Single Moms are a polarizing figure in our society. Some honor and praise them for shouldering the responsibility of raising kids on their own while others try to siphon off the blame for the breakdown of the nuclear family structure onto single Moms. One of the gripes some have with single mothers is that they baby their sons instead of raising them to become responsible adults that one day can be great fathers.
The “Oprah’s Lifeclass” episode about fatherless sons is sparking passionate discussion around absent fathers and single mothers. Essence Music Festival speakers Iyanla Vanzant and Dr. Perry discussed the issue on air. Perry said “Because you raise a Mama’s boy, you got baby’s daddies now,” and Vanzant emphatically agreed, saying “A Mama’s Boy becomes a Baby’s daddy.”
“What happens,” Perry explained, “is so many mothers are allowing these grown man to come back into their homes without their children. You can’t let this man come in there like he doesn’t have children. Push this person out there and make him take care of his children. Otherwise, you can’t come to my house.”
Are black mothers stunting their sons’ growth by babying them? Are mothers the reason men are becoming baby daddies who shirk their parental responsibilities? Can a man become a mature, responsible father if his mom continues to baby him? What do you think, Clutchettes and Gents?