I’m currently going through a breakup. My days consist of dragging myself out of bed, eating chocolate, watching “Girlfriends” reruns and sympathizing with Joan, avoiding any and all pictures/movies/songs that might remind me of my ex-boyfriend and vacillating between crying uncontrollably and fighting back tears. You know, the normal stuff.
Along the way, I’ve read a couple of articles about “the best way to cope with a breakup” which make the case for not beating yourself up for mistakes and keeping busy. I’ve taken heed to my grandmother’s wise advice that getting over breakups takes time, and I’ve invited a couple friends over to talk about something, anything, besides men. They’re kind enough to check on me regularly.
While I’m pushing myself through the pain, the one lingering issue I can’t get over is that I miss him. And secretly, deep down, I suspect, if given the chance, I’d be happy and willing to rekindle our romance, even with the arguments, passive agressive jabs and neglect I complained about when we were together.
As it turns out, there’s a professional way to try and eradicate this feeling, and I’m not just talking about staining the pillows on your therapist’s couch with tears. Today, it was reported that Rihanna is checking herself into love rehab to get over her feelings for Chris Brown.
Whether these rumors are the work of an imaginative gossip columnist or the God’s honest truth, I still find the concept fascinating. According to Jezebel:
Rihanna is allegedly taking some time off from her Diamonds World Tour to check into a women’s sex and love addiction program at Centers for Relationship and Sexual Recovery (CRSR) on Recovery Ranch, a Tennessee facility.
A source says that she made the decision because she’s been pining for Chris Brown: “Rihanna is still desperately in love with Chris. It’s like she’s obsessed with him and, although he’s told her it’s over, she just can’t get over him. After talking it through with a psychotherapist, Rihanna is now considering doing a 12-step programme to get rid of her demons.”
A bit about the program, which is run like a standard substance abuse clinic. “The Ranch’s ‘Women’s Love and Sex Addiction Treatment Program’ helps women with issues with ”attracting troubled, addicted, abusive or otherwise emotionally unavailable partners” using treatments as varied as counseling and equine therapy.”
I have so many questions. Are there programs really successful in helping you get absolve all the feelings you have for an ex? Can you truly treat love and toxic relationships like a substance abuse problem? What do horses have to do with anything?
As skeptical as I am, I say more power to Rihanna for actively seeking out ways to better her emotional health. And at this point, I’m open to anything that doesn’t involve chocolate and sitcom reruns.
Would you ever give love rehab a try? What’s the best way to cope with a breakup?