I’m Groupon and Living Social fanatic. I’ve purchased gym memberships, dinners, trips, tattoo work and found my current aesthetician because of a Groupon deal. In this economy, a deal is a deal and some can’t be passed up. But are deals ok for dates?
On a recent post for The Root, Demetria Lucas was asked the following question:
“A guy asked me out for a first date. We went to a nice restaurant. All was well until the bill came. He pulled out a two-for-one Groupon and told me that I could cover the tip. My girls say dump him immediately. I’m not opposed to using coupons or saving money, but well into a relationship, not the first date. What would you do in this situation?” —K.I.
Hey, personally, I don’t see anything wrong with pulling out a Groupon on a date, whether it’s the first or twenty-first, but apparently it’s not a good look. Lucas writes:
If he’d given you a heads up to say, “Hey, there’s a restaurant I really want to try that I saw on Groupon. Would you like to go?” I’d think that was fine. But just to whip one out at the end of the night? It reads as cheap and, worse, tacky. As if that weren’t enough, he’s asked you to reach into your pocketbook to pay the tip on a date on which he asked you. That’s doubly tacky.
It he wasn’t able or willing to pay for the full price of an expensive meal and gratuity, I would have preferred that he select a place where he could afford the full price of dinner or at the very least told you that he wanted you to pitch in to cover your portion. There were a few options available to him that could have made for a less awkward situation, and he elected not to use them.
A couple of years ago I was involved with planning a first date. The guy asked me what I wanted to do, and I mentioned that I had a Groupon for white water rafting, there was a bit of silence on the other end of the phone, but then he asked about Groupons and how they worked. I explained to him the process and he actually thought it was a cool idea. We used a Groupon for white water rafting, and he actually bought another one for our 4 course dinner. Was it a sign that either one of us were cheap? I didn’t think so. Could it be considered unconventional? Sure, but the date turned out to be a great one.