Candace Cameron recently made waves with the release of her book, Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose. In one chapter, Cameron, who played DJ Tanner on the 90s sitcom Full House, said that despite not being a “passive” woman, she decided to submit to her husband, former pro hockey player Valeri Bure.
My husband is a natural-born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work. … I submit to his leadership.
In an interview with the Huffington Post Live, Cameron explained that she’s adopted the philosophy of “meekness, not weakness,” when dealing with her husband. She argued that “it is very difficult to have two heads of authority” in any situation, and admitted that even if she knows her husband is making the wrong choice she still allows him to have the final say.
Cameron, who is an evangelical Christian, says the idea to submit comes from her faith in God. But many Christian women are crying foul.
Sarah Bessey, author of the book Jesus Feminist, said: “The idea that, as a wife, I would need to ‘become passive’ or smaller or somehow less in order to make my marriage work is damaging and wrong,” she wrote in a blog post. Unlike Cameron, Bessey believes in “mutual submission.” She explains, I submit to my husband. And he submits to me, too. And together, we submit to Jesus. … Not only is the idea that wives alone are to submit to their husbands poor exegesis, it is damaging.”