This week’s “His Side” to last week’s post on the Richie Incognito & Jonathan Martin fiasco: http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2013/11/she-said-man-down/
I’m 6’3” and 305 lbs. Outside of wrestling one semester in high school (hated the unitard) I have never played organized scholastic sports. However, I have played in countless pick up basketball games and ill-advised touch football games that always end with poked eyes, missing teeth and fingers going the wrong way. I’ve had some gross things yelled at me for missing layups or losing boards out-of-bounds. Things I would never repeat or want said in the presence of small children or animals. And these comments were uttered by friends! I have no clue exactly what happened in the Dolphins locker room, but I’m sure it was at least as bad as that. Nor do I think it’s something that can be resolved with a fine or an apology before a crowd of reporters. Mr. Incognito definitely needs to seek some professional help. The strange racial and scatological vitriol he spewed at Mr. Martin clearly comes from an ugly place. Unfortunately, that sort of behavior is acceptable in a sports context and that’s not going to change anytime soon.
The other part of the equation is that Mr. Martin was also out-of-order. I don’t subscribe to the notion that he should have hit the guy over the head or otherwise become physical with him; but, he should have followed the appropriate chain of command and went to the coaching staff versus the media. Maybe as a privileged kid of lawyers his ability to handle social problems may be influenced differently. So called hazing or bullying will continue in sports locker rooms, neighborhoods, and schools everywhere because it’s considered a right of passage or an awkward display of machismo- versus a cry for help.
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