing selfish about self care. Yes, numerous ads for spas and fancy lotions and rich chocolates make it seem that doing for self is an indulgence — some sort of naughtiness. It isn’t. In fact, for women especially –disproportionately charged with being the...

The Lie of Inherent Black Dysfunction

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Over the weekend, President Obama took time out of addressing graduates at the celebrated, historically-black, all-male, private college, Morehouse, to remind about black men who make bad choices, chalking up failures to The Man and myriad other excuses. “We know that too many young men in our...

Program Helps Girls of Color Celebrate their “Fly”

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“We live in a culture that says girls can’t be smart and beautiful. They have to choose one or the other and only as they get older do they work to claim their full sense of self. I say let’s start that process younger,” says...

Have You Considered Womanism?

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I am a proud feminist. A black feminist. Oh, I’ve had my moments when, fed up with racial tensions within the movement, I’ve threatened to flounce. But in the end, I refuse to abandon an ideology I think is a foundation of equality and a...

Marriage is Like Kitchenware and It Doesn’t Matter What Men Want.

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Last Sunday afternoon found me on my knees, waist deep in the corner cupboard of my kitchen, looking for the damned lid for my favorite saucepan. Here it is! … no, too big … finally! … mmm, no—steamer top … aha! … God, I don’t...