People say that everyone has their breaking point. Whether it’s when they realize it’s time to leave a dead-end job, relationship, or severing ties with friendships that have run their course. When people are ready to break free, they break. And sometimes they break hard. Such is the case of one of my closest girlfriends.

My friend is well-educated, holds a PhD in Psychology and is even a member of Mensa, so she’s not short on intellect. She’s definitely one of smartest women I know. After one bad relationship after another, she’s given up on men completely and has now decided to seek companionship in women. She said it wasn’t an easy decision to make, but she doesn’t think she has anything to lose. When she told me revelation, I can’t say I was shocked. All I could say to her was to find whatever it is that makes you happy and go for it. I asked her if this means she now considers herself a lesbian, and she said no. Not even bisexual, she said. She’s just testing the waters. Well, whatever floats your boat.

Every one has had their fair share of bad relationships; I definitely know I’ve had. Is there a breaking point where you just give up on the opposite sex? Albert Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Could this also apply to heterosexual relationships? According to my friend, she got tired of the same outcome of the relationships she’s had with men. She’s tried to approach the relationships with men from every possible angle. Nothing seemed to fall into place and it was driving her crazy. Every one has their version of something new, hers just happens to be a same-sex relationship.

I would hope that she understands the same issues that come up in heterosexual relationships can rear t ugly head in homosexual relationships as well. Although my relationships with men weren’t always the greatest, they’ve never pushed me into the arms of another woman. Who knows what the future has in store with my friend and her venture into dating women, but I do hope she eventually finds what she’s looking for.

Do you think some women get fed up with men, that they figure why not date a woman?

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  • A bisexual friend once said this to me. “I’m attracted to women above the waist, and men below the waist.”

    I think that’s the thing that people don’t understand about bisexuality. You can be sexually attracted to one gender, and emotionally attracted to another. Maybe she’ll be more compatible with women she just never went there.

  • Starla

    You have made some valid points. But one does wonder why someone with intense studies and expertise in Psychology keeps picking losers.

    Blame must be placed where the blame lies. If a man has been married and divorced multiple times I would not blame the wives, I would question what is the problem with that man. This is not about the gender, just about the party involved who happens to be female.

  • Furious Styles

    There is so much information missing here. What KIND of men does she keep failing with? What are her failures as she defines them? What has she tried already? What was the last straw and why is she choosing to switch teams NOW? What outcome is she hoping to get from women? It’s almost as if she might just have a flat tire, but is choosing to buy an entire new vehicle instead.

    I tend to not like articles like this because it gives us just enough to react to but not enough to truly understand and discuss what’s going on.

  • We’ve all had our issues with relationships, but instead of saying that she’s done with men and onto women, maybe she should look at the men she’s attracting and what she’s putting out there. Who’s to say that she won’t have these same issues when she dates women, then where will she run to next?

  • camille

    I’m wondering if people see all the entreaties for this woman to not “switch sides” for what it is: plain and simple homophobia. Everyone is physically bisexual (blindfolded, in the dark), so the issue is not one of sexual satisfaction. Let’s not pretend that Black men are on their game. If she chooses to explore different options for partners, why does that mean that she is somehow damaged? Too many Black women have a blind loyalty for Black men that they simply do not have for us. If it weren’t for the machismo factor the may date within their sex as well. Instead, they choose women of different races. Are you accusing them of being damaged? I would argue that they are more so

    • Zan

      I honestly don’t think so…the majority of the commenters here are basically wanting this woman to be TRUE TO HERSELF and realize WHY she is wanting to “switch sides”…to see that the grass isn’t always greener, especially when you’re going into things for the wrong reasons. The woman is not going for women because she’s attracted to them, she’s going to women because she feels she has no other alternative. THAT is the problem.