When Clutch contributor Demetria Lucas wrote that black women should just marry each other as a solution to the Single Black Woman crisis, it was in satire. But loving other women as a last resort is a real issue for some, according to Jada Pinkett-Smith.
The actress vented on her Facebook page about 40+ women who are looking to the same-sex for companionship and love, after failed heterosexual relationships.
Before I begin…I want to make one thing clear. It’s important that you know that I believe love comes in ALL forms. I believe a person should love WHOMEVER…HOWEVER they choose. But…I do have a question.
In the last month, three women, in their 40s, coming out of long-term relationships with men have confided in me that they now feel that their last resort for companionship is that with a woman. These are women who have never engaged in or even desired to be in intimate relationships with other women. Now these women feel as though they have no other option. It seems as if there is a spike in same-sex love all around. What is changing in which how men and women are relating to one another, that is creating same-sex love as a LAST RESORT for heterosexual women?
The responses are as passionate and thought-provoking as you’d expect:
One commenter said: “Simply put.. Love is genderless….it’s not so much that it’s a last resort but ratherwhenall else have failed..explore something new…right or wrong is for God to decide…not you or I!”
Another wrote: “Straight women who seek women because they are running from men will NOT find what they desire in WOMAN. The truth is, bisexuality is very rare but women playing games pretending they are “bisexual” is on the rise. A true lesbian will run from a woman claiming to be bisexual. What you can find is two straight women running from men who find each other and can deal with each other on that level. Let me be clear… those women are NOT lesbians! Here is the problem these women have: They select the wrong men because they have not learned the difference between good men versus males who have never developed into good men. Solution: Start selecting and welcoming the right men into your lives.”
Yet another said: “Their only option, BS, This doesn’t make sense to me. A relationship is a relationship whether it’s heterosexual or same sex. The same issues these women had/have with men can still arise in their lesbian relationship.”