Nia Long is already a proud mother of her 10-year-old son, Massai Jr., and is expecting her second baby with boyfriend Ime Udoka this fall. The actress recalls when her dream of having a baby in her 40s was consistently shut down by her doctors. She tells Ebony that she was told she may never be able to have another child, but she had faith that she would conceive again.
“I honestly asked God for this.”
“I remember I was driving home from the doctor, and I called Ime, and I was like, ‘Babe, I’m really kind of sad right now … the doctor actually said if I wanted to have more children, it would be hard.’”
“The next time [Ime] came to visit, he said, ‘I don’t believe that.’ I said, ‘You don’t?’ He said, ‘No.’ And I said, ‘Good, me neither,’” she recalls. “Then I got pregnant.”
She is over-joyed about the little bundle of love growing inside of her and she offered this advice to unmarried women in their 40s who want to have children:
“The medical [profession] tries to tell every woman, ‘Have your babies before 40 because you shouldn’t have children after 40,’” she says. “Society tells us, ‘Get married before 30, because no man wants a woman after 30.’”
“You are not half the woman you’re gonna be until you turn 30. You’re not even half of that woman yet,” Long explains. “So I think if we’d just take our time as women, and do what comes natural to us and for us, we would make fewer mistakes.”
Congrats to Nia on her little miracle. What do you think about her advice?