“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive” –Audre Lorde
Who are you?
That question continuously comes up throughout our lives. From job interviews to those moments when we’re alone with ourselves, figuring out exactly who we are is one of the most important (and sometimes most difficult) parts of life.
While others will certainly try to label you with what they think you are, if those definitions don’t fall in line with who you feel you are, or who you want to be, don’t embrace them.
Many of us have been told lots of negative things about who we are — fat, bossy, pushy, too strong, unloveable — but that doesn’t mean we are any of those things. At any moment you have the power to rewrite your story, start fresh, and be whatever you want.
Although it sounds awkward, I love that line in Kanye’s song “I Wonder” when he reminds us: “You can still be who you wish you is.”
Who are you, Clutchettes?