All the single ladies, we pose the following question: Have you found that as you increase in age, you have lowered your standards in your quest for Mr. Right?
On one hand, it’s entirely possible that during your earlier years, the standards you set were a little too unrealistic, i.e. looking for more of a fictional romantic character rather than a “real” man. On the other, maybe after several years of unsuccessful dating, you’ve decided to settle down with the most tolerable fella you can find, rather than be on your own. You may even try to deviate from the norm and get to know a guy from a whole new category. All is fair in love and war, as they say, and taking risks is par for the course. However, trying “something new” shouldn’t mean abandoning your values, We’ve all slipped up from time to time in this department, but you really know you’ve dropped your romantic standards when you:
- Start eyeing up fellas who you would’ve been repulsed by five years ago. We’re talking unattractive, bad bodies, bad personality, bad breath – basically anything that would’ve caused you to shudder at the thought of getting intimate with the guy.
- Date a man with a multitude of children sprinkled about your metropolitan area, each with a different mother. You really know you’re in a bad way when you remain with this fellow, knowing he slacks on his child support payments, to boot.
- Take in a broke-ass. He’s not just struggling, or recently laid off – he’s the man with grave financial issues. This is a cat who is bankrupt, makes really, really bad fiscal choices, and has chronic difficulties when it comes to keeping more than 3 figures in his bank account at any given point and time.
- Make excuses for your crazy boyfriend rather than just accept that the brotha has serious issues that require acute professional attention. This may be a man that you would’ve warned your friends to kick to the curb due to his emotional instability at one point. Now you’re holding on to this nut-job with a king-fu grip, for fear of flying solo.
- If you constantly have to make the following disclaimer “I know he can be a jerk sometimes but…” please consider the fact that unless you always liked vulgar hostile dudes, you may be settling for a guy so roguish, no one else wants him. This behavior can present itself in many forms, but verbal, emotional and/or physical abuse is never acceptable, no matter how long it’s been since you’ve had the pleasure of male company. Besides, REAL men don’t abuse women, period.
These, Clutchettes, are just a handful of signs that your desperation to attain an amorous relationship has resulted in you lowering your expectations, and your own self-worth in the process. Allow yourself to set (and enforce) realistic prospects, and you stand to meet Mr. Right-eous, instead of Mr. Right Now.