With all the bad publicity floating around about VH1’s “Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta,” it’s great to see Eve use her association with the cast as a teachable moment for young women. Eve was romantically involved with producer Stevie J., resident villain on “Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta,” during the earlier part of her career, and there were rumors of a sex tape.

Now that Stevie J. has gained reality fame, their past affair is getting renewed media attention. Eve opened up about their relationship during an “Intimate Hour” she hosted for high school girls in Philadelphia, where she’s from. Via Necole Bitchie:

On if Stevie J was her first love:
Yes, Stevie J was my first love.

On how she defines the “love” between her and Stevie back then:
You know what? That was a learning experience. You meet people all the time. We just happened to fall in love. Umm, but thankfully I knew better, I know better, I am happily in love now. And the girl now (referring to herself) he couldn’t even see this. I would be like, “I’m sorry, we don’t speak the same language!” But you know, it is what it is…. That’s life. Sometimes you meet people who aren’t great for you, but thankfully I am in a different place.

On things she would not put up with now that she is older and knows better:
When I was younger I didn’t question things, but now I am annoying! Like, if something doesn’t feel right speak up! If you feel like you are being lied to, speak up! If you feel like sexually he is trying to push you too fast, speak up. And let me tell you something. Anybody who knows you’re worth it will stick around. They might not talk to you about it, but if they argue with you or if they call you a name or if they roll out, they are not meant to be in your life anyways….

I commend Eve for speaking out about her experience and showing girls there’s a life after men like Stevie J. Her revelation was not bitter, but it showed true growth and maturity. Moreover, she used the opportunity to teach girls to speak up for themselves. Too many women settle for abuse and mistreatment for fear of losing their partner, and Eve encouraged these women to do the exact opposite.

If only she could talk to the “Love & Hip Hop: Atlanta” cast since as journalist Lola Ogunnaike tweeted last night:

When I interviewed Eve for the cover of Honey years ago she was dating Steebie J. Now she’s with a British millionaire. Move on, Mimi!

Exactly.

 

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  • @ChristaMylife

    Good for her. She really does sound like she moved on, and is not holding on to any resentment.

  • Nef

    As my mother says, “if you live long enough you will have a story to tell of heartache, betrayal etc.” It’s how we learn, grow and let go that matters. We must do the work of self-evaluation to identify the part we played in any/all relationships in order to be better person for the next relationship.

    I applaud Eve for sharing her experience with young women. I hope Mimi, Erica, and the rest of the cast of LHHA really see themselves and realize that they are worthy of much better.

  • NewLook

    I could not agree more with your post!