From Black Voices — Women, beware. Yes, men are lovely. They are cute and cuddly and make ya feel good, but there are some you might need to toss back, because come the reckoning, you’re going to wish you could return them.

Here are the top 10 men to avoid.

1. FAMILY MATTERS

The issue: The first relationship we experience in life is the one with our parents and families. If those relationships are tattered and torn, you can assume he will be the same with you. A man who “can’t stand his mom” or “doesn’t eff with his brother” is a no-go situation. If he can’t make it work with the people he supposedly loves the most, what makes you think he’s ever gonna fundamentally get what love means or truly respect the relationships that come along with it (i.e., you)?

The solution: Get him into therapy, stat. You cannot replace his family, so don’t try. Getting help to understand his anger for his loved ones just might help him love you the right way.

2. EMOTICON GUY

The issue: I don’t trust men who use emoticons. It’s just weird. And men who use exclamation points excessively make me nervous. Like they’re always yelling at you!!!

The solution: Start answering his texts in ALL CAPS AND WHEN HE ASKS WHY YOU’RE YELLING AT HIM, TELL HIM YOU’RE JUST RETURNING THE FAVOR. ;)

3. LOAN HAWK

The issue: He borrows money from you constantly. I don’t mean a few bucks here or there; I’m talking regularly asking you for bread. I have had friends who were all but funding their boyfriend’s entire lives (rent included). You can’t convince me there’s a man out there who enjoys asking his girl for money, so if he does it without any objection, than you probably want to go ahead and rip up the money tree in your backyard.

The solution: Don’t give it to him and if you do, make him pay you back – with interest.

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  • boho.barbie

    lol @men who use exclamation points excessively make me nervous…ANGER MANAGEMENT!!

  • Great list, but I’d like to add a caveat to the first one: Family issues may often be a red flag, but if it’s early in the relationship, you may not have uncovered the reason for the issues (ie: He says he can’t stand his mom, it’s not necessarily indicative of him not ever being able to love and treat you right IF it so happens that his mother was an alcoholic or drug addict who made his life miserable growing up.

    • ALIG83

      That is what I was thinking, Tanya. I am a woman who grew up with a emotionally and verbally abusive mother and my family isn’t close, so it isn’t likely for me to introduce people to my family because I don’t share much of my life with them.