Ahhh the teenage years. Hormones in bloom and bodies in heat. While many of us might encourage our children to wait until marriage before having sex, the reality is, like some of us, many of them won’t. After the safe sex and pregnancy speeches have been given, there’s another issue many of us don’t even consider…where exactly are they going to be having sex? What do you do if your teenager wants to have sex at home? Do you let him or her do it under your roof? Or do you forbid it? If you allow it, are you promoting promiscuity? If you forbid it, are you driving your kids to have sex in a car, at a party or in some other unsavory public place? Doesn’t that make sex both more dangerous and enticing?
ABC’s Elisabeth Hasselbeck discussed this very topic last year on an ABC segment called “Teen Sex At Home: ‘Staying Safe’ In The Room Next Door.” The results showed a nation of parents confused and divided. Some parents are opposed to the idea of teens having sex at home for religious reasons. Sex before marriage is wrong, never mind teen sex, so the idea of where it takes place is a moot point. Others believe it endorses the wrong message, particularly for a girl who can be labeled a slut and ruin her reputation. Other parents prefer that their teens have sex in the home because it’s a less risky and more natural way to develop a healthy sense of sexuality. No one could agree on a simple yes or no.
I’m sure most of us can agree that when it came to this issue our parents had their feet planted firmly on the hell no side, even as adults most of us probably would still have to sleep in separate rooms with our other half unless we were married. However the reality is whether you agree or not if teens want to have sex, they’ll find a place to have it. Think about the lengths you went to as a teen to have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Think about all the backseats, rooftops and friend’s houses you had sex in because you weren’t allowed to have sex at home. Would being allowed to have made a difference in your sexual behaviors at the time? Or would it have made them worse?
Would you allow teen sex in your home?