XOJane

Interracial Dating Horror Stories: When Racist White Men Date Women of Color

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It was a dark and stormy night—not that K could tell, considering she was three shots of vodka deep into her Saturday night and dancing with reckless abandon to Top 40 music at a college party. Everything was going well: her hair looked great, she...

I Spent Years Writing About White Women and Upholding Eurocentric Beauty Standards, Now I’m Trying to Unthink White as ‘Default’

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It’s just an incredibly strange feeling to recognize that your existence is simply a category tab.   It’s a regular weekday afternoon and I’m about submit some fashion or beauty story about some it-trend. The article itself is complete, all that’s missing are some images....

30 Things Not To Say To Your Only Black Friend

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Yep, like many others I am many a person’s only black friend, first “exotic” sexual experience, and justification for writing a lengthy racist Facebook status Recently a friend texted me out of the blue, “What do you think about the Confederate flag?” Girl. There were...

I Was Miss Black Michigan 2014, and No, Black Pageants Aren’t “Racist”

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These pageants cultivate sisterhood, social and political consciousness, and the scholastic accomplishments of various ethnicities of women throughout the African diaspora. I am a pageant girl. No, I am not the typical blonde, blue-eyed bombshell, beauty queen one may imagine competing in the Miss America...

After the Death of Sandra Bland, I am Fighting to Find My Place in the Revolution

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We find ourselves at the bubbling of a polite genocide, one that is upheld with genteel, liberal observation. Every time an image of Sandy Bland — who was found dead in a Texas jail cell last week, after her arrest following a traffic stop —...

Does My Headwrap Bother You?

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I asked myself this question because I am black. Because I’ve been told all my life that I have to make sure I make the right impression when I step out into the world. Recently, I began interning at a progressive, eloquent but totally chill...