It must be really hard out here for men. Dating tons of women, shelling out $200* (search $200 dates on Twitter for a good laugh) for each date, but actually wanting the woman to pay but feeling too guilty about taking money from a woman.
Woe is him. Woe is him.
Ladies, listen up. Men are tired of footing the bill on your $200 dates. Man up and pay the bill for once.
Actually, I’m just joking. Don’t get all keyboard angry, well, not just yet.
According to a new study (there’s a new study everyday, folks) led by the research of psychologist David Frederick of Chapman University in California, two out of three men think women should help pay for a date, although most feel guilty about accepting their money. Out of those numbers, 76% of men felt bad about taking money from their dates.
Who are these men? Where can I find them? Because I’ve never noticed any guilt when I’ve paid for a date, but never once was I not thanked for the gesture. Personally, if I ask someone out, I don’t expect the man to pay. But not all women are the same.
From the New York Daily News:
Eighty-four percent of men, and 58% of women, reported that men pay for most dating expenses, even after they’ve been going steady for a while.
Fifty-seven percent of women claimed they had offered to pay for a date — although 39% confessed they hoped the man would reject their offer to chip in.
In any event, over time, the vast majority of participants, both male and female, said they shared dating expenses in the first six months of seeing someone exclusively.
Frederick, whose previous research has focused on body image, said the study was motivated by a desire “to understand why some gendered practices are more resistant to change than others.”
Dating is hard enough nowadays, there shouldn’t be an extra added amount of stress when it comes to who’s footing the bill. Maybe my next date, I’ll bring a bagged dinner, some boxed wine and call it a day.
*For clarification purposes, I only used $200 as an example of the ridiculousness that goes into some ‘dates’ these days. My best date was $25.