A few years ago, one of my best friends and I had a falling out. At the time I was head-over-heels in love with a guy who—in retrospect—wasn’t the best for me, and my friend just couldn’t stand to see me mistreated. So she cut me loose.
Losing my friend, my ace, the other half of the “Killer Bs” was a serious blow. For so long it was she and I. When you saw one of us, you saw the other, and if one of us showed up to an event, you’d think we were both there. But after months of trying to convince me to drop my dude and choose my own well-being, she decided to let me go.
I understood her decision to dip out on me, but I always hoped that one day we’d reconnect. Thankfully we were able to piece our relationship back together, but many former friends aren’t so lucky.
Last week, a Facebook pal posed a question about breaking up wit her friend. Apparently, she’d had it with her girl’s foolishness and wanted to put an end to their long and often one-sided friendship. But what she didn’t want to do was have that uncomfortable break-up talk. She just planned to let their interactions fade until they extinguished completely. Although this approach is less prone to angry blow outs, it leaves room for way too many loose ends and hurt feelings. The abandoned friend might end up feeling, well, abandoned and wondering why they’ve been cut loose.
While some friendships do indeed flame out over time, others come crashing to a dramatic halt. Case in point, Jay-Z and Dame Dash.
Jay and Dame were boys for years, building a rap empire and allowing each other to shine in their respective arenas. But while Dame seemed to take every one of Jigga’s moves personally, working hard to make his boy a musical success, Mr. Carter seemed to keep his eye on the long game: ruling the business world.
As they were grinding, Jay was cool with Dame ruling the boardroom like a madman, so long as his immense hustle propelled the duo to the top. But when Jigga realized he could do it all on his own, Dame’s trademark outbursts became a liability and he had to go.
While I don’t know exactly why the pair fell out, watching their demise was a bit painful. Two very close friends, who overnight seemed to be dead to one another, is not an easy thing to watch. But unfortunately, it happens all the time.
From Evelyn and Jen to Jay and Dame…what happens when best friends break up? Is it better to move on without looking back, or sometimes can the relationship be saved?
Have you ever broken up with a friend? Speak on it folks!