I started thinking about this after I watched the reunion for “Basketball Wives: Miami.” I consider myself to be a positive person that doesn’t support stereotypical nonsense. I rather see something that is uplifting than something that will have minority women looked at in a negative light. On the contrary, I got sucked into the latest season of “Basketball Wives: Miami” and dubbed it as my “guilty pleasure.”

I never watched any of the earlier seasons of the show, but after all the hype that it generated I became intrigued. I thought to myself that it couldn’t be as bad or outrageous as people were saying. I watched one episode and I was hooked. It was almost like a horrible crash was happening in front of me and I couldn’t turn away. I didn’t dare tell anyone or post updates about the show on my FB or Twitter like some of my other friends did because I knew this show went against everything I stood for as a woman. I would watch, laugh and get disgusted. I would reason I had to see how bad it was for myself because I never wanted to admit I actually enjoyed the show.

I realized that shows like these get ratings from all types of people. Those who love it and those who are against it. Does it make me any less positive because I viewed the show? I don’t believe so, but others may differ. I know that I myself wouldn’t behave in the way the women acted and that a large part of the reason that people watch it is because they can’t believe what they are seeing before their eyes. Yet still, it did plague me more and more and I decided to not watch the new season or any other reality shows that displayed women or minorities negatively.

Everyone has a guilty pleasure whether it’s reality (trash) TV or another bad habit that you know you should break. If this “guilty pleasure” doesn’t consume you and you can definitely go without it, then I don’t believe those who know you will say that it defines you as an entire person. It can be seen as simply entertainment. I had to make my own conclusion that although it could be entertaining, I didn’t want to contribute to another season. I have known women who acted the same way the women did on that show and since I never supported it in real life, I don’t think I should support it on TV where people are paid to make sure the most negative aspects of each woman is exploited to the fullest.

What do you think? Does a guilty pleasure define a person?

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  • African Mami

    It can, if you let it. If food is your guilty pleasure, guess what it can turn out to be a career of eating!

  • I think any one who judges someone for what they watch on tv are hypocrites and need to be judged themselves. I’m a VERY positive and EDUCATED young woman and yes… I watch these shows… they are MY guilty pleasure. I watch them ALL and have been watching them for years. I take them for what they are… ENTERTAINMENT, and thats it! Point.Blank.Period. #JudgeMeIfYouMust I could give a damn…

    If you have to sit down and over-analyze EVERYTHING and criticize Everything, be all Anti-Everything and suck all the FUN out of EVERYTHING… you need a life! (and possibly a good lay…) #IMO Lollll

  • Toni Childs

    I had to stop watching it, because I found myself getting angry afterwards. Seeing people act stupid is very upsetting – especially when you think they should know better. I found myself wishing I could slap them.

    • I totally agree! I watched one episode of BBA LA and I decided that is was so not worth my time. I say more power to these ladies for finding ways to get a check but trust and believe they won’t be on my dvr.

  • The Comment

    I watched it cause it was the only show that featured sexy black women in a sexy city, wearing the latest designers labels. Plus Gay Al was hooking Jen up w/a date. GAY AL!!!! I had to watch.

  • yeah sureeee….have a guilty pleasure. but dont you dare complain about black women being portrayed negatively when you’re the one supporting these shows and helping them to continue. i see people who watch these shows as just as bad as the ones IN the show cause they’re the ones who are pretty much saying that its okay and its “entertaining” so what reason do film companies have to have anything positive and non stereotypical if thats all black people wanna support?

    • okthen

      Yup!