Since our last attempt at playing a game here at Clutch was pretty successful, we though we’d try it again. This time, we’re taking a crack at Would You Rather? Who doesn’t love an opportunity to make fun, thought-provoking hypothetical decisions and then explain their rationale to their friends? Would You Rather? is a cool way to open the lines of dialogue about issues you may have already pondered but never had an occasion to discuss or to contemplate situations you’ve never considered.

Here’s how this will work. I’ll provide you with five either/or scenarios, and you’ll make a choice between them and post your choice in the comments. Be sure to include your reasons for choosing the way you did. Try to avoid answers like, “neither” or “both.” Readers are welcome to post up their own either/or scenarios, so that we can keep the conversation going.

Without further ado, I give you Clutch’s first game of Would You Rather?

1. Would you rather date:
a. an arrogant man with an equal or higher level of education, who earns significantly more than you do; or
b. a blue-collar man who earns equal or less than you do, but is also supportive, kind, and secure?

2. Would you rather live:
a. in a gentrified neighborhood you barely recognize as a once-historically black community; or
b. a neighborhood that has remained predominantly black but has become less safe in the past 5-10 years?

3. Would you rather have:
a. a large group of close friends with whom you only get to interact online; or
b. one close friend with whom you get to spend countless hours in person?

4. Would you rather live:
a. overseas in any country of your choice; or
b. in America, in any state of your choice, but with the caveat that you can never travel outside the country?

5. At the age of 38 years old or older, would you rather decide to:
a. have a child via artificial insemination and raise him/her as a single parent; or
b. keep waiting to find a suitable partner to marry and accept that you may not be able to have biological children?

 Your turn! Answer as many of the Would You Rather questions as you’d like and don’t forget to explain your reasons. Also, be sure to add in either/or scenarios that interest you. 

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  • 3. I would rather have one close friend with whom I get to spend countless hours in person. There is NOTHING like having one person know you so well that they can read your thoughts/emotions simply by the look on your face/eyes.

    4. I would rather live overseas in any country of my choice…that is actually part of my future plan.

    5. At the age of 38 years old or older, I would rather decide to keep waiting to find a suitable partner to marry and accept that I may not be able to have biological children. This response may be biased as I am a single mother and would give my left foot to have had the support of a partner and a father that loved and cherished my girls as society tells us a father should.

  • SDL

    1. Blue collar. Receiving love makes it so much easier to give it. Status means nothing to me if there’s no love involved.

    3. One close friend. My experience is that women are not to be trusted, even so-called “friends” get out of pocket. I prefer meaningful relationships where you can count on someone, not where I can be “unfriended” at the click of a button.

    5. I’ll wait. I want my kids to be created from love. Call me old-fashioned but there’s something so beautiful about a loving family. I don’t want to have kids simply to satisfy a selfish desire.

  • Humanista

    1. a blue-collar man who earns equal or less than you do, but is also supportive, kind, and secure? >>>>Obviously. Money/status cannot buy happiness, but love ad support definitely can!

    2. in a gentrified neighborhood you barely recognize as a once-historically black community>>>> UNLESS *less safe* meant still livable. While I hate the idea of gentrification, I wouldn’t live anywhere to be with any particular race. I’m more concerned about the safety of me and mine.

    3. one close friend with whom you get to spend countless hours in person?

    4. overseas in any country of your choice

    5. keep waiting to find a suitable partner to marry and accept that you may not be able to have biological children? >>>> I think being able to raise children along with a supportive, truly involved in-house co-parent would be amazing; the other option seems too impersonal and lonely

  • 1. Would you rather date: I’d rather date the arrogant man. I can be arrogant too. I always had/have this vision in my mind of my man being the bread winner. I don’t mind a little arrogance as long as there is competence to back it up. I’m in love with success.
    2. Would you rather live: In a gentrified community, but not one that is too bougie for me to afford. I’d easily leave my hood to live in a gentrified community in Brooklyn. There’s so much more that I want to do, so much more that I want to see, and my neighborhood in Southern CT doesn’t offer it. The downtown area that is highly gentrified because of Yale University, is where me and my friends spend a lot of time. I love my city but there’s a lot of ratchetness that I like to avoid.

    3. Would you rather have: A large group of close friends, if I had to choose one. I get tired of people sometimes. I would be a little annoyed if we could only interact online. Psh. But, as we get older we create lives for ourselves outside of our friendships. As long as we get to see each other a few times a year I’ll be good.

    4. Would you rather live: I’ve never left the country. I generally like America despite all of the wretchedness and destruction. I’d pick a New York City Brownstone in Brooklyn. There’s a little bit of everything there.

    5. I would adopt before artificial insemination. I’d love to have a family with adopted kids.