The other day one of my Twitter friends mentioned an interesting stat. According to last year’s Essence Magazine sex survey, “71% of Black men would be disappointed if you didn’t reach an orgasm.”
Immediately, I questioned the validity of that astonishingly high number. And I wasn’t alone. Jo Nubian, my Twitter pal, soon tweeted, “Side eyes that poll…” My thoughts exactly.
Based strictly on unscientific evidence—conversations with other women and anecdotes—I wondered how many of those 71% REALLY knew (or actually, REALLY cared) if their partner reached orgasm.
While I do not doubt that most men want the women they’re with to get there, I question the “why.”
I think men (and I could be wrong, so brothas…please chime in) want women to orgasm, not solely because they want to please their partners, but because of what it says about their own sexual abilities. They want to think they’re “putting in work,” as one man on Twitter commented. But I wonder how many of us MAKE men think they’re “putting in work,” when we’re really not being fulfilled at all.
What do you think Clutchettes…have you ever faked an orgasm?