The dating world, with its many twists and turns, can be a scary place. Just trying to figure out the ‘rules’ and moves that will lead to the happily ever after we all dream of can make you want to hide under the covers. In my opinion, no part of dating is scarier than when you have to introduce that special someone to the family. I don’t know about anyone else, but I have a real life version of My Big Fat Greek Wedding: The West Indian Edition going on, which is why they will most likely never meet anyone. Ever. I’m a private person and don’t take well to people in my business, if it were up to me, I’d just send an email announcement with a photo attached and skip the pleasantries. But of course, this is not how the real world works and at some point I’ll have to mentally prepare myself for the day when I bring someone home…or at least do a drive by.
I’ve heard horror stories from friends whose families tried or actually succeeded in driving significant others away with their questioning and not so thinly veiled threats on their lives. Stories about first time meetings that almost came to blows after disagreements over schools attended, financial situations, politics and even sports. One of my friends can’t bring her boyfriend over to her parents house anymore after an argument broke out because he respectfully refused to answer questions he thought were too personal and this was four years ago! I also know parents of friends who refuse to meet other halves because well, they’ve met more than their share and only want to meet the one who has put a ring on it.
It all just makes me hesitant about one day doing my own meet and greet. I get that these people’s experiences don’t necessarily have to be my own, but I know my own family can be just as intrusive and headstrong so there is a possibility I’ll have my own horror story to tell. I want the person I’m with to be and feel like a part of my family, I just wish there was a way to do it without the moment turning into an uncomfortable CIA interrogation with old school Jerry Springer highlights. You think grandma will be okay with speaking to her future grandson-in-law via Skype? Sigh.
How do you handle introducing you special someone to family? How soon is too soon for the family to meet someone you’re dating?