Tasha's Recent Articles

In Defense of Fat

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There is a widespread belief in Western culture that it is necessary to police the health of every fat person. Judgments are made about the state of the inside of fat bodies based on the appearance of the outside of their bodies. Most people don’t...

Why ‘You Complete Me’ is Bullshit and How I Learned to Complete Myself

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It’s a common belief that there’s someone out there just for you, and when you find him or her, you’ll find the person that makes you whole. I held that belief my entire life, and I searched fruitlessly and desperately for years for someone who...

Is Sexual Fidelity the Most Important Part of a Relationship? Thoughts on Non-monogamy

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Recently a new sex partner asked for my advice on how to deal with three women he was “seeing,” each of whom was interested in having a monogamous relationship with him. Being as how we had just had “no strings attached” sex, I asked him...

No Fat Chicks: Navigating the Dating World as a Fat Girl

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Thick, curvy, voluptuous—nah. I’m a proud fat Black chick with no hangups about my size, and I have the nerve to expect a romantic interest to be comfortable with it. I learned a long time ago that I needed to love myself before anyone else...