Would you change a part of yourself for your partner? Joy Bryant did for a man, and she believed it was a reflection of her love for him. She recently spoke with The Conversation about her new husband, Dave Pope, and revealed that she sacrificed some part of her identity for prior relationships.
She said via Necole Bitchie:
“When I look back…you say that I didn’t attach myself to a guy but I did! If I really liked you, if I had to shave off who I was, a piece of who I was to make you feel better, I’d do it. Because I love you. You know what I mean? If I had to dumb myself down to make you feel better about who you are, I’d do it because I love you.
Once I became ‘cool to date,’ that’s been my entire life until I met my husband. I’ve had awesome affairs and I’ve had relationships and stuff like that. Sometimes it wasn’t so crazy and sometimes it was crazy. If I detected that there was something about me that didn’t really fit the puzzle all the way or whatever, I’ll drop it.”
Some women feel sacrificing themselves or dumbing down their intelligence is too grave a price to pay for companionship. Do you agree, Clutchettes? Or is changing yourself par for the course in a relationship? Discuss.
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