I’m conflicted about this one, Clutchettes.

Although I’ve consistently advocated for a man’s right/need/want to express himself emotionally, this video of a Twitter user by the name of @Big_Jamaal gives me pause.

While I think men need a safe space to express their emotions because too many of them default to anger–the emotion we (society) allow them to safely emit–I’m a little embarrassed for this dude.

I’m embarrassed for Big Jamaal NOT because of what he’s saying, but because of his methods. Apparently, he messed up with his girl and instead of calling her or showing up at her house, he sent her a video pouring out his heart *cue Drake’s music.*

Well, predictibly, things didn’t go according to plan. After the two got into it via Twitter, and things got really, really bad, Whitney, his ex, posted the video of Jamaal pouring out his heart.

Because nothing on the internet is private, the video made its way to the site WorldStarHipHop and all hell broke loose. Big Jamaal became a trending topic, was labeled as a “simp,” and the tweets started flying.

To be clear, I don’t think Jamaal is a “simp” for pouring out his feelings, but I do think he went about it all wrong (also…apparently he’s a twitter bully, so…#Ironic?).

Whenever things like this happen, I always look for the lesson. For me, a major lesson that can be learned from all of this is to keep your private life private. I’ve said it before, and I’ll continue to say it. DO NOT PUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON TWITTER. Period. When things are great, folks Tweet happy thoughts and feelings, but boy when they go bad…you end up being called a “simp” and half of Negro Twitter is clowin’. No bueno.

As we increasingly live more of our lives online, I’m sure situations like this will continue to repeat themselves, but Clutchettes and Gents…do not let this happen to you. Keep your private business private, don’t put out negative energy, and if you did your partner wrong, apologize in person.

What do you think? What else can we learn from the Big Jamaal debacle? 

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  • Martha Viewart

    The Video & the Det’s U have abt his Ex Whitney, are only 1/3 of the Whole Story… (I was OL b4 it hit WSHH)

    Firstly, Jamaal was/is a cocky, Gold-Digging, Two(-toTen)-Timing, Jiggolo who was USING the Girl @WhitneyNO_Crack… & was putting on his pitiful act in the video… To get back with Her Money!! Saying – Yeah I acted like that b/c she paid for EVERYTHING (pre WSHH).. He was acting tuff & disrespectful toward her, the usual “Chick mad cuz I left her” comments, when she finally told he to chill or else she wld post a vid… to which he cockily replied, Do it… Narrated himself waiting, Tweeting, “Gets Capri Sun, & waits for this chick to post video””.. & then little did he know the vid he taunted her to post wld go viral! (Karma according to Bully Jamaal witnesses) He is kinda bi-polar, b/c on one hand he was All “Playa-Playa” Disrespectful & on the other Tweeting bible verses in btwn ! (Shruggs)

    He then tweeted: 1). Nah, My name aint trending. 2). Every Tweet in my TimeLine is abt me… is this life 3). No, Im not on WORLDSTAR HIP HOP!.. this is going to far!

    Ive never witnessed anything like it & it made my night (insomniac hr). & I felt bad for all the folks who missed it & all the women scorned. It tickled me in particular b/c I once dumped a cheating ex On the Radio… on the Wendy Williams show at that so everyone was listening (in my area) but Jamaal was put on Blast Nationally! 10 points for the Women Scorned. (Me & that ex r still friends & laugh abt it now) Again… Jamaal was putting on an act for the girls $ #LessonLearned

  • Martha Viewart

    The Video & the Det’s U have abt his Ex Whitney, are only 1/3 of the Whole Story… (I was OL b4 it hit WSHH)

    Firstly, Jamaal was/is a cocky, Gold-Digging, Two(-toTen)-Timing, Jiggolo who was USING the Girl @WhitneyNO_Crack… & was putting on his pitiful act in the video… To get back with Her Money!! Saying – Yeah I acted like that b/c she paid for EVERYTHING (pre WSHH).. He was acting tuff & disrespectful toward her, the usual “Chick mad cuz I left her” comments, when she finally told he to chill or else she wld post a vid… to which he cockily replied, Do it… Narrated himself waiting, Tweeting, “Gets Capri Sun, & waits for this chick to post video””.. & then little did he know the vid he taunted her to post wld go viral! (Karma according to Bully Jamaal witnesses) He is kinda bi-polar, b/c on one hand he was All “Playa-Playa” Disrespectful & on the other Tweeting bible verses in btwn ! (Shruggs)

    He then tweeted: 1). Nah, My name aint trending. 2). Every Tweet in my TimeLine is abt me… is this life 3). No, Im not on WORLDSTAR HIP HOP!.. this is going to far!

    Ive never witnessed anything like it & it made my night (insomniac hr). & I felt bad for all the folks who missed it & all the women scorned. It tickled me in particular b/c I once dumped a cheating ex On the Radio… on the Wendy Williams show at that so everyone was listening (in my area) but Jamaal was put on Blast Nationally! 10 points for the Women Scorned. (Me & that ex r still friends & laugh abt it now) Again… Jamaal was putting on an act for the girls $ #LessonLearned

    (& now all the other girls he bragged he had to hurt her know his m.o.. too)

  • Thizzle

    If any of you know about Big Jamaal’s twitter bullying ways, you’d know why this video is so infamous. He’s not just some random guy pouring his heart out to a girl he loved, he’s an asshole that slipped up & now that the tables turned on him he deleted his twitter page.