Picture this. You meet someone you really like, you vibe like nobody’s business, you get each other’s quirky jokes, and he (or she) makes you smile from the inside out. When you’re together nothing else in the world seems to matter, and when you’re apart…your mind constantly wanders to him.
As the dates progress, the talk, and actions, quickly get more and more sensual—a rubbed thigh, a well-placed hand, suggestive conversations. Both of you know it’s coming…but before you hit the sheets, the talk turns to past lovers.
“So how many people have you been with?”
The question that can sometimes make or break a budding relationship.
While it shouldn’t matter how many partners you’ve had (as long as you’ve practiced safe sex & know your status), most of the time it does.
If your number is considered “too high” by your potential lover, it could derail the love thang y’all got going on. However, if your number is “too low” by their standards, they may feel like you’re too inexperienced, or worse, lying.
So what’s a girl to do?
When you’re getting to know someone you think could be your boo, do you share the real count of your past lovers or do you fudge the numbers to make yourself look better in their eyes?
Let’s talk about it!