A few months ago I was talking with one of my girls about relationships. Although she loved her man (and he loved her), she had broken it off after three years because he wasn’t meeting her emotional needs. Despite getting along fine, rarely arguing, and always enjoying each other’s company, his main focus just seemed to be elsewhere. And while she was ok with being number two or three on his list of priorities, she didn’t want to be at the bottom. In the end, she felt like their relationship was not progressing (toward marriage and a family), so she ended it. Even though they loved each other, it wasn’t enough to sustain them through their mismatched goals.

On the other hand, I’ve heard from couples that love is the only thing that kept them together through tough times.

For instance, after a another friend’s husband cheated on her, it was their love (and commitment) that kept them together. When I asked her why she stayed with her husband, she told me that at the end of the day, even though he had betrayed her, she still loved him and was willing to work it out. When she initially found out about his affair, however,  she thought she’d never be able to forgive and forget. But love (and a good marriage counselor) helped her put his past mistakes behind them—and according to her, their relationship is stronger than ever.

So, as I struggle with a relationship dilemma of my own, I am left wondering…is love REALLY enough to conquer all?

What say you, Clutchettes and Gents?

 

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  • Jazz

    I agree with Chaunece, it’s love and a combination of work that sustains relationships.

  • Love is most certainly not enough. I think we can agree that we love far more people in our lifetimes (romantic and platonic) than are meant to be in our lives for the long haul. People come and go and it’s meant to be that way. Oftentimes love is what helps hold us together when we’d rather drop it and bail, but it will not keep us together, SOLELY, without desire, commitment and work from BOTH parties. Lopsided love is really no kind of love at all. And sometimes we’re best to love one another from a distance.