dating

Why “Come Over and Chill” is Not an Appropriate First (or Second…or Third) Date

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So Mr. Handsome (you know, the one from this story) passed the tests of eligible bachelorism and has asked you out on your first date in…God knows how long. As the conversation proceeds, and your head is filled with images of an intimate candlelit dinner...

10 Responses to “Can You Cook?” That’ll Shut Him Down for Good

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So you meet Mr. Handsome, and you’re getting to know each other. That includes all the getting-to-know-you questions: “What do you do?” “Where are you from?” “Where’d you go to school?” “What’s your credit score?” (Ha! But, no, really…) Then comes, “So… Can you cook?”...

To the Guy Who Expressed His Love for Non-Black Women and Others Like Him

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About a month ago, I was on the tele with a male acquaintance. We were having a lighthearted discussion about dating, joking back and forth about why each other’s gender was to blame for all love woes. Then, he paused to make a serious point...

4 Things You Probably Won’t Learn from Your Parents When it Comes to Today’s Relationships

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We’ve all heard the “back in my day” statements from parental units that start off a lecture on how nowadays we’re doing it all wrong. When it comes to love and relationships, they swear that they did it better. And they might have a point....

Dreams Do Come True — So Be Specific

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My spirituality is based heavily on the idea of energy, chemistry, and interconnectedness. I believe that what you think and feel is pushed out into the universe and subsequently repackaged in the form of either positive or negative outcomes. In popular culture, there’s the vague...